When people reach middle age and learn to show weakness, you win

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Someone asked, "Is it better to be hard or weak?" ”

Someone replied, "It's better to be weak." ”

The questioner was puzzled, breaking the casserole and asking the end.

The answerer smiled slightly: "Lao Tzu said: Human life is also weak, and its death is also strong." The life of the grass and trees is also soft and brittle, and its death is also withered. ”

Deeply. Soft, can flex and stretch, further can become a large instrument, step back can silently charge, waiting for the opportunity.

As the saying goes: "Everything is off in middle age." ”

If you know how to show weakness, then all those who are difficult for you will be solved.

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Learn to show weakness and your pattern will become bigger.

Zheng Xuan, a scribe at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, always wanted to write notes to the Spring and Autumn Biography.

One day, Zheng Xuan and scholar Fu Zishen stayed in the same hotel. At first, they didn't know each other. Later, we talked for a long time and admired each other.

When Zheng Xuan learned that Fu Zishen was writing annotations to the Spring and Autumn Biography, he took the initiative to give some of the annotations he had written before to Fu Zishen.

It didn't take long for the Spring and Autumn Zuo Clan To Pass on Friendship to be published.

Later generations praised Zheng Xuan--and moved the Heavenly Son and the lower drum scholar, knowing that this saint's original heaven governed people.

As the saying goes, "There is a specialty in the art industry." ”

Zheng Xuanben was an expert scholar, but he believed that Fuzishen was more powerful than him, so he was willing to stand aside and give his achievements to Fuzishen. The humble attitude did not make him dim, but better.

Many people are reluctant to show weakness, not because they are very strong, but because they are very selfish and unwilling to share the results with others.

There is a British proverb: "In order to get the fur and sebum of a lice, he will follow a lice and chase it a mile away." ”

That is to say, a person who does not pull a dime, his eyes have always been staring at the interests of lice, and the pattern is as big as a lice.

Lower your mindset, life is as majestic as the sea.

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Learn to show weakness, and your career will be very smooth.

When people reach middle age and promote their careers, they can solve many problems by making money.

Therefore, there are always some people who are desperate for their careers. Such a spirit is certainly commendable, but the idea of quick success can easily lead to failure and confusion.

The art of war has clouds: "Quiet as a virgin, moving like a rabbit." ”

If you want to achieve great things, you must calm down, know how to observe, and find the context of career development from the inextricable relationships. As long as the direction is right, even if it is slower, it is easier to succeed.

During the Warring States period, after the great victory of Changping, the State of Qin surrounded the City of Handan in the State of Zhao. King Zhao sent people to ask the State of Wei for help, but the King of Wei, fearing that the State of Qin would annex him, sent an army of 100,000 to Yi County, and did not dare to move forward.

Since ancient times, the lips have been cold. If the State of Zhao was annexed, the State of Wei would have had the same fate. Duke Wei was very anxious and lobbied the King of Wei for several days, but to no avail. He gathered his family together and prepared to fight with the Qin army.

When Wei Gongzi was preparing to leave, he suddenly remembered that there was a hermit Hou Win, who was extremely wise and had a way. He bowed his head twice in a row and asked for advice, and Hou Yingcai said, "You can find a way to steal the Soldier Rune of the King of Wei and then command an army of 100,000..."

Under the guidance of Hou Ying, Wei Gongzi became famous in one battle, and the Qin army was defeated.

A person who is high up in the sky and takes the initiative to bow to others for advice will definitely reap the rewards. During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Beisan took care of Maolu and asked Zhuge Liang to come out of the mountain, which was enough to prove this.

As the saying goes, "It's better to do it than to do it skillfully." ”

No matter how great a person's strength is, if he is not good at borrowing power, he is also the courage of a puppet. The power of wisdom is far beyond the power of man himself.

If you want your career to go smoothly, you have to think, you have to know how to ask the wise man for advice, and you can really do it.

04

Learn to show weakness and your family will be at peace.

Someone asked, "Why do we give good faces to outsiders, but bring bad faces home?" ”

We always think that the family will understand themselves and can tolerate themselves, but they do not know that the feelings of the family are very fragile, and they will not understand each other.

In the "Dream of the Red Chamber", there is such a fragment: Lin Daiyu, who is sick, hears someone outside the door scolding: "You, a person who is not angry, what is it, actually ran to the garden." ”

Lin Daiyu thought that she was cursing herself, and she was even more sad, and her tears flowed out.

The piercing sound, in any home, would be as ferocious as a gust of wind, breaking the harmonious atmosphere.

The "butterfly effect" tells us that a butterfly inciting its wings in the forest can bring about a tornado by zooming in.

When people reach middle age, we constantly tell ourselves to be strong, but we regard the family as the best reliance, and in the family, we release the most vulnerable side. Therefore, you must understand that taking the initiative to show weakness is weaker than any family member, so that you can avoid the storm of the family.

No wind or waves. You can make the wind factor disappear, and then your family will be at peace. Say less, argue less, don't mind, don't make eyes, don't give faces... Take care of your family's emotions, you will be comfortable.

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Learn to show weakness, and your life will precipitate.

If you have a bunch of beans in front of you, how do you pick out the dried beans?

The best way is not to look at them one by one, but to pour the beans into the water, the dry beans will float, the beans that are mothed by insects will also float, and the full beans will sink.

When people reach middle age, showing weakness is sinking, which is a sign of maturity.

In ancient times, there was a reader who went to the feast with his mother. Relatives and friends are talking loudly, but the readers are bowing their heads and not speaking.

The mother asked, "Why don't you talk?" ”

He said: "Speaking is practicing the lips, I need to 'practice my hands'. ”

Say less and do more, life will be full, life will really get better. Rhetoric is useless.

When a person is really mature, his speech is particularly small, but he does not speak, and the grades will help him open his mouth, and the aura above his head will not be dimmed.

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The "Cautionary Tale" reads: "Right and wrong are only because of more openings, and troubles are all because of strong heads." ”

To be a man, you want to take first, and you want to be superior. Your weakness has made others stronger and made yourself more resilient.

When people reach middle age, they want all their deeds, not only to cultivate obscurity, but also to avoid their sharp edges.

When people reach middle age, they learn to be a humble sweeping monk, which is the top wisdom.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

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