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To be bored with learning, as the name suggests, is to hate learning. Specifically, school aversion refers to students subjectively losing interest in school learning, developing a school-weariness and apathetic attitude, and objectively showing obvious school-weary behavior. The professional title of boredom is learning motivational disorder
Causes of child school aversion:
1. Parents have high expectations
Parents attach too much importance to their children's learning, and grades are the only focus of parents' attention. These parents often ignore their children's feelings. In order to improve the child's grades, the number is constantly increased, and the enrollment in various cram schools is unbearable in the long run and fatigue will occur.
2. The impact of bad behavior
Some parents do not like to learn, play mobile phones all day, play cards, but force their children to read, learn, leading to children's psychological contrast. While these parents say they focus on learning, their children often don't listen to him and instead imitate his behavior.
3, lack of management
Some parents think their children are still young, so they protect everything and let their children develop. Over time, children lack motivation, homework is not supervised, there is no feedback on exams, and they slowly give up learning.
4. Learning objectives
Many children who are tired of learning are in a state of no goals and vague goals. Many children don't know why they want to learn. Many students treat learning and karma as a problem for teachers and parents, completely passive, and seriously lack motivation to learn.
5. Habit formation problem
Children who are bored with school have problems with their learning habits. For example, homework procrastination, inattention to listen to lectures in class, lack of concentration, etc., resulting in a broken knowledge chain, learning can not keep up, will be tired of learning.
As a common learning psychological problem, boredom is common among primary and secondary school students. Learning engagement is a measure of adolescent school boredom. Depending on the changes in learning engagement, we divide fatigue into several different phases:
Stage 1: Negative Emotions Phase:
This stage, as the initial stage of fatigue, is mainly manifested in: participating in normal learning tasks, but the enthusiasm for participation is not as strong as before, there are negative emotions, and there is a certain slackness in behavior. Occasionally late.
The second stage: the passive action stage
At this stage, children often do not do homework and sleep in class, so they are often criticized by the teacher. Engagement in learning dropped significantly, asking him what he had learned often didn't know what to say. But the children will continue to go to school. Attendance began to decline significantly, with occasional absences.
The third stage: the loss of power phase
The characteristics of this stage are: do not turn in homework, do not listen to lectures, do not go to school one after another, resent learning, and have no desire or interest in learning. He was no longer willing to participate in all the learning activities of the school. Attendance is low, or even no longer available.
What are the main harms of boredom
First, boredom seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, the formation of a vicious circle affects interpersonal relationships
School-weary children have poor academic performance, are easily discriminated against by teachers and classmates, and are more likely to give up on themselves and simply mix with their partners who have common encounters. Some even have a sense of revenge, and there will be acts such as rebellion, pranks, and bullying weak students, which will seriously affect their normal interpersonal interactions.
Third, it is easy to give up on self-abandonment and lose self-confidence
It is usually not that children who are bored with school do not want to study well, but lack the confidence to learn, and poor academic performance makes them lose confidence even more. Severe cases can drop out of school because of this, but the effect of school aversion on these children is far more than that. Setbacks in learning can create serious psychological shadows. As adults, these children often lack self-confidence and are even more frustrated in love and relationships.
Fourth, it creates psychological shadows and affects physical and mental growth
At present, the boredom of secondary school students has become a common phenomenon, and many parents have only a decline in their academic performance. Deep psychological counselors said that in fact, the problem of children's boredom will not only cause a decline in academic performance, but also affect the learning of other students, cause a bad atmosphere to the society, and seriously directly cause depression, anxiety, depression, dizziness, insomnia and other diseases, affecting physical and mental growth, so parents must pay enough attention.
If your child also has if your child is also bored with school, addicted to the Internet, early love, rebellious, inferior... and other phenomena, after multiple attempts are ineffective, you may wish to find a professional to help.
How can we eliminate school aversion and truancy?
1. Parents should objectively estimate their child's learning status and have reasonable expectations. You should not add your unsatisfactory intellectual desires to your children and compensate for what is lost from them, and the expectations for the children are too high. Make children hate learning and mastering knowledge. We should make the right estimates, neither blindly optimistic nor underestimated.
2, parents should help children to build confidence, the salient feature of child fatigue is the loss of confidence, at this time parents should appropriately reduce the child's requirements, create a situation, let the child taste the taste of success, experience the joy of success, enhance confidence, overcome inferiority, listen, more comfortable, more concerned about the child's body and mind, correct fatigue.
3, parents should give the child a relaxed family atmosphere, do not tell the child all day, reasoning, metaphors, for example, etc., although taking care of the child's daily life is good, but the child does not really feel quiet, warm living environment, nor the ability to be free and independent.
4. Parents should pay attention to ways and methods of encouraging their children. Learn to praise and encourage, parents must understand that language praise will play a great role in encouraging children's learning, and timely affirm the child's progress. When criticizing children, we should pay attention to the occasion and moderation. Usually prioritizing praise, less criticism, blame, and too much criticism will make the child depressed and more prone to making mistakes in learning.
5. Parents can also try to take advantage of the transfer between interest and learning. Because children with strengths and interests are often praised and encouraged by schools and parents, their interests will be subtly transferred to learning, thus complementing each other.
6. Parents should cultivate their children's good learning habits. Parents should start forming good habits for their children from an early age. In principle, they can guide the child's learning, but they will never arrange so that the child can establish a sense of responsibility and independence in the learning process.
7. Help children establish correct learning methods. Rational use of time and brain, do not engage in fatigue tactics, to win with quality.
8, as children's friends, we should understand children, help them, especially give recognition, let them be confident. (You can teach your previous confusion as a textbook). For them, they should extend the hand of friendship and let them integrate into the group and not be bothered by relationships. The data shows that many students' psychological problems are the result of parents and teachers not paying attention. Improve psychological adaptability to collective life.
9, parents should tell the child the correct motivation to learn, the child lacks the psychological motivation to learn, because at home should not be too accustomed to let the child not be interested in the content of knowledge, do not establish a good relationship with teachers and classmates, or self-esteem is hurt, have negative emotions about the school, lack of hard work and perseverance, only like to listen to praise, can not tolerate criticism and setbacks, poor psychological self-defense ability. What children lack most are values and attitudes towards life. In today's society, excellent moral character is an important asset of human beings. Therefore, parents should first make it clear that honesty, diligence, and seriousness are excellent moral qualities, and teach children to analyze problems and understand people's methods.
If the child does not like to learn in life, parents can try the above methods. If the child is seriously bored with school, it is recommended that parents find a professional or institution to solve it in time to avoid other problems for the child.
Well, here's the article we bring to you today. If parents feel that it is helpful in the process of educating their children, please share it with other friends who are also in need, and we will escort the growth of their children together.
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