Hold on and you win

01

Li Shutong said: "Don't be extravagant when you are proud, and don't be depressed and confused when you are frustrated." ”

Life has ups and downs, frustration for a while, triumph for a while, between gain and loss, is life.

It is true that the stronger a person's endurance, the more he can rise from adversity, because he will not be depressed by a momentary frustration, nor will he be exaggerated because of pride.

The important thing is that you will find that those who can endure everything can act along with the ups and downs of life, just like the moon, round and missing, missing and round, going with nature, moving with the camera.

To endure is to retreat, to be ashamed and then to be brave; to be unable to bear it is to find a way to live, to be born of sorrow.

In this life, if you endure, you win.

02

Resist the grievances, Taoguang cultivate obscurity.

The ancients believed: "Masculine is easy to bend, soft ke ke gang." ”

If a person is always brave, then he will do impulsive things when he is frustrated. A competitive personality will push itself into a dead corner.

Being a person is flexible, able to flex and stretch, in order to allow yourself to continue to grow and create new opportunities when you retreat.

During the Warring States period, Wang Qi was proficient in the art of war, was highly valued by the King of Qin, and led a large army to destroy the three kingdoms of Han, Zhao and Wei in one fell swoop, with outstanding merit.

One day, the King of Qin asked, "If you want to destroy the Chu Kingdom, how many people do you need to send?" ”

Wang Qi said, "We want an army of six hundred thousand." ”

Another young general, Li Xin, said: "With 200,000 is enough." ”

Suddenly, some people in the DPRK laughed at Wang Qi, who was older and less courageous, and was not as motivated as a young man.

When Li Xin led the army to the Chu Kingdom, Wang Qi said that he was sick and went back to his hometown to recuperate. For those who laughed at him, they did not pay any attention to him and avoided all kinds of troubles.

One host once said, "If fate gives me a low, I won't grieve, I'll think of it as a place to rise." ”

When a person is not ambitious, do not be strong, but to read with your head down and think seriously. Think of yourself as a reservoir, quietly let the source of living water gush in, and one day it will be full.

Even very famous people, if they don't give themselves a period of solitude and insist on studying, will fall off the stage. Only by learning to "stop and go" and learn while walking can it be lasting.

03

Hold back your emotions and judge right from wrong.

Napoleon said: "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take down a city." ”

As a competitive man, Napoleon hoped to occupy a wider area and look at the surrounding cities.

In 1798, Napoleon led his soldiers in the direction of Egypt, and there was nothing to stop them along the way. One day, they surrounded a small town called Sharm El Sheikh.

The people in the city, picking up their knives, hoes, etc., stood on the walls of the city to resist.

Just after the city gates were breached, Napoleon found that most of the children and women were in front of him, and he waved his hands to make the soldiers retreat. He said: "Do not know how to bow to the weak, not real soldiers." ”

As the saying goes, "Great husband, do something, do something." ”

When a person is angry, he must see clearly who the other party is, what the consequences of what he is doing at the moment will bring. Actively controlling emotions and not hurting the weak is a benevolent morality.

"If a person wants to achieve great things, he is not desperate to crush the weak, but to care for the weak and touch them with love and sincerity. The power of morality is more powerful than the sword, after all, the ultimate goal of the struggle is for "peace."

Only by the will of the people can you achieve the final victory.

04

Resist the arrogance, humility and honor.

In the last year of the Warring States, the King of Qin sent Li Xin to attack the Chu state and returned with a great defeat.

The King of Qin took the initiative to go to the old general Wang Qi's hometown and said politely, "I still have to ask you to go out on the horse." ”

Wang Qi said, "Great King, I am old and sick, so please be wise." ”

After a while, the King of Qin said in a low voice, "The general should not resign." ”

After some good words and persuasion, Wang Qi led an army of 600,000 to the Chu State. Along the way, Wang Qi said to the King of Qin: "I want a lot of fiefdoms, a very large mansion, and arrangements for future generations..."

It was certainly very uncomfortable for subordinates and superiors to talk about conditions, but the King of Qin had always treated Wang Qi with courtesy, and all the conditions had been agreed.

As the saying goes: "If you can't bear it, you will plot big." ”

A person who is high up in the sky, if he does not know how to bow his head and does not respect the corporal, then he is doomed to become a big climate. The strength of oneself cannot be matched by the strength of a group of people in any case.

The ancients said: "Those who work hard govern people, and those who work hard rule people." "When a person is no longer arrogant, he can put himself among the masses, mingle with the masses, and then use the power of the masses to do his own business."

Everyone has a time to turn to others, even the king. Liu Bei in the Three Kingdoms period, The Three Gu Maolu, and zhuge Liang to come out of the mountains are typical examples.

05

Hold back the words, silence is golden.

I once saw a joke: an old man asked his children whether it was a hard tongue or a hard tooth.

Sons and daughters say, of course, teeth.

The old man opened his mouth and said, "People are old, their teeth are gone, their tongues are still there, why is this?" ”

Everyone looked at each other.

The old man then said, "Because we talk too much, we have lost our teeth." ”

Obviously, the power of words should not be underestimated. Good can be said to be bad, real can be said to be false, false can be said to be true, ugly can be said to be beautiful... If you can't control your words, it will be very hurtful.

Don't use the power of "words" as a last resort, otherwise you will hurt yourself when you hurt others. With that said, there are no more "teeth". The last thing you should be is to grit your teeth and talk.

Not to say, not to have nothing to say, but to be confused, let yourself stay quietly aside, and be a happy self.

06

The philosopher Russell said: "Hope is a tenacious crutch, patience is a travel belt, carrying them, man can embark on the eternal journey." ”

Everyone wants to win, but the real winners in life always have to endure a dark time and cultivate the "iron wall" of life.

Endure humiliation in order to bear the weight.

Temperate, in order to be kind.

Only by holding back pride can we be humble.

Only by holding back the words can we be silent.

On the road of life, endure for a while, the wind and waves are calm; endure a lifetime, quiet and far-reaching.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

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