When children reach about two years old, they are prone to depression or even abandonment when they encounter things they will not do, and some will take the initiative to say: "Mom! Help me! ”
However, there are some things that you know you have the ability to do or can do it with a little brain, and you are "too lazy" to do it yourself, so you directly ask adults for help
How can children learn to use their brains and learn to solve problems on their own?
Why is that?
The so-called do not like to use their brains, in fact, the child's post-cognitive ability is not strong (thinking about their own cognitive processes), by simply imitating what their parents teach, it is not enough to improve this ability.
You can do this
1. Show your child the process of thinking
When the child asks for help, of course, we can help, but a better way is to show the child the process of thinking, which is the most direct and useful way for the child to master how to think.
Scenario reproduction
Little D wanted to put a big cow in her toy farm, apparently couldn't put it in, and after a few tries she started to get anxious, lost her temper, and then asked me for help.
As I helped, I said my way of thinking:
"I see, you want the big cow to come home, well, let's see first, is the big cow?" Or is it farm-sized? (Really put together to compare)
The cows are big, the farms are small! So what to do? Let's try to find a bigger house for it! Look again, is the cow big? Or is the house big? (Compare it again)
Right! Big house, small cow!
That way you can put it in! (Then put the cows in a big box)
2. Contact old knowledge
In daily life, we consciously link new and old knowledge.
When I took Little D to the park, I let her touch the grass and tree trunks, so that she could experience the concepts of hard and soft;
When reading picture books together at night, when you see other "hard" and "soft" things, you will repeat the "soft and hard concepts" learned during the day, and you can also ask further questions: What other things are "hard" and "soft"?
3. Heuristic questioning
During daily conversations, ask questions to increase your child's awareness of the thinking process.
When Little D finishes expressing her opinion, I usually don't make judgments or right or wrong conclusions first, but inspire her: "Why do you say that?" ”
"With your current knowledge, what do you know?" Where else can I start to solve the problem? ”
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Inspired?