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Someone on the Internet asked: "What is a good marriage like?" ”
One of them replied: "A good marriage is a cooperative relationship, with economic sharing, shared responsibility, and more risky sharing." ”
I agree.
When I was young, I always thought that marriage was just a continuation of sweet love and the beginning of a good life.
With the passage of time, I gradually realized that a happy marriage must not only withstand the romance of wind and snow, but also withstand the test of chai rice oil and salt.
And all of this is often inseparable from the mutual support between husband and wife.
Couples who can live a lifetime are not how deep the feelings are, but will "cooperate".
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Economic sharing is to give each other love and trust
Sanmao once said: "Marriage cannot last long if it cannot fall on such small things as dressing, eating, and counting money." And these chai rice oil and salt, everything is inevitably related to money. ”
In marriage, women are often the party who takes care of the family and needs to spend a lot of time and effort on this.
Behind a good marriage, there must be a man who takes the initiative to spend money on the woman.
Because only money can make the other half get rid of the triviality of chai rice oil and salt, and will make the other half's life comfortable.
In the entertainment industry, Yuan Yongyi and Zhang Zhilin, a loving couple, are a model in this regard.
Yuan Yongyi was asked on the show who was in charge of the money at home, and she generously said that she was in charge;
Knowing that his wife is keen to buy brand-name bags, although Zhang Zhilin jokes about "don't buy bags again", he still willingly pays for his wife;
Even in the show to make a "final" confession to Yuan Yongyi, you have to worry about whether she has enough money...
You see, the man who loves you will not hesitate to use money to guarantee your quality of life, because in his eyes, you are much more important than money.
A man who doesn't love you, no matter how rich he is, will not pay for you in money, because in his eyes, money is more important than you.
There is a saying that makes perfect sense: "Money, although it does not represent everything, can measure everything." ”
In marriage, money doesn't represent everything, but it measures your partner's attitude toward you.
For men, handing over money to the other half is not only money, but also love and trust.
Because I love you, I am willing to spend money for you; because I trust you, I am assured to leave the money to you for safekeeping.
Those marriages that can really reach the end may not have sweet words, but there will never be a lack of financial sharing.
Because the payment of money is far more practical than the verbal you and me, and it can bring a full sense of security to the other party.
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The sharing of responsibilities is to hold up a piece of heaven for each other
A few years ago, my aunt and uncle started a business together and opened a clothing company.
Due to catching up with the dividend period of e-commerce, the company once developed vigorously.
However, due to the influence of the market environment, not only the garment factories cooperating have closed down one after another, but also lost a large number of customers.
In this way, the company soon closed its doors, and they went bankrupt.
The disaster is not alone, Grandpa suddenly checked out leukemia, and urgently needed a large amount of treatment costs. But the brothers and sisters in the family found various reasons to shirk and did not want to pay.
As a result, this burden fell on the sister-in-law, which made the already indebted family even worse.
The aunt who is very strong does not want her uncle to worry, and hides from her uncle to raise money from relatives and friends, but the uncle finally learned about it from the mouth of the relative.
But he not only did not blame the little aunt, but also gave all the money he had worked hard to save for his daughter for more than ten years to solve the urgent need.
Later, in order to earn more medical expenses, my aunt and uncle decided to go out to set up a stall.
Every day before dawn, the two of them would pull a cart together to the market to sell breakfast. In the evening, they sell kebabs and work until the early hours of the morning.
Even with their burdens on their shoulders, they didn't say a word bad about each other. Sometimes when they are tired from work, they rub each other's shoulders and beat their backs.
Half a year passed, Grandpa's condition gradually improved, and their feelings became deeper and deeper with the support of each other.
No matter how heavy the responsibility, two people share the burden, can also become relaxed; no matter how difficult the road, two people hand in hand, can also go smoothly.
Some people say that marriage is a practice and a path of growth.
But marriage is more like a process of escalation and fighting monsters, because the responsibilities in marriage involve all aspects, but anyone less involved will overwhelm the other person.
Only when two people work together to defeat the monsters in life can they usher in a better day; only when two people support each other in the sky can they reduce the heavy responsibility they share.
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The same risk is to support each other to walk every step of the way
Someone online asked the question: "What is the best marriage you've ever seen?" ”
An anonymous netizen answered this question with the story of his parents.
When he was 7 years old, his father failed to invest, not only losing all the family's savings of 300,000 yuan, but also owed more than 100,000 foreign debts.
The father gave up on himself, but the mother not only did not say a word of blame, but also took the initiative to go out to make money and pay off the debt with the father.
When he was 10 years old, his mother wanted to buy a house in a big city, and he was afraid that he would not have enough money in his hand, so his father accompanied his mother to work hard in the big city.
When he was 15 years old, his father had an accident and was in urgent need of surgery, and his mother rushed to his father's place overnight, taking care of him day and night.
When he was 20 years old, his mother lent money to relatives to do business, but the relatives refused to pay back the money and spoke harshly to their mothers. When his father found out, he immediately went to his relative's house to seek justice for his mother.
Although the father is old, no car, no house and no savings, but the mother still does not give up; although the mother has a bad personality, she always nags and nags, but the father still loves the mother.
It turns out that the best state of marriage is that when experiencing wind and rain, there will always be the person you love the most; it is a comrade-in-arms who fights side by side with two people, never abandoning or giving up.
As the saying goes: "Husband and wife are the same forest bird, and they fly separately when the big trouble comes." ”
How many couples, married for only a few years, can not withstand the hesitation of life, one shot and two scattered.
I wanted to have someone by my side who could accompany me to old age, but I was always alone in facing the bitterness of the adult world.
Without a solid shoulder to lean on, even if you live strongly, you will fall one day.
Marriage is not a child's play, and it is not a one-man show.
If a person lives as a team, what is the point of marriage?
A good marriage is never to hold up a piece of the sky alone, but to shield each other from the wind and rain, and to support each other to walk every step of the way.
For the rest of your life, if you have a person worth relying on, you must cherish it vigorously.
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How far a marriage can go depends on the depth of "cooperation" between husband and wife, and it is clear.
There's a saying that goes, "I don't believe there are two people in this world who are perfectly compatible, and if there is, it must be the result of working together." ”
The more I grow up, the more I find that a good marriage is actually a cooperation.
Understand the economic sharing, so that the marriage is full of love and trust; understand the responsibility of the same burden, so that the marriage is easy and sweet; understand the risk of the same burden, so that the marriage becomes strong and stable.
Life is really hard, may you and I meet the beloved, live their own small life in a down-to-earth manner, live the rest of their lives, and do not waste time.