Many studies have shown that a child's personality is influenced to some extent by the parents.
What kind of family education to receive, what kind of parents to have, the impact on the child's personality is great, just like there are many parents will feel that the child should be an accessory of the parents, there are also many parents who think that the child is an independent individual, need to have their own thinking ability, so in which time period, the parents have the greatest influence on the child?
Children before the age of 3 are the ones who need their parents the most
Before the age of 3, children are in a stage of rapid growth
From the teeth to the beginning of their own thoughts, before the age of 3, children do not have independent thinking ability.
Because they have not yet fully understood the world, children at this stage are still in the stage of understanding the world physically and mentally.
Before the age of 3, parents can also give their children behavioral and ideological help
Before the age of 3, children still need to live under the supervision of their parents, they can't distinguish between right and wrong, they need their parents to teach them a lot of things, start to slowly understand everything around them, and have a preliminary awareness of everything.
Before the age of 3, children have a strong dependence on their parents
Because parents are the closest people in their lives and the people who come to the world to see the most, children will have a "chick complex" for their parents.
Before the age of 3, such a "chick complex" is particularly serious, at this stage, most children do not have the ability to think independently, or the ability to think independently is still relatively weak, and naturally rely on their parents.
Before the age of 3, children are most susceptible to parental influence
It is precisely because before the age of 3, children are still like a blank piece of paper, let their parents scribble.
Therefore, at this stage, the parents' behavior plays an extremely important role in the child, almost determining the child's future character development.
1. Language
We all say that if you want to learn a foreign language, you must try as early as possible.
Before the child is 3 years old, the parents' language is the object of the child's learning, during this time period, the child will imitate the parents' language, and even speak the way and tone.
Some vocabulary may be difficult for them to understand, but for children at this stage, learning is just right.
It is precisely because of this that parents must pay attention to every time they export words, maybe you are just an unintentional dirty word, which may become a mantra for children in the future.
2. Behavior
I believe that everyone knows what is called "learning from the model", which is like this for children.
Until a correct view of right and wrong is established, the parent's behavior is correct in front of the child.
Children will learn the behavior of their parents, and whether this behavior is correct or not, in fact, they do not understand it themselves, but if parents do not pay attention at this stage, then it may be difficult to correct it later.
3. Living habits
It is often said that living in an environment will make you involuntarily assimilated by the environment, and even adults who already have the ability to think will find it difficult to avoid such assimilation, let alone children who do not have self-consciousness.
Therefore, at this stage, parents also need to pay attention to their own living habits, try to correct bad habits, and do not give their children a bad example.
4. Establish a sense of security for children
This is also very important, in fact, we can easily feel it when we look at the children around us.
Children who have a sense of security from an early age are confident and generous, on the contrary, most children who have no sense of security from an early age are inferior and timid.
5. The establishment of the first three views
As mentioned earlier, a child at this stage is a blank piece of paper, allowed to be scribbled by parents, and the three views of nature are also a blank piece of paper.
It is precisely in this way that parents must attach importance to the education of their children, avoid their children from taking a crooked road, and at this stage they must establish the correct three views for their children.
Among these important issues, establishing a sense of security for the child is actually the most important, and the sense of security affects the way the child treats other people or things when he grows up, and the best way to establish a sense of security is companionship.
Children who are missing companionship
Companionship is extremely important for children, and children who are not accompanied enough always have the following situations.
1. Indifference
We all know that love is mutual, and when children feel the love of their parents, they will naturally want to reciprocate the same love.
Companionship is the same, feeling the company of parents will make children feel at ease, and this reassurance is one of the bonds that maintain family affection after children grow up.
2. Fear of causing trouble
Children who lack companionship have a "dead end" trait, because without companionship, they are accustomed to solving all the problems that arise around them.
Fear of causing trouble for others, fear of getting help and love from others.
3. Fear and resistance to communicate with people
Children who lack companionship do not know enough about themselves, and will have an inferiority complex, these children are good at self-closure and are unwilling to communicate with others.
Not good at sharing their hearts with people, holding all their hearts in their hearts for a long time, not knowing how to respond to the kindness expressed by others, and even evasive psychology.
4. Affect the relationship between lovers
Insecurity not only affects the relationship between parents and children, but also has great obstacles to their own emotional problems.
When such children grow up and face their feelings, there are generally two situations.
One is at a loss, do not know how to accept the love of others, afraid that they can not reciprocate, one is a little favor is bought, out of the heart and lungs, easy to be deceived.
Before the child is 3 years old, it is also extremely important to parents
In fact, the first three years of a child are not only important for children, but also for parents.
Before the age of 3, children do not have their own circle of friends, do not have their own thinking ability, is the best education period for parents, but also the best period for parents to cultivate parent-child feelings.
After the child is 3 years old, he begins to learn to think independently, and there will be some contradictions and differences between him and his parents.
Most parents at such a time will begin to recall when their children were obedient, but they did not think that the child's current "disobedience" is actually the only way for every child.
Therefore, parents must cherish the days before the age of 3, try to teach their children what they can teach their children, and do not let their behavior become the biggest problem affecting their children's future lives.
Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds
At this stage, parents must pay attention to their words and deeds.
Many parents may have such a question, why do well-behaved children suddenly start to say dirty words?
In fact, this is because in the process of children growing up, parents do not pay attention to the problem of their own words and deeds, and children before the age of 3 do not understand the meaning of dirty words.
But they will leave this memory in their minds, and by the time they can speak fluently, it may have become a child's mantra.
In the face of the sudden change of children, many parents choose to scold, but look for reasons in children, find the final solution.
Therefore, parents may as well find reasons in themselves.
Parents are the leader of the child, at the beginning of the child's life path, it is the parents who need to point out the direction to the child.
If the direction is wrong at the beginning, then who is to blame for the child's future path?
Many parents may not think so when they see this, thinking that they have not paid attention to these, but their children are still obedient and sensible.
But we all say that people have hidden personalities, and for many children, the influence of parents is huge.
But it is also hidden in the heart, and when it is the right time, it may burst out.
As we always see in various articles, parents have violent tendencies, and children will also have violent tendencies.
Although there are genetic problems in this, the impact on children at an early age cannot be ignored.
It is precisely because many parents do not set a good example in front of their children that children gradually lose their way in the process of growing up. Parents set a good example for their children and will make them useful for a lifetime.