I am my own dependency
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I don't know if you have such friends around you?
The pursuit of love first, once in love, it is easy to fall in love with the brain, and put all your energy and mind on each other.
Although the pursuit of happiness is the right of each of us, the "love brain" type of payment is often easy to eat the pain of love.
To get rid of the love brain, you have to do at least three things.
Never lose yourself for love
Schopenhauer once said that a man who does not have a thick self is not worthy of love.
Deeply.
Lovers love themselves first, only know how to respect, care, and understand themselves, and then someone will understand you, cherish you, and protect you.
You may wish to think about it in a different position, if there is such a person who puts all his thoughts on you all day long and stares at your life direction all the time, presumably you can't like it, right?
Just like I have a friend, for the sake of each other, she can overturn all the plans she has already made; she can also change her dress style and give up social and entertainment; even give up a good career and life.
In the years of love, friends have always regarded each other as the focus of their lives, but in the end, the other party returns her not to cherish and love, but to betray.
So much so that the other party left, and her whole world seemed to collapse.
I remembered a sentence I saw on the Internet:
"Loving a person must not lose oneself, otherwise once lost, you will not even find the way back, and you can only go to the abyss of the broken bridge."
Yes, without self-love, once you pay wrong, you will only let yourself lose everything, there is no way back.
You can love someone very much, and you can give a lot, but you, never easily lose yourself for a person.
You can take the initiative, but never upside down
I believe that many girls have had such an experience, right?
He is in a good mood, give you a reply, you are moved; he is in a bad mood, disappeared for several days, let you not think about tea, but came back like a person who has nothing to do, without even an explanation...
You stay up all night every day to wait for his news, but the other party will only think of you if you drink too much and are tired of playing.
Every time you want to give up, he will give you a candy, let you taste a little bit of sweetness, and continue to give everything for him.
You gave him all your enthusiasm, did not hesitate to pay everything for him, and tried to take 99 steps forward, but he was still indifferent.
As the saying goes, no matter how good a person is, he doesn't hurt you and has no use for anything.
Yes, humble can never be exchanged for true love, so even if you are good to him, you will never be able to touch him.
After all, pretending to be asleep, you can't wake up.
Girls, when you meet someone you like, you can take the initiative, but never paste it upside down.
Feelings that don't get a response, just stop it.
Your sincerity must be left to those who deserve it.
Stay single at any time
Yang Kasa said at the spit conference: Before falling in love, I was dashing, free, emotionally stable, and I felt that all the beauty in the world was on me, but after falling in love, I was vulnerable, suspicious, hysterical, and felt like Ziwei in Qiong Yao's drama.
In real life, many girls are the same, once in love, it is easy to suffer from loss and loss.
In fact, in the end, there is still a lack of singleness.
The so-called single force does not mean rejecting love and resisting marriage, but loving someone again and not having to revolve around him all day.
In addition to being the other half of the other party, you are also an independent individual, and you should also have your own independent space, your life, social interaction and entertainment.
When you are together, you enjoy the good times of two people; when you are not together, you enjoy the happiness of one person.
You must understand that no matter how much you love you, not every idea is the same as you, and not every hobby is the same as you.
You always have to learn to, so that you don't always pin your happiness and emotions on others.
So, whether in love or marriage, at all times, you have to stay single.
Even if in the end, you still have to be alone, and you can have a wonderful life.
Be sure to stay away from the love brain and love yourself well.
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Author: Xiao Bei, founder of (Kuwoxiaobei) All the Way north culture media Co., Ltd., a well-known emotional anchor. Best-selling author, author of "This Fickle World Rarely Has You", "Meet Every You with a Story", and has a public account that accompanies you to say goodnight at 9:09 every night. I want to cure every lonely patient with sound and words. It's good that you're here. WeChat public number: Xiaobei (kuwoxiaobei) Weibo @ Xiaobei loves to eat meat. Jiang, who has a story, published it with authorization, please contact the original author for reprinting.