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Have parents found that after the child reaches a certain age, he will begin to talk back with his parents, and he will be more angry with each sentence than a sentence, how do you do it at this time?
Once, my son was called a parent by a teacher at school. When school was out, the teacher said to me very angrily: "Usually looking at this child is very good, I didn't expect him to be so able to resist." "Talking back to the teacher and choking the teacher enough, in the eyes of many parents, this is simply an unforgivable mistake."
What was even more infuriating about the child was when the teacher asked him, "Who did you learn to talk back with?" The bear child said to the teacher, "My mother taught me that when I see something that is not right, I have to say it out loud." ”
It turned out that the son and another friend were playing between classes, and the child accidentally knocked down a female classmate. They rushed to apologize, but the girl was still unwilling, and she told the teacher, "They just deliberately pushed me, they deliberately did it." ”
The teacher saw that the child was not injured, so he asked them to apologize again, and although the son agreed to apologize, he kept saying to the teacher: "Although we bumped into her, we really ran back to each other and didn't see her. ”
The class teacher said: "You don't always emphasize that it was not intentional, and you should have apologized for knocking someone down." However, my stubborn son, while apologizing, still said loudly: "I'm sorry, I didn't see it, I hit you, please forgive me." ”
Although the girl has not pursued it, the son still said that he did not mean it, and the teacher was also angry. Because he asked the teacher to check the surveillance camera and return his innocence.
It seems that this child is more persistent, and the teacher originally planned that the two sides of this matter would be fine, but this child actually talked back to the teacher. However, I have the same point of view as my son in this matter, and I hope that he will always maintain such a "back-talk".
Of course, I do not support my son's disrespect for his elders, but my son's ability to challenge authority and not bow to false things is very valuable.
Some children are very obedient from an early age, and as long as someone who is stronger than themselves appears, they immediately become people without principles. Some children are not the same, they do not give up their own views, they have become in front of adults love to "talk back" appearance.
Although the child who loves to talk back seems to be disobedient, it is actually a manifestation of intelligence, and it may be more successful in the future!
Ⅰ.“ Children who love to resist are more assertive.
Dare to contradict the parents and teachers around them, indicating that the child is very assertive. He insists on his own opinion, and only then will he have an argument against the opinion of the adults.
Children with assertive opinions, they grow up to be more independent, work hard for their ideals, and have a greater chance of success.
II. Children who dare to speak up are braver.
Obviously, they are right, but they dare not refute it, and such children are generally relatively timid. Brave children, who are not afraid of any authority, dare to do justice, do not bow their heads, and protect themselves, which is also a good quality.
Brave children can not only attract more friends and facilitate interpersonal communication, but also can do many things, and it is easier to achieve great achievements in society in the future.
III. Dare to talk back with adults, children's language expression ability, logical thinking ability is relatively strong.
Children and adults talk back, but also need his reasoning basis, so if the child always refutes the parents in a set of sets, it also shows that he is a child with strong logical thinking ability. The brain fits, the small mouth says that the head is the Tao, such a child has a fast brain, a fast mouth, and is a smart child.
And parents allow children to properly "resist", then it is more conducive to the child's brain development, as well as the improvement of language and logical thinking ability, and the future into the society is more advantageous.
IV. Children dare to challenge authority and grow mentally ill.
Some children have something unhappy in their hearts and are unwilling to say it, which is very bad for the child's mental health growth. The child's heart suppresses too many negative emotions or pressures, so that the child is prone to psychological problems.
And those children who are good at expressing their own views, their hearts are not stressed, and their mood will become cheerful as they speak out. Therefore, children who dare to resist are generally mentally healthy.
Mental health children, in fact, do something more motivated, will not have a burden, will not be afraid of here and there, in the society to mix better.
Therefore, in the process of cultivating children, parents should allow children to properly resist their mouths, and do not casually put on the hat of "refutation" that is disrespectful to people.
Of course, we encourage children to bravely express their inner thoughts, but also pay attention to let children grasp this "back" measure, we can not let children mess around or disrespect the elders.
For children who like to talk back, parents need correct guidance in addition to differentiating treatment, so that children can embark on the right path. So, when the child resists, what should parents do?
First of all, parents should be emotionally stable and guide their children correctly.
When children and parents talk back, we must first listen to the child's inner thoughts and let the child speak out.
Parents should maintain emotional stability, and then guide the child to speak in a measured manner, which sentences are inappropriate, but also to remind the child, be a polite rebuttal, can not make vocal attacks on others, the tone should be good.
Second, parents should lead by example and not be expressions of anger.
Children dare to challenge authority, but we should guide children to maintain calm emotions. Reasonable is not at a high pitch, smooth expression needs stable emotions, so when we usually speak, we should pay attention to the tone and intonation, and set a good example for children.
Allow the child to speak, give the right to speak back to the child, listen more, observe more, because we want to raise a child with an opinion, not an obedient puppet.
Interactive Topic: Parents, will you allow your child to "talk back"?