Really smart people are very good at "pretending"

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There is a question in Zhihu: "Why should people disguise themselves?" ”

Netizen "Jiang Shaoyin" replied: "Disguise is actually a kind of hidden heart technique. The first realm is to cover up one's true meaning; the second is to subtly change the other person through one's own performance; the third realm is to be true to oneself, but it is unfathomable. ”

Lao Tzu said: "The avenue is simple, and the big sound is xisheng." ”

It is true that the highest realm of camouflage, like a white light, is very simple and transparent, but there is a "light of seven colors" hidden in it. Your disguise, which people can't feel, is truly successful.

Socrates said, "The only thing I know is that I know nothing." ”

Therefore, really smart people are very good at "pretending", just because they are confused and the most sober.

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Pretend to be stupid and not block the light of others.

There is a saying on the Internet: "Being a man is like water, if you are high, I will retreat, and I will never drown your strengths; if you are low, I will come and never expose your defects." ”

We often encounter situations where a group of people get together and each wants to express their opinion and wants to be an "opinion leader."

If you mix it up, then you'll desperately express yourself and compare others to each other.

In fact, really smart people seem very stupid at the beginning, even if they have a point of view, they will not say it, but look at what everyone says and let others behave.

Take the initiative to stand on the sidelines, and others become the protagonists, and at the same time, you will learn something from others. If you are good at summarizing, you can also synthesize all your points of view and condense them into your own wisdom.

You are always stupid, then your posture is particularly low, and the brilliance of others, like a waterfall, slopes down, making you warm and your heart bright.

03

Weak and able to confuse opponents.

In the last year of the Warring States, the King of Qin sent the general Wang Qi to lead an army to attack the State of Chu.

When Wang Qi and the Chu army met, they did not move, no matter how provocative the Chu army provoked, they did not send troops. At the same time, Wang Qi and the soldiers danced and ate together, without the slightest offensive posture.

After a long time, Chu Jun believed that Wang Qi was a coward and had no intention of continuing to move forward. As a result, the Chu army retreated dozens of miles, and also began to play games, and played happily.

Suddenly, one day, Wang Qi led his army out on a campaign, and rushed to the capital of the Chu State in one breath, catching him off guard.

Interpersonal communication, just like fighting, should pay attention to the "combination of virtual and real".

You are too real, or too honest, destined to be bullied, and soon you can be recognized by the other party, and your weaknesses are exposed.

Smart people are always hidden. His most important move is to pretend to be weak, like cotton, and let others press. When the power of "weakness" is harnessed, like a soft swamp, no matter how powerful people are, they will fall into it.

Understand that a fist can pierce a plank, but it cannot break a single hair.

04

Dress young, be more temperamental.

Many people hate "tenderness". I think that some old mothers, wearing eyebrows and lipstick, have a very thick rouge powder on their faces, which is the performance of "old and improper".

There is a poem that says it well: "It is always appropriate to make ripples without staining the mud, and it is always appropriate to apply thick makeup and lightly." ”

The old people who can really dress up, they are not vulgar at all, but they are energetic and energetic, and their looks have always been young.

The famous American model Carmen Dale Oriface, she began to perform on stage at the age of fifteen, and by the age of seventy or eighty, she was still on the stage, and no less than a young girl.

If you envy Carmen as an ageless goddess, then you should see her attitude towards life – neat, humble, smiling, dedicated.

Pretending to be young is not "desperately dressing yourself up", but having a tenacity to not accept defeat, being able to control life and let people continue to go uphill.

The body will get old, but the spirit can always be young.

As the saying goes: "There is poetry and bookishness in the belly." ”

A person can improve his wisdom by reading, and he will also show his temperament because he is very polite and knowledgeable when chatting.

There is a social phenomenon called the "Matthew effect" – the rich are richer, and the poor are poorer. The crowd will be polarized.

Therefore, smart people will make themselves rich continuously. Improve yourself through learning, turn wisdom into money, live a good life, and be more energetic.

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Pretending to be childish is a trick on the scene.

When we were kids, we said the wrong thing and did the wrong thing, and adults can forgive us. But when we grow up, we make mistakes, but we can't be forgiven, even if it is a small friction, we will be reprimanded and blamed.

If you are always childish, the attitude of others towards you will be like "adults treat children".

There is a word called "self-deprecation", and if you use your ugly side as a talking point, you will be considered to have a low IQ. In fact, this is because you are very generous, in some occasions, do not worry about people, but also cater to others.

When people reach a certain age, they are always involuntarily. If you are sharp, you will be crushed, only by pandering to others and making others comfortable, you will get everything you want.

During the Three Kingdoms period, the State of Shu was destroyed by the State of Wei, and Ah Dou was brought to the State of Wei. But he said, "Here and be happy, don't think about it." ”

It seems that in the eyes of everyone, Ah Dou is a child, so he has not been abused by Wei Guo and lives a relatively free life.

As the old saying goes, "The one who knows the times is Junjie." ”

See through the current situation, learn to make a scene, your "young ignorance" can save yourself and paralyze the other party.

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People are mixed in society, looking bright and beautiful, but in fact, there is a lot of dust and dirt.

Don't be too true in everything, and don't be harsh on perfection in life. Disguising yourself is the lubricant of life.

Smiling can hide sorrow; bowing one's head can mask sharpness; silence can mask emotions; ignorance can mask wisdom; quiet can mask vulnerability; hypocrisy can mask truth; humor can mask embarrassment... Hide yourself, everything else, look tall, and expose everything.

Life is a contest without gun smoke, and if you know yourself and know the other, you will be able to fight a hundred battles.

After figuring out other people's routines, you can move forward silently.

Pretend, leave others decent, and you will be decent yourself.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.