In Baoyingshui Town, Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, such a ridiculous thing once happened.
A couple of young couples are busy with work, and the grandchildren who are in kindergarten have always been picked up and dropped off by their mother-in-law.
One day, the mother-in-law was delayed for a while because of housework, and when she rushed to the kindergarten, she accidentally arrived 10 minutes late, and rushed to comfort her little grandson along the way to return home.
But when she was at home, her daughter-in-law Hou heard that the child had suffered "such a big" grievance, and she immediately became angry from her heart, and in front of everyone, she went up and slapped her mother-in-law twice.
However, the mother-in-law was angry, and found the mediator of the local women's federation, and in the face of the mediator's inquiry, Hou still said with vigor: Every time the mother-in-law went to pick up the child from school, she was later than others, but she was angry, so she impulsively moved her hand, and in case of this 10 minutes, the child really had an accident. I also wanted her to "remember sex longer"!
The mediator saw that the daughter-in-law was so arrogant, immediately criticized and educated her, and then persuaded the two.
Finally, the daughter-in-law Hou apologized to her mother-in-law in person, and only then did she put an end to the family dispute.
It is not an obligation for the elderly to see the baby, and the daughter-in-law's resort to violence is too extreme
Although as a mother, it is understandable to worry about the child's accident, but just because the mother-in-law picks up the child 10 minutes late, the daughter-in-law's resort to violence is too extreme.
First of all, taking care of children is not the obligation of the elderly, and picking up and dropping off children is actually the responsibility of parents.
I don't know when, many elderly people in retirement, voluntary or helpless to become the children's free nanny, and in the hearts of some children, the elderly to help with the baby has also become the due righteousness, the child to take care of well, children do not know how to be grateful, once the elderly make mistakes, but will invite blame, so that the elderly become humble and sad.
The elderly help their children take care of their children, even if there is a mistake, it is also a careless move, and the children should be grateful to the elderly and calmly put forward opinions, rather than "doing it" without a word.
Secondly, even if the elderly pick up the baby 10 minutes late, it will not cause serious consequences.
If there are children in the family who are going to kindergarten, parents should know that the transfer of children now has a very strict management system, even if the elderly are half an hour at night, the teacher will only contact parents at most to inquire about the specific situation, take care of the child on behalf of the child, and there is no need to worry about safety.
Of course, if the mother-in-law picks up the child often late after school, this practice also has a certain mistake.
After all, when the children are out of school, the teacher's work is busy, and he often asks him to help take care of the child, on the one hand, it is easy to cause the teacher to be disgusted, on the other hand, everything is in case, there is a real accident, and the old man can only regret not being the beginning.
Therefore, if the mother-in-law is disgusted with picking up and dropping off children, it is best to communicate with the children in advance, and if conditions permit, it is actually recommended that the children be picked up by the parents themselves, because compared with the elderly to help pick up the children, the parents personally pick up the baby from school, and there are indeed many benefits.
It is best to pick up and drop off children by their parents themselves
1. Enhance parent-child relationship
Nowadays, young parents are busy at work, and this time on the way out of school is actually a rare opportunity to enhance the parent-child relationship.
We are on our way home with our children, we can take the opportunity to communicate with children, is there anything interesting happening in school today? What new knowledge have you learned? Have you had any problems lately? Such parent-child time will become the most carefree memory of the child when he grows up.
2. Easy to communicate with teachers
Teachers are usually busy at work, and there is very little time to communicate with parents about the latest situation of their children, and this time of picking up the baby after school is a good opportunity for us to communicate with teachers.
When picking up the child home, we can talk to the teacher by the way, talk about the child's recent performance in school, whether it brings trouble to the teacher's work, such a communication method, not only avoids taking up the teacher's private time, but also allows the teacher to see our attention to the child's education, killing two birds with one stone.
3. Have higher security
Compared with young parents picking up and dropping off children, the elderly pick up and drop off have more uncertainty and are more prone to accidents.
On the one hand, the elderly have poor safety awareness, especially some elderly people are not familiar with traffic rules, rampage on the road, very easy to encounter danger, on the other hand, the elderly have mobility problems, and now there are more vehicles, and there are certain safety hazards to take children home.
Old Miao Conclusion:
The elderly help their children with children is the love, not the duty, no matter when, the children should have a grateful heart, not too picky.
On the issue of picking up and dropping off children, although most of the young parents are busy today, it is best to pick up and drop off children by themselves, after all, parents personally pick up and drop off their children has many benefits, and the healthy and safe growth of children is the most important.
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