Do you know the real reason you broke up?
Yesterday, I received two special messages.
"Xiaobian, I don't know where I didn't do it well.
I love her so much, why does she still want to break up with me? ”
The guy told me he was nice to his girlfriend;
Whatever she wants to eat and the cosmetics she likes, she will buy her;
As soon as she has time, I will take her to the movies, go shopping...
But she insisted on breaking up.
Coincidentally, this girl also left me a message:
"The scarf I knitted by my own hand, which he called tattered;
When I cried, he laughed at me for crying so ugly...
It turns out that there are really people who are good to you at the same time;
Also turn a blind eye to your grievances. ”
When you are touched by the dedication of your own brain, she silently swallows her grievances alone;
By the time you thought her life was running out, she had already saved enough to leave.
The grievances suffered are like a debt;
No matter how good the debtor is to the creditor, it cannot be used to pay off the debt.
You see, the good and bad in love cannot cancel each other out.
In the movie "Forgive Him 77 Times", Eva and Adam were together for 10 years;
Every time she was disappointed and heartbroken, she recorded it in her notebook:
Birthday gifts receive cloud disks, buy sofas without measuring size;
Forget that she doesn't eat raisins, travels don't make plans...
It turned out that the only thing she could do was to forgive him:
"It's really hard to leave, especially when it's become a habit to forgive him."
And Adam didn't love her:
The cloud disk is intended to be used to record life, and the sofa is the white she likes;
After the dispute broke up during the trip, he was also worried.
Even so, after one last disappointment, Eva chose to leave.
There is a word called "natural subtraction" that can be used to describe between couples;
From wanting to leave to leaving, it is a process of disappointment constantly superimposed, and love naturally diminishes.
Let a person completely decide to leave you, its practical is not a big deal;
You just let her down when she's expecting it, pour cold water on her enthusiasm;
When she is vulnerable, it is enough not to add fuel to the fire, and it is enough to ignore it.
In love, there are no small things.
It's like two people building a house, you steal the job, I subtract material;
Without encountering typhoons or torrential rains, the house will have inexplicable cracks.
Maybe on some clear day, it suddenly collapsed;
By the time you realize the consequences, small things have become big things.
Hulan once told the secret of chasing girls in a talk show:
"There is no need for any fancy tricks;
You just need to be normal, and you're better than 90% of the people. ”
The same is true of this view in romantic relationships.
Some people may think that candlelight dinners and lipstick flowers are ways to express love;
But what can move people the most is those simple cares and concerns.
Just like Tang Yan and Luo Jin, when they attended the event together;
He always held her hand and gave enough security.
In front of the national audience, they will also crouch down to tidy up her skirt;
When participating in the New Year's Eve concert, he will secretly hand her candy.
The degree of love can really be seen clearly in the details.
In the interview, Tang Yan said how Luo Jin treated her:
"He was the one who held me in the palm of his hand;
So as long as I'm happy, he can do anything. ”
The point is "I'm happy" rather than "he feels"
When loving people, it is most taboo to use self-righteous ways;
This can only satisfy yourself and ignore the other party.
It should put the other person's wishes first and have insight into what she wants;
Be content to see her satisfied smile, be happy for her.
Venus once said that when her daughter grows up, she will tell her:
"If a man is upset that you squeeze the bus and complains that you don't eat on time;
Always remind you to drink less and hurt your body, and on rainy days, tell you to pay attention to safety when you come home from work;
Send funny text messages to coax you when you're sick... Please leave him alone.
You have to talk to the one who is willing to drive you, be sick with you, take you to dinner, pick you up after work;
Tell you're going to break the job, don't do it, follow me home!' 'people together. ”
Verbal checks cannot buy bread, and empty words cannot fill their stomachs;
That kind of vain love is not even a liking.
And to be in the heart is a wonderful feeling;
With this feeling, you can be full of motivation to love.
Love and disappointment are the two things that are the most unclear;
Because they are all hidden in the details.
Care to nourish love, grievances to water disappointment;
The speed at which they take root and sprout determines the direction and outcome of feelings.
Don't let disappointment preempt you until your love continues to the full grid;
Indulge it like an eraser, erasing the hard work along the way.
If the last relationship experienced this, I hope you meet the one who feels sorry for you;
If you're going through it, it's not too late to remedy it.
There are many kinds of meals in this world, and eating them with the same person is delicious;
The premise is that you know that he is used to using his left hand, so put the plate on the right;
He remembers your taste, so cook without putting onions, ginger and garlic.
Love can have thousands of forms, but none of them can hide love itself.
I look everywhere, everywhere is love;
You count, and you are satisfied with everything.
In this way, it is worth loving each other for a lifetime.
Source: Want Want House