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In the past month, the most high-profile people and events, in addition to the grand Winter Olympics and the proud son of heaven, Gu Ailing, is the thing that happened in Xuzhou, the woman whose name we still can't determine, and the countless tragedies hidden behind this matter.
I watched the "news" over and over again, and I watched one similar story after another. For those who can not become the master of their own life of the protagonist of the story of grief, with netizens resentful, for the relevant departments to deal with the way and the mainstream media silence and chills.
And today, we want to bring you a film "She Said: Moments of Women's Lives". The play was launched in 2018 to mark the 100th anniversary of Women's Suffrage in the UK. Just 8 episodes, each episode is a scene, a woman, a monologue. The whole drama focuses on the changing living conditions of women in the past century, showing the repression, pain and valuable spirit of their courage to resist.
Let's know her name and listen to herself—
To what extent does a woman have autonomy within marriage? There is an episode of the show about "marital rape": until 1991, rape of a wife was legal in England.
Ivy was a victim of marital rape. Her husband felt that his wife should unconditionally satisfy her sexual needs, and read about the relevant laws in the digest to support her views and do whatever she wanted at home.
Ivy couldn't stand it and went to the police to seek justice, but the police said they could only deal with the matter according to the physical injuries, and they couldn't care about the sexual part. Ivy fell into isolation.
What pained Ivy the most was that the person who raped her was the person she had fallen madly in love with. And now, she has to continue living with him in order to maintain a full marriage. In this great contradiction, Ivy deceives herself, treating her husband as a pig, believing that his behavior is only out of animal nature and can make her feel better.
A week ago, the law finally changed, but that didn't suddenly make Ivy's life better. Because after the law was rewritten, Ivy had to face a new identity of herself: a rape victim.
After the law clearly defined marital rape, Ivy's self-illusion was completely shattered, and she had to admit that her husband was not a pig, but a rapist. She is afraid that her new identity will affect her work and that people will talk about it behind her back, because people still have a lot of prejudices about "rape".
Sometimes, Ivy felt very regretful. In the past, when she made decisions for daily life, she echoed her husband's thoughts, and when he went against her will again and again, she failed to bravely express her true feelings. If I had been able to fight for myself a little bit, maybe everything would not have become what it is now.
Marrying you does not mean that I belong to you. It does not mean that I have given up my mastery over my body and life, and it has become what you do as you please.
If marriage is motivated by two people's belief in a long and happy life, then when one of them completely violates such a original intention, the other undoubtedly has the right to leave. Although the change of law will not make Ivy's life recover in an instant, it will make thousands of women understand that whether inside or outside the marriage, women will always have the right to control their own body and mind, and always have the right to say "no" to acts against their will.
The violation of women's rights and the repression of women's autonomy are sometimes direct, sometimes gradual, and sometimes in the name of protecting women.
In Leeds in 1977, several women were killed and the whole community was in a state of panic. The police came knocking on Eva's door to inform her that there was another victim and handing out leaflets. The leaflet reads: We advise women to stay home after nine o'clock in the evening, do not leave the house unless necessary, and if you must go out, make sure that someone is with you, with a man you know, a man you trust.
This seemingly protective provision actually restricts women's freedom. They do not see the maintenance of social order as the responsibility of the whole society, and do not educate women not to harm as the responsibility of men, but they regard women going out to protect themselves as the solution to the problem.
Because of your uncivilized, we have to bear the burden of not being free? Eva, who was so angry at the curfew against women, asked, "Why, what are women doing wrong?" The police had to use some "for your own good" to prevaricate.
In this atmosphere and ideas, the concept of equality between men and women has also been affected. For example, Grey sends Eva home with good intentions, but his mannerisms reveal his views on women. He felt that women were delicate, vulnerable and needed the protection of men. So, when Eva saw Grey's expression of expectant gratitude, she was very bored. There are many men who think they respect women, but they have not yet understood the true meaning of "respect".
If curfews against women are really motivated by a sense of protection, why not limit the freedom of potential offenders, but rather the freedom of potential victims? So, Eva asked rhetorically, "It's past nine o'clock, and I shouldn't meet any man on the street who doesn't have a woman to accompany or guarantee me." If you don't want to be seen as a murderer, why not stay home? ”
Like Eva, many women are reluctant to accept such a curfew, and they launch a march to regain the night, using practical actions to promote their hearts and defend their rights.
Until now, whenever there is a case of a woman being killed while going out late at night, we can always hear the advice that "women should minimize night travel".
But the act itself implies that it is her own responsibility to be victimized, and that no victim is perfect. When women's safety, more precisely, when the safety of citizens is difficult to guarantee, shouldn't efforts be made to create a safer social environment and establish a more standardized and reasonable security system? Women have been harmed, and they should not continue to be deprived of a part of their freedom in the name of protection, and become prisoners of time.
One of the absurdities of this society is that it often gives more tolerance and understanding to the perpetrators, and those who insist on blaming and not forgiving are sometimes accused of being "not generous." This may show that our entire society has not yet learned the most basic respect, and is still vulnerable to "force" threats and temptations.
"Europeans only, Indians and dogs are not allowed." In 1932, the Bengal region, which was still ruled by British colonialists, could see such slogans everywhere.
At a time when women in Britain have won their right to vote and can choose politicians like men and let them represent themselves in the government, Bangladeshi women are still in the double oppression of the British government and men. They were enslaved by the colonizers because of their race, and not respected by their families because of their gender: their hard-earned honors and degrees were not recognized by the British; they were required to bow down to their husbands and touch each other's feet as a sign of respect when they married, but they did not reciprocate with the same etiquette.
They were slaves of men at home and slaves of the British when they went out. Slaves, on the other hand, are not treated as human beings, and their dedication to their families and society is seen as a matter of course, not affirmed, not recognized, not seen. They are ghostly beings in this society.
What is even more tragic, however, is that Bengalis, who should have been united, have been brainwashed. The British said that because of their skin color, they were superior to the Bengalis, and they said more, and the Bengalis themselves believed; the men said that women were inferior to them, and should be born inferior to them. People try to be law-abiding and moral people, but they forget that this law and morality are absurd shackles imposed by others.
And in order to break this shackle, resistance became their only way out. For the sake of freedom and truth, for themselves and all their loved ones who have experienced or are about to experience oppression, they choose to fight with their backs on the stigma of freaks and sluts. One of the warriors in this group, her name was Pritillata Waddedar.
We talk about politics, we talk about human rights, we talk about institutional injustices and loopholes in laws. In real events, this pair of oppressive hands merges into airtight chains and cages, closing the voice and killing humanity. (What you need to know about layers of oppression: Intersectionality: Same-Sex Marriage and Gender/Equality)
Too many people are accustomed to this "default model" of their environment, accustomed to questioning all thoughts and behaviors that do not meet the current standards, but rarely questioning the standard itself: "Why is this so?" "Why do I think that?" "Is what I think really what I think, or is this society instilling in me?" And Mr. Lu Xun's deafening "It's always been like this, right?" ”
But many times, the environment itself has long thought of a foolproof plan to prevent any doubt. As the play says, the colonizers establish laws to better oppress the colonized, and the rebels will only be snuffed out as outliers. In the cage of such institutions and social disciplines, all are victims, and victims in turn harm the more vulnerable victims.
Ky authors say:
The drama spans from the heroine of the 1932 Bangladeshi rebellion against oppression to the victims of the #Me too movement. We can see that over the past hundred years, women's human rights have come back to their own hands little by little: most women have the right to education and higher autonomy, and can move relatively freely from within the family to a wider workplace.
However, this does not mean that equal rights have been fully realized, and we are even facing the possibility of historical regression at all times. This is not only because the status quo does not allow us to relax, but also because the consciousness of equality and the desire for freedom have not yet become our deepest thoughts, our eyes, our gestures. Only when it is as natural as breathing will it not disappear from a momentary stability, nor will it be extinguished by the temptation of a little interest.
Let us not forget that the ordinary freedom we enjoy today was obtained by those who were "more real", "crazy" and "overly sensitive" predecessors, who fought and even bled. As a grandmother in the play who is determined to fight to the end said to her grandchildren: we should believe in our own strength, believe that what we do is not only about ourselves, we are also connected with more people.
It is a protracted and lengthy struggle that requires everyone to give their strength.
I'm willing to be a part of that force, what about you?
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