Eva's story, worth watching

Eva is a single mother. Daughter Molly, 5, comes to live with her every other week. She also has a roommate named Jessie, who sometimes helps take care of Molly.

Usually on weekend mornings, Molly watches her favorite cartoons, and Mom goes to sleep a little longer. But one morning around 9 a.m., Jessie asks Molly to turn off the TV because she's going to work, and she thinks Molly has been watching TV for too long. Unexpectedly, Molly immediately began to cry.

Eva heard Molly's cries in the bedroom, and she heard Jessie growing more annoyed and talking louder and louder. Eva pulled up the blanket to cover her head, and she asked herself, "How do I feel now?" She had a lot of feelings: embarrassed because her daughter was disobedient, angry because her roommate couldn't be more tolerant, annoyed that she had to get up and deal with the problem. She noticed that the tension in her shoulders and neck was gradually increasing.

Eva also noticed her own escalating thoughts, accompanied by accusations from everyone in the scene: "If Jessie herself is a mother, she can understand how difficult it is to raise children." If I could have done better, I would have gotten up by now to accompany Molly, after all, I don't see her every weekend. If only Molly wasn't so crying, her emotions were too rich. She had deliberately cried just to wake me up, and she was exactly like her father. ”

Eva had been trying to make herself less yelling. She has made progress in becoming aware and changing her mind. So, she chose to stop these negativities

The thought calmed himself down: "In the morning we all need some free time to do our own thing." Molly was a sensitive child. Adapting to living with me with a case sale change is no longer easy for her. Jessie had to work every weekend, so

Little Eva

Inevitably, there is a lot of pressure.

Eva paid attention to her breathing, and took a few easy abdominal breaths to make sure she was calmer before rushing out to solve the problem. Suddenly, she realized that she had changed a lot. If she had been in the past, she would have jumped out of bed and rushed out. Even if she is dissatisfied with Jessie, she will yell at her daughter. But now, she will first reassure herself and realize that the current situation is not urgent enough to deal with immediately.

She went into the living room and sat down on the couch, close to her daughter. Molly was still crying. She put her arms around her and said, "Good morning! I know you especially enjoy watching cartoons. What's your favorite this morning?" Molly's crying turned into a whisper, and she complained that she hadn't finished watching the cartoon today and that Jessie was fierce to her. Eva listened intently and sympathetically. Then she turned to Jessie and said, "It looks like you still have to work on such a beautiful Saturday morning." The TV is on, I'm still sleeping, and it's definitely going to affect you in particular. ”

She didn't try to make up for it or change anything right away, but used her calm state to help them both relax. She knew emotions were contagious, so she spoke softly, and then she noticed molly calming down and Jessie starting to relax.

She stroked Molly's hair gently, an action molly loved so much. After a minute or two, she asked Molly if she was hungry and if she wanted to make some delicious eggs and sausages for breakfast. Molly continued to complain about the cartoon for a while, but agreed to follow her mother. Jessie tells Eva that she plans to go to the office and will be away soon. Then there's really no need to do anything. Eva planned to talk to Jessie in the evening. She wanted to tell her that Molly was less resilient and stubborn at the same time, so she needed to be reminded before she turned off the TV. Jessie likes Molly, but often forgets to consider Molly's personality, sometimes giving Molly several instructions at the same time, leaving her at a loss. Eva used to be embarrassed by Molly's sensitive, emotional, and stubborn personality, but now she's slowly being able to accept her daughter. At the same time, she is also learning how to set boundaries for Molly and not give up because she cries.

Eva suggested that the three of them have a group meeting on Sunday. They can arrange some fun activities for Jessie and Molly, as well as clear rules for watching TV on weekends.