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Every child reaches a certain stage of age development, and there will be rebellious psychology. When children are rebellious and bored with school, parents must do some ideological education. First of all, when the child is rebellious and bored with school, there must be a reason, parents first communicate with the child to ask the reason, according to the reason to think of ways to help the child solve the problem. So, what about children who are rebellious and bored with school? Let's take a look at the next one.
So, let's take a look at the reasons why children are bored with school.
Boredom 1: Children have fear of difficulties and encounter difficulties in learning.
This is a situation that children often encounter in their studies. Generally at the beginning of enrollment, or to a certain grade node subject increase.
Parents fail to perceive the difficulties encountered by their children in learning, which causes resistance to children's learning. Let the child have more and more difficult obstacles to learning, so gradually form a sense of boredom.
Parents need to understand in the process of accompanying their children to grow up, and the primary school stage is the golden period for developing good learning habits for children.
Therefore, parents need to gradually help their children form good behavior habits according to their children's personal abilities. In the first three months to half a year to achieve careful and scientific guidance and companionship.
For adolescent children, boredom may be because they hate a certain teacher, because they hate teachers, so they hate a certain subject, and finally lead to boredom.
Adolescent children are in a period of very strong self-awareness. They will have a personality of self-identification, and there will be a strong confrontation with individual teachers who do not conform to self-perception or are not self-accepted.
This antagonistic emotion will directly lead him to be unable to accept everything related to this person. I once hosted a second-year child who gave up learning mathematics because of a conflict with the math teacher.
Therefore, the emotional state of adolescent children is always the focus that parents need to pay attention to. Parents' understanding of adolescent children can directly dissolve many emotions that children cannot relieve themselves.
For adolescent children who cannot solve the conflict between the relationship with the teacher on their own, parents need to have the ability to help their children solve it. This undoubtedly puts forward requirements for the growth of parents.
Tired of school three, the relationship between adolescent children and classmates is not harmonious, there are no friends in school, they are excluded and snubbed everywhere.
Socializing is a very important lesson in Finnish homeschooling. Adolescent children need more peer interactions to gain confirmation of their social roles.
Not being able to get along well with the students around them and not being able to get the support of their friends will make children feel isolated or even bullied at school.
The depth of this reason is related to the way parents bring up from an early age, the interaction mode between parents and children, and the family environment in which children grow.
Therefore, in order to improve children's interpersonal communication patterns, parents need to re-assist their children in establishing the construction of communication patterns. And this requires parental growth and patience.
Education is never a word, but a road.
Boredom four, adolescent children and their parents confrontation.
There is an interview with a child in the documentary "Mirror" that is like this, when the reporter interviews whether the child is tired of school because of "early love", the child replies that it is not, the reason for "early love" is because the parents are very afraid and disgusted.
So he has to look for things to do that make his parents afraid and make them resentful. Thus declaring to my parents, I am grown up and can do what makes you afraid and disgusting you.
From the child's answer, we can see that the child's boredom is an illusion, and early love is an illusion. The truth is that he needs to use this to fight against his parents.
Tired of school five, children are over-arranged by parents and parents, excessive agency. This kind of spoiled child is not bored with school at all, they don't know why they learn.
I once received a case of a high school sophomore dropping out of school. When I asked the child what he thought, the child replied that he didn't know why he was learning. Dad said that as long as I took the exam, I wanted to go abroad and go to school in any country I wanted.
Since I can go anywhere, why should I learn? I don't know what it means to go to school. Many conditional parents have over-arranged everything about their children, even their children's lives.
Let the child never know the meaning of hard work, and never know why he learned. He used to feel curious, he felt interested, his parents were easily put in front of him, and he didn't even know why he was alive!
Coddling is not love, it is deeply hurtful to the child. A person has already been arranged by others for a lifetime, then for him, he is no longer himself, but a puppet controlled by others.
Boredom is just a synonym. From the above reasons, we can see that children are not bored with school, they may be tired of home, may be tired of their parents, may be tired of relationships, may be tired of themselves.
And on the road to school weariness step by step, how our parents push their children into this abyss little by little.
In the subject of helping children get out of this mud, should parents think carefully about what we can do?
Children with school aversion generally perform poorly in learning:
Poor self-control;
Poor thinking ability;
Poor study habits;
Poor reading ability;
Poor writing ability;
Poor computing power;
Poor expression skills;
Poor ability to apply knowledge transfer;
They gain a sense of failure, powerlessness, inferiority, boredom, etc. in their studies. Dizziness, headaches, and shortness of temper are common symptoms of school aversion.
In short, children with school aversion are unwilling to learn, do not like to learn, hate learning, feel that learning is very painful, and try their best to avoid learning.
At this time, we should help students learn cognition correctly. Do a good job of his ideological work, let him understand that as long as he works hard, there will always be a reward, so that his learning concept will change.
In addition, when the child is learning, it must be properly encouraged, so that the child will feel a very fulfilled feeling, then they will stick to the learning thing.
Children who are tired of learning and addicted to games not only delay learning, but also have the following harms:
1. Damage to physical health
For children who are in the period of physical development, playing games on computers or mobile phones for a long time, the daily life rules will be broken, including: abnormal diet, poor sleep quality, weight loss, etc., and severe cases will lead to sudden death.
2. Decline in cognitive level
If children play games for too long, their abstract thinking ability, logical ability, memory and attention will become worse and worse, resulting in a rapid decline in their academic performance, and then lose interest in learning.
3, the mood will be low
Although appropriate games are beneficial to the brain, long-term indulgence in games will lead to children's low mood, loss of confidence in anything, slowly fewer and fewer friends, and interpersonal relationships become tense.
4, there will be psychological dependence
In the game, their nerves are hyperactive, unconsciously they will have psychological dependence on it, and if they do not play for a day, they will feel upset and itchy.
5. Learning setbacks
As a student, you should be mainly studying, but because you are addicted to games and play games for too long, you can't put your heart on learning, resulting in poor academics; when they are frustrated in learning, children will break the jar and break. It is understood that every year there are children who are bored with school, of which 80% of the children fail the exam because of their addiction to online games, and eventually withdraw from school because of this.
How to overcome your child's school aversion?
1. Fully understand the significance of learning and establish correct learning motivation.
2. Correct attribution to learning failure.
3. Those with learning disabilities can consult professional education experts.
4. Comprehensively evaluate children, discover and cultivate their interests.
5. Cultivate children's learning initiative.
6, parents do not give their children too much pressure; more start the power system; less start the pressure system.
7. Outline a beautiful future for your children.
When the child has a tired mood, parents should not be in a hurry, and do not be angry, because this is useless. We must realize that this is a way for children to express themselves to us, so we must observe deeply to see what is wrong with the child, and then step by step to help the child regulate and guide, I believe that with the help of parents, the child will be able to fall in love with learning again.
Well, the above is the content shared today, if you feel that it is helpful to you on the road of educating children, I hope you can share it with friends who are troubled by this, and we will escort the growth of children together.
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