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For every family, the education of the child is a top priority. However, for children, learning is a boring and very painful thing, and it is even likely that there will be boredom, which makes many parents very headache. So, what should I do if my child is bored with school, and how to avoid my child from having a school aversion?
What are the reasons for school boredom?
1. The psychological development of adolescent students is immature and they cannot cope well with the double pressure from school and family.
2. Adolescents' learning goals are not clear, and they lack motivation to learn. Over time, it is easy to develop aversion to school.
3. The child's boredom with school may be due to psychological diseases such as partial depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder. These problems are often ignored by parents, because only pay attention to the child's academic performance and aggravate the child's psychological pressure, forcing the child to be bored with school, resulting in a tired psychology, adolescents are in a critical period of physical and psychological growth and development, if the psychological disorder can not be relieved in time, it will directly affect the child's physical and mental health development.
What are the symptoms of children who are bored with school?
1. After being frustrated in learning, cite a large number of frustrated partners, show that they are the same as others, not the worst, in order to get rid of the psychological pressure caused by frustration, in fact, this is a wrong way of socialization comparison, in order to shirk responsibility and relieve psychological pressure.
2. During class, I am often absent-minded, looking east and west, sloppy after class homework or copying each other, sometimes even not completed, and the grades continue to slide. Today's teenagers are facing the high pressure of test-taking education, the threat of campus promotion rate, and serious psychological burdens, and they cannot enjoy any learning pleasure at all, facing only endless homework and endless cram classes, as for hobbies, they don't have to think about it.
What are the main harms of boredom
First, boredom seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, the formation of a vicious circle affects interpersonal relationships
School-weary children have poor academic performance, are easily discriminated against by teachers and classmates, and are more likely to give up on themselves and simply mix with their partners who have common encounters. Some even have a sense of revenge, and there will be acts such as rebellion, pranks, and bullying weak students, which will seriously affect their normal interpersonal interactions.
Third, it is easy to give up on self-abandonment and lose self-confidence
It is usually not that children who are bored with school do not want to study well, but lack the confidence to learn, and poor academic performance makes them lose confidence even more. Severe cases can drop out of school because of this, but the effect of school aversion on these children is far more than that. Setbacks in learning can create serious psychological shadows. As adults, these children often lack self-confidence and are even more frustrated in love and relationships.
Fourth, it creates psychological shadows and affects physical and mental growth
At present, the boredom of secondary school students has become a common phenomenon, and many parents have only a decline in their academic performance. Deep psychological counselors said that in fact, the problem of children's boredom will not only cause a decline in academic performance, but also affect the learning of other students, cause a bad atmosphere to the society, and seriously directly cause depression, anxiety, depression, dizziness, insomnia and other diseases, affecting physical and mental growth, so parents must pay enough attention.
If your child also has if your child is also bored with school, addicted to the Internet, early love, rebellious, inferior... and other phenomena, after multiple attempts are ineffective, you may wish to find a professional to help.
So, what should children do if they are bored with school, and how can parents fundamentally solve the problem of children's boredom?
1. Encourage and support children
The reason why children are bored with school is largely because their efforts have not received corresponding results, so they lose confidence and no longer have enthusiasm for learning. Therefore, parents should often encourage their children, cultivate their children's confidence in learning, and help children correct their learning attitudes, so as to stimulate their enthusiasm for learning and eliminate their children's boredom.
2. Let children feel the joy of learning
Fun is the nature of children, parents suppress the child's natural behavior will naturally cause children's disgust, if you can let children feel fun in learning, you can naturally eliminate children's boredom. Therefore, parents can have fun and teach, adopt diversified learning forms, let children get happiness in learning, and guide children to fall in love with learning.
3. Do not force children to learn
Parents always hope that their children can become talented, which will force their children to learn, but this is easy to cause children's disgust and lead to children's boredom. Therefore, parents should not force their children to learn, but should cultivate their children's good learning habits and let their children consciously take the initiative to learn.
4. Parents should accompany their children more
In fact, the needs of children are actually very simple, just hope that parents can accompany themselves for a day, but in today's society, many children can not get the company of their parents, even if it is a short day, so parents who have the opportunity must accompany their children more. With the company of parents, children will not embark on the wrong path.
In fact, this is also a problem that parents basically encounter now. Kids are better than anything for parents. Therefore, the child's fatigue problem must be properly guided. Only under the right guidance can children get rid of the dilemma of fatigue as soon as possible.
That's the article I brought to you today. If parents feel that it is helpful to their children's growth process, please forward it to friends who also need help, and we will escort the child's growth together.
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