The life of "plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold" needs to endure hardships, and the success of "the heavens will descend on the people who will be greatly entrusted with their hearts and minds, and they will first suffer their hearts and bones".
There are also countless parents who firmly believe that if they can't eat the pain of learning, they must eat the hardships of life.
Hard-working education is the most popular way of education for parents, and according to statistics, the vast majority of parents think that this is "greatly beneficial" to their children. It is true that education is necessary in any era, but many times, it is just the wishful thinking and self-motivation of parents.
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A few days ago, a father took a hard-working education for his school-weary daughter and landed on the hot search.
The 11-year-old child is in a period of rebellion, not only talking back to the teacher but also refusing to read, the parents take advantage of the hot sun to deliberately take her to the river to dig the lotus tip, so that she can experience labor.
Under the scorching sun, the children sunbathed for 4 hours, and their faces were sunburned and peeled. Her parents said that they had to endure the pain, "it's all for her own good."
Below the news, there are tens of thousands of comments, and the vast majority of people approve of the father's approach.
Hardship education is the most common way of education, many people will not feel that there is a problem, but is this really the case?
Afterwards, the father in the news was satisfied with the results of his education and said that his daughter was willing to learn.
Dig a lotus root, the problem of children's boredom is successfully solved? In fact, the main reason why this child did not want to go to school, her father did not know at all, the reason why she and the teacher talked back, no one wanted to understand.
In Lisa's view, this experiential hardship education in the name of "good for you" did not solve the problem from the root, but only the parents' self-motivation and self-hypnosis.
It is said that "pain makes people grow", in fact, this is only one aspect, there is also a kind of pain that is not good for life, it will only increase the torture.
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A good hard-working education can make children sharpen their will and increase perseverance in the process.
For example, Guo Jingjing, "1 yuan hair circle rich wife", often takes children to work in the field, experiences that food is not easy to come by, teaches children to learn to save at the same time, but also teaches children to respect crops.
And bad hardship education, except for torturing people, has no meaning. Wang Xiaobo once recalled eating "remembrance of bittersweet rice", the staff will deliberately make the rice to the extent that pigs are not willing to eat, it is right to eat it, then what benefits will be produced in the end? All staff have gastrointestinal discomfort and mental pain.
At a time when living conditions are getting better and better, physical suffering is becoming less and less, and many parents are keen to artificially create suffering in order not to let their children "pamper themselves".
In Shenyang, Liaoning Province, a mother took her 8-year-old daughter, who did not want to study, to pick up the rags, and the child was reluctant to do anything.
Previously, some mothers even punished their children to pick up noodles in swill buckets because their children did not take the initiative to learn.
There is so much news like this. Children suffer hardships, as if they are close to success, which is the idea of many parents.
Can children really improve their mental outlook and refresh their minds? Wrong guidance, excessive stress, will only make people collapse.
Remember that 12-year-old girl who wanted to take her own life? Parents called the police to say their daughter was missing, and she disappeared after school after leaving a letter that read, "I don't want to live." When the police found the little girl, she was wandering and crying on the side of the road, because her parents arranged a large number of off-campus cram schools, and under pressure, she had the idea of being bored with school.
Guo Degang educates his son, and what he implements is the education of hardship, "If you suffer all the grievances you deserve at home, you will go to society in the future, so that you will not be easily defeated by setbacks" "You scolded him enough, and he will know the benefits when he is older."
Guo Qilin was fortunate to withstand this pressure, after all, there are still many people around him who care for him, but when it comes to his father's education, he is still full of grievances after he becomes an adult.
Obviously, the imposed hardship education does not make people mentally strong, nor does it make people feel happy.
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Our educational environment has always instilled in us the study of suffering, and only by suffering can we become superior, and suffering is the best means to temper our will.
Therefore, hardship education seems natural.
Lisa also has a lot of parents, if the child is bored with school, their first reaction is "let him go out to work for a few days and want to study", if the teenager mixes days, there will always be someone to suggest "let him go to the soldier to suffer a little".
Suffering is beneficial, and the prerequisite is that it varies from time to time and from person to person.
Successful people like to reminisce about their hard-working past, in order to lament the hard-won success. Outsiders often only see the element of suffering, ignoring other factors such as time and place.
Compared with creating conditions to make children suffer, creating conditions to encourage children to play a better role, in the final analysis, or parents are not willing to do it, too lazy to do it.