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Every child reaches a certain stage of age development, and there will be rebellious psychology. When children are rebellious and bored with school, parents must do some ideological education. First of all, when the child is rebellious and bored with school, there must be a reason, parents first communicate with the child to ask the reason, according to the reason to think of ways to help the child solve the problem. So, what about children who are rebellious and bored with school? Let's take a look at the next one.
There are three main reasons for the impaired learning motivation of primary and secondary school students:
1. Academic failure: Many children fail in learning, or homework is not good, setbacks, no timely adjustment, will be afraid of learning, lack of active overcoming learning difficulties, positive and enterprising spirit, the result is a decline in academic performance; due to poor academic performance, can not get parents, teachers, students to understand and appreciate, will lose interest in learning, chaos.
2. Setting goals is unreasonable: Many parents desire successful children, expectations are too high, although children work hard, but always fail to achieve the goals set by parents, too high expectations will bring hopelessness to children. Not only does it fail to play the expected motivating role, but it also makes the child afraid, loses the courage to progress, or creates a sense of opposition.
3. Learning fatigue: too much learning content, boring, monotonous and lack of interest in learning materials. Some parents worry that their children will lose at the starting line. After completing school assignments, they must do additional extracurricular exercises; other students learn in improper ways, such as rote memorization and non-associative memory. These can lead to psychological fatigue and form a vicious circle of fatigue towards learning.
Children with school aversion generally have eight differences in learning:
Poor self-control;
Poor thinking ability;
Poor study habits;
Poor reading ability;
Poor writing ability;
Poor computing power;
Poor expression skills;
Poor ability to transfer knowledge;
What they get in learning is a sense of failure, powerlessness, inferiority, boredom, and so on. Dizziness, headaches, and shortness of temper are common phenomena of school aversion.
In a word, children with school aversion, unwilling to learn, do not like to learn, hate learning, feel that learning is very painful, and try their best to avoid learning.
At this time, it is necessary to help students learn correct cognitively. To do his ideological work well, let him understand that as long as he makes efforts, then there will always be a reward, so that his concept of learning will be changed.
In addition, when the child is learning, it must be properly encouraged, so that the child will feel a very fulfilled feeling, then they will stick to the learning thing.
Children who are tired of learning and addicted to games not only delay learning, but also have the following harms:
1. Damage to physical health
For children who are in the period of physical development, playing games on computers or mobile phones for a long time, the daily life rules will be broken, including: abnormal diet, poor sleep quality, weight loss, etc., and severe cases will lead to sudden death.
2. Decline in cognitive level
If children play games for too long, their abstract thinking ability, logical ability, memory and attention will become worse and worse, resulting in a rapid decline in their academic performance, and then lose interest in learning.
3, the mood will be low
Although appropriate games are beneficial to the brain, long-term indulgence in games will lead to children's low mood, loss of confidence in anything, slowly fewer and fewer friends, and interpersonal relationships become tense.
4, there will be psychological dependence
In the game, their nerves are hyperactive, unconsciously they will have psychological dependence on it, and if they do not play for a day, they will feel upset and itchy.
5. Learning setbacks
As a student, you should be mainly studying, but because you are addicted to games and play games for too long, you can't put your heart on learning, resulting in poor academics; when they are frustrated in learning, children will break the jar and break. It is understood that every year there are children who are bored with school, of which 80% of the children fail the exam because of their addiction to online games, and eventually withdraw from school because of this.
The correct posture for parents to channel their children's boredom should be as follows:
1. Fully accept the child's emotions. This is the first step in communication channeling.
This step is very important, parents only fully accept the child's emotions, stand in the child's point of view to understand and accept the child, the idea to improve the child's sense of self-worth, so that the child is likely to be willing to tell the true thoughts of the heart to the parents, otherwise the child may face your inquiry may not say a word, silence is golden.
2. Listen carefully to your child's every word. This is the second step in communication channeling.
This step is also very important, parents can only find the crux of the problem if they fully enter the child's inner world.
3. When the child says his own ideas, parents do not directly evaluate, and can fully communicate with the child along the child's train of thought.
4. Help children find a sense of belonging.
Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, parents try to guide their children to discover their own strengths, find out the achievements or achievements they have made, etc., which can greatly enhance children's self-confidence and stimulate their self-awareness.
5. Change parents' own educational concepts.
The change in educational concepts starts from attaching importance to children's happiness in the learning process, and does not use test scores as a criterion for judging children's merits. When children experience the joy of learning, they will naturally have a strong interest in learning, and the emotional problem of boredom can basically be solved.
6. Parents should become the strong backing of their children and make their children feel safe.
For children with serious boredom, parents can guide their children to relax and train under the guidance of the relevant psychologist or counselor to reduce stress and eliminate the boredom caused by frustration.
05, with patience and courage to wait for the child to blossom
Many things in the world are "heart-planted flowers and flowers, unintentional willows lined up." "This is especially true when it comes to educating children, parents should go with the flow and do not force anything.
Children can have a positive and optimistic attitude to learn and live, which is far more meaningful than simple test scores. Parents should have the patience and courage to wait for the flowers to blossom, and believe that their children can become a lifelong love of learning!
This is the article brought to you today, if parents feel that it is helpful in the process of educating their children, please share it with other friends who are also troubled, and we will escort the growth of their children together.
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