Originality, depth, style | Mr. Tang
In ancient times, people's thinking was relatively feudal, obeying the superiority of men and women, three from four virtues, the most obvious is that if the woman marries into the man, the child must follow the man's surname, and even bring the man's surname. Although the current society is not as feudal as it used to be, people have long been accustomed to the child's surname with the father, and even sometimes, if the child follows the mother's surname, then the man will feel very faceless, and the two may cause quarrels between them.
The child follows the mother's surname, which causes conflicts in the family.
I consulted a mother who was very literate, including her husband, who was also a high-ranking intellectual, so both of them were able to accept new things, and when they were in love, they said that if two children had children in the future, one of the children could follow the mother's surname.
Originally, the two had already discussed very well, but when it came time to actually implement it, there was a contradiction, and the mother-in-law was unwilling, and went to her house to make a big fuss, and said to the mother very angrily: "Why should our children follow your surname?" ”
This mother is very aggrieved, and explained the situation to her in-laws, she feels that this is a very normal thing, everyone should accept new things, rather than immersed in the past, and their sex is actually very good, why can't children follow their surname?
But the mother did not argue with her in-laws, but only whispered to her in-laws that the children only followed their surnames, but were always their own grandchildren.
But what I did not expect was that the in-laws were not only unhappy, but also decided not to recognize the child who followed the mother's surname, and even threatened that if the child followed the mother, then the future property could not be left to the child. This mother is very aggrieved, so a family conflict because of the surname broke out, and now every time the mother takes the child to the in-laws' house, the in-laws are cold and very unwelcome.
Seeing that there are many friends here will definitely feel a little angry, after all, people in the new era think that surnames still have to pursue freedom, whether it is to follow the mother's surname or follow the father's surname, as long as the meaning is better.
Of course, there are also some friends who think that children should still follow the father's surname, after all, since ancient times, it is the father's surname that has been more than the last name of the children in the family.
Therefore, in order to avoid family quarrels due to sexual affairs, the best practice is for the two sides to discuss with each other who the surname should be with, so as to avoid the contradictions in the family because of the surname.
There are also many in life, mothers want their children's surname to follow themselves, some mothers think that their surname is more unique, if the child can follow themselves, then the child's surname will also sound more unique.
But the man's family will feel that if the surname follows the woman, it is equivalent to the child belonging to the woman, in fact, in the end, it is his own heart that cannot pass the hurdle.
In fact, you can discuss between the two families, the surname is more appropriate with whom, if following the mother's surname is more meaningful, then the suggestion is that you can follow the mother, if it is more meaningful to follow the father, then you can follow the male surname, if it is with which one is nothing special, then it is recommended to follow the father's surname, after all, if there is nothing special, follow the father's surname is the norm.
So which of the mother's surnames is better?
First of all, the first one is the surname "Wei"
The big people related to this surname, the first thing that comes to mind is Wei Zifu, an empress who has made great contributions to the Great Han, this surname is very rare in our country, but it is not only easy to read, but it also has a special meaning, so it is very meaningful, and it is a good decision for children to follow the mother's surname.
The second is the surname "Chu"
Like the Wei surname, the Chu surname also has a special meaning, it is a very atmospheric surname, so whether it is a boy or a girl, it is easier to use the Chu surname.
Moreover, in ancient times, there were also many talents in the Chu kingdom, and if the child used the Chu surname, it was equivalent to the wish and blessing of the child to become a talent in the future.
The third is "Ouyang"
I have seen a lot of Ouyang surname, this surname sounds good, and feels very cultural, will make people feel that this surname is more unique.
If the child uses this surname, it is also more atmospheric, it is easier to read, and it can make people impressed, and remember the person's name at once.
The above three surnames are relatively good surnames, if the child's mother is these three surnames, you may wish to consider it, let the child follow the mother's surname, this does not mean that the child follows the mother has nothing to do with the man's family, in fact, it is only a surname, the child's blood relationship with the father can not be broken.
At this point, many families have not seen it clearly, and if these meaningful surnames can be passed down, then it is also a cultural inheritance and exchange, and it can also be regarded as a small contribution.