After the baby is born, various "people who come over" will provide experience to the parents. Some people say that after the child is born, don't hold it often, let him lie there and play by himself, and exercise independence. Some people say that when the child cries, try to hold him and don't ignore him, which is not good for him.
In the first few months after the birth of the child, should he hold more or hold less and let him lie down on his own? Let's explore this problem together
One: The old man reminds him not to hold more children
When my daughter was born, the old man in the family told me that the child should not hold more, because it would be used to him. In the future, he is easy to use crying to "blackmail" his parents, and when he gets used to it, his parents will be very tired.
However, out of the parents' instincts, seeing children crying sadly, we inevitably want to pick up and coax.
This hug is too much, and the family will nag, saying that there will be bitter food in the future. If the child holds too much, it will spoil him, and it will be difficult to put down his hand and rest.
The old man's intentions were good, after all, afraid that we adults would be affected.
Can newborns hold more? I read a lot of books and looked at a lot of materials, and I found that in the first few months, hugging the child more had a lot of benefits for the baby.
Moreover, there is a big gap between children who are often held and children who are not held.
Two: There are differences in 3 aspects
What is the impact of holding the child regularly, and not holding the child? There are 3 aspects of the difference.
The brain develops better
After the birth of the child, although he belongs to the state of "eating and sleeping, sleeping and eating", in fact, when he is awake, his brain is developing rapidly.
He would constantly observe the behavior of the adults, listen to us, and look at the surroundings. He accumulates linguistic vocabulary and connects with adults by constantly seeing, listening, and adapting to our reactions.
So, when we hold a child, we are actually interacting with him. He observes new things around him, increases cognition, and his brain is constantly developing.
Children who are not often held will only lie on the small bed and stare at the ceiling. He couldn't learn to absorb new things, and it was difficult to hear adult conversations. At this time, his brain is almost blank, and his development is relatively slow.
Vision develops better
The child who is often held, he can go to more places and see more things. The outside world is particularly fresh for him. He would stare at the colorful things. Moreover, when there is a noise between people or things around him, he will turn his head to look for the source of the sound.
This will promote the child's audiovisual development, and will also allow the child to see foreign objects from multiple perspectives. This is good for your child's vision development.
And not much of a child to be held, he can see something limited, even boring. He lacks interest in exploring, and his vision develops relatively slowly.
More secure
The psychology of Maslow's theory of needs states that children are born seeking security and belonging.
Crying is how a child communicates with his or her parents. He was crying, probably telling his parents he was hungry, thirsty, and unwell. At this time, if the parent reacts first, it meets his needs. He would form in his heart the belief that the world is trustworthy and that I can bond with the people who take care of me.
But if the child is not often held, no one dares to pay attention to him when he cries. Although he cried in the end, his heart was full of fear and disappointment: the world is untrustworthy, and when I have needs, no one will care about me.
These two kinds of children will also have different personalities in the future. Children with a sense of security, more extroverted and lively personality, brave and strong. Children who are insecure are full of distrust and are sensitive and timid about the outside world.
Three: What do I need to pay attention to when holding a baby?
When the child can climb and walk, he will refuse to hold us and ask himself to come down and walk. At this point, we don't have to hold him all the time. However, when the child is still unable to walk independently, we still try to hug him as much as possible and convey our love for him with actions.
Just holding a small baby, we also need to pay attention to the following points.
●Pay attention to the correct posture
Babies have imperfect spinal development and neck strength is not strong enough to support the head. At this time, when we hold the baby, we must support him with both hands and give him head and neck strength.
One hand can support the baby's hips and the other hand can hold his shoulder back so that his cervical spine is not hurt by force.
● Hold for 30 minutes after drinking milk and burp
After the baby has finished drinking milk, if he lies down immediately, he can easily spit up milk. The correct thing to do is to hold it for at least half an hour after drinking the milk and burp it gently. Hiccups are bent into a bowl and hiccup gently on the baby's back from bottom to top. After the baby burps, it is not easy to spit up milk, and it will not cry because of flatulence.
●Meet the needs in a timely manner
When the baby is asleep, we can let him sleep on his own, there is no need to sleep in his arms. If, when he wakes up, he doesn't cry, but lies in bed and plays by himself, then we can also let him play by himself and give him time to be alone.
If the baby is crying, then we must not ignore it, but should respond in time. See if your child wants to drink milk or change diapers. If he just wants us to hug, then it doesn't matter, after all, there is really not much time to hold the child all the time. We can enjoy this intimate and happy time.
When your baby cries, will you hug it right away?
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I am Youzi's father, there is a "little devil" in the family, I grew up with her, like it to pay attention to it~