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I once heard a particularly beautiful saying:
When you fall in love with a person, in this world, every grass and tree is him, the sun, moon and galaxy are him, and the three meals and four seasons are also him.
When you saw this sentence, the person who appeared in your mind must have left a deep impression on you, right?
The taste of love is intoxicating and unforgettable.
How many people are lost in the whirlpool of love because of their lust for that touch of tenderness, until they fall into a trap and deviate from the original track of life.
Joe Hunt writes in Becoming Jane Austen:
Don't lose yourself in front of anything, even if it is dogma, even if it is the eyes of others, even if it is love.
-01- Loss of self
Lu Xun once said:
You can't just neglect the meaning of your life just for love—blind love.—
Just like a moth admiring the flame, the beautiful aura makes it desperately plunge into the oil lamp, and the aura of blind pursuit of love will also ignite the fire like a moth.
In the TV series "Si Teng", Si Teng and Bai Ying have a completely different attitude towards love, which makes them go to the end of their lives.
In the dense forest of the southwest, there is a carefree white vine, but because of the fame and fortune of Qiushan, the white vine is forcibly transformed into a vine demon, driving Qiushan to kill the demon.
Later, Bai Teng met shao Yankuan, a rich man, and the two had feelings for each other, but because Qiu Shan obstructed it, Bai Teng appeared in its original form, scaring Shao Yankuan away.
Deeply devastated, Bai Teng resisted and eventually escaped from her master's control, but unfortunately she met Shao Yankuan again.
In the face of Shao Yankuan's fierce pursuit, Bai Teng fissioned out two "demon grids" in an incomparably tangled way.
One of the half-demons, who are bent on pursuing love, name themselves Bai Ying, and kill the half-demon Siteng, who opposes the love affair between the two, and marry Shao Yankuan as desired.
For the sake of love, Bai Ying constantly pleases her husband, listens to plays she doesn't like, and dresses up as something she is not familiar with.
Just for that one sentence: Do you like me like this?
Unfortunately, even if she loses herself and lives as someone else for love, Bai Ying still has not received perfect love.
Shao Yankuan still plays with flowers and flowers, empathizing with others.
When Bai Ying is not dead set on trying to regain favor with the child, Shao Yankuan has already conspired with Qiu Shan to kill her in one fell swoop when she gives birth.
In the end, Bai Ying, who learned the truth, killed her husband in anger and started a plan to resurrect Sito many years later.
When Si Teng was resurrected and learned of Bai Ying's experience, he couldn't help but comment: "Your past is all darkness. ”
Bai Ying's tragedy stems from losing himself for love, and Situn always raises his head in front of love, rational and free, showing his unique charm, harvesting a real happy love, and the lover eventually becomes a family.
As Sito said when he first set foot on the mountain and river after he was freed:
Born like a long river, a thousand ferries, only the self-ferry is a true ferry.
May all girls cross themselves in the long river of love.
-02- Live cheap
People who live freely will not constantly lower their bottom line in order to please others.
Sometimes, a compromise may make the relationship harmonious, but the compromise will only make you live cheaper and cheaper, and your mood will become darker and darker.
Bi Shumin once said:
Some people live a very bleak life, not because there is no spring light in life, but because their dim state of mind has long since quietly closed all the windows facing the spring light.
Some time ago, a "scrawled" wedding in rural Henan was on the hot search.
In one of the most important ceremonies in a girl's life, the bride did not put on beautiful makeup, did not curl up her long dark hair, and did not even wear a well-fitting dress.
She was wearing only a simple pink down jacket, gray sweatpants, and white sneakers.
If it weren't for the red flower on his chest, I'm afraid everyone wouldn't know that this was the bride, but the groom was wearing a straight suit, and the contrast was stark.
Originally, the man's family not only did not rent a wedding dress on the grounds that the woman was pregnant and did not look good, but also did not arrange the courtyard, and the woman's relatives were not present, and the whole wedding was particularly sloppy.
Many netizens have lamented that girls really pay wrongly, a wedding is so perfunctory and calculated, and life after marriage can be imagined.
I once heard a sentence:
Giving is like running water, the heart is trampled on, and the memory is forgotten. If you are too good to others, you will not be cherished.
The girl thinks that she is married to love, so she constantly gives in her own life script, but in exchange for the bullying that others have intensified, and the harvest is a disheartened ending.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
To love him well, but also to live well, to keep a person, is never humble, but to live well and independently.
-03- Low to dust
Mention Zhang Ailing, that famous quote unconsciously comes to mind:
Seeing him, he became very low, low to the dust, and flowers blossomed from the dust.
Unfortunately, when you are low to the dust, you can only scatter around, with the dust, who can fall in love with you in the dust?
In "The Legend of Mi Yue", Mi Shu, who is the princess of Chu Guoyuan, only because of a heroic rescue in Dongshi, she will leave her true heart on the King of Qin.
In order to marry the King of Qin, she did not hesitate to threaten in her name and resist the dissuasion of her parents.
After thousands of miles to marry, Mi Shu not only had to endure the disobedience of the water and soil, but also was secretly poisoned by Lady Wei, but she was full of joy, just to be able to get to her lover's side.
On the night of the big wedding, she held the queen's jade seal in her hand, but said: "In addition to this jade seal, the concubine has one more precious thing, which is the king's sincerity to the concubine." ”
After the King of Qin said that he fell in love with her at first sight, he immediately beat her again, making her forget the identity of the princess of the Chu Kingdom, who was pampered by thousands of pets, and obediently be a virtuous and self-denying exemplary queen.
Immersed in love, Mi Shu did not perceive the true intention of the King of Qin, she thought of the King of Qin everywhere, got up early every day to serve, and even for the peace of the harem, she swallowed her anger in the face of plotting to kill Lady Wei and did not deal with it.
Unfortunately, wishful thinking in love can only move itself.
Because of the misunderstanding, the King of Qin believed that Mi Shu was not in charge of the harem, and if she was not pregnant, the power of the harem would fall by the wayside.
In the face of the King of Qin's indifference, Mi Shu blamed herself in every way, until she finally saw the King of Qin's great value for Mi Yue, and she knew that everything was just a scam.
The person who made us give up our dignity and pride and love with all our might often become the one who hurts us the most.
In love, no matter how much you love that person, remember to keep some pride and dignity for yourself.
May you and I all live to be zhu Ziqing's proud snow frost plum:
The snow presses the branches low, but not low enough to the mud, and when the red sun rises, it is still in line with the sky.
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There is a sentence in "The Road Few People Walk":
Love in the true sense is both love for oneself and love for others. Love can grow for yourself and others.
The best love must not be a one-sided payment, but a two-way rush.
May all your efforts be worthwhile, and may you be able to keep your best self in every love.