There is a sentence in the Song of Filial Piety: "Ci Wu Shang feeds back, and the lamb kneels on its feet." Man is not filial to his relatives, but is not as good as grass and wood. Presumably this means filial piety to one's parents, not only as a human virtue, but also in the animal kingdom. If people do not filial piety to their parents and relatives, they are not as good as grass and trees.
It is true that it is not easy for parents to have children, they have worked hard and suffered a lot, and if their children fail to fulfill their filial piety, they should really feel ashamed. Filial piety to parents is a traditional virtue and the foundation of being human. As children, filial piety to parents is dedicated so that they do not leave regrets for themselves.
However, there is another saying: "Father is kind and filial to the son." It means that parents love their children, and children are filial to their parents. In fact, the emotional maintenance between family affection also has a sequence. The so-called "upper beam is not right, the lower beam is crooked", if parents fail to lead by example and achieve the parenting and care of their children, how can they require their children to achieve what degree of filial piety?
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Wang Meng and Li Qiang are in a college romance, and their relationship has always been very stable, and after graduating from college, they returned to their hometown together. The two people's hometown is the city next door, 2 hours away, Wang Meng does not feel that he is far married. However, her parents did not think so, and her parents saw that their daughter insisted on going to the city of the son-in-law, dead or alive to marry, and went to inquire about the son-in-law's personality.
Shocked, Wang Meng's parents ran to Li Qiang's hometown and met an old man. Introduce himself to Li Qiang, and then say that he is not filial piety, has a nose and an eye. Because all the information can be matched, parents are naturally convinced. When he came back, he asked his daughter to break up, saying that those who did not filial piety to their parents could not marry.
If a person is not filial to even the parents who have raised him, he cannot be considered as a friend, let alone marrying each other and starting a family.
But Wang Meng did not believe it, because the two had a 4-year emotional foundation and had experienced many things. Li Qiang's love and pity for the elderly and children are not like pretending. But she also believed that her parents would not deceive her, after all, her parents did not dissuade her with the ironclad matter of Li Qiang's poor family.
In the face of his girlfriend's inquiry, Li Qiang was silent for a while, first apologizing, saying that he should have told Wang Meng about his family situation earlier. But because some things are really embarrassed to open their mouths, and I am worried that my girlfriend will look down on me, I have been dragging it out until now. In Li Qiang's account, Wang Meng knew the cause and effect.
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Li Qiang's father died in The year of Li Qiang's freshman year, Wang Meng knew, but she did not know the reason for the death of the father-in-law: overwork and illness, living and dying.
The marriage of Li Qiang's parents is the fate of his parents, although his father and mother have no emotional basis, but he is loyal and honest and thinks that he must live a good life when he gets married. But who would have thought that his wife would not be a person who lives a good life at all. Li Qiang can be said to have a mother like no mother, and he was brought up by his father since he was a child.
"This family, if there is no father, it will be scattered a long time ago." Li Qiang's voice choked, and his father saved money for his son to study and for his wife to spend carelessly. He is also disgusted by his wife and has no ability, and is a provocateur. He fell ill with overwork and fell ill when his son was in his first year of college.
When Li Qiang knew, his father had died, and his mother said that he was sick and dead. But his neighbor secretly told him that during the time when his father was sick in bed, his mother always took people home, and in fact, he was angry. Li Qiang was angry, but his mother did not say no, the identity of the mother was placed here, Li Qiang had no way to take her, but he wanted to take huan's knees, filial piety, naturally not very realistic.
Wang Meng believed Li Qiang's story, and her parents later went again to verify Li Qiang's statement, and the marriage between the two was thus settled. However, Wang Meng still thought at first that the relationship between Li Qiang and his mother would be eased later, after all, blood is thicker than water. But unfortunately, Wang Meng later realized that the title of mother was sacred, and some people really did not deserve it.
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Because Li Qiang's mother said at the beginning that she had no money to change her mouth, but there was this process at the wedding, Li Qiang prepared 1888 yuan in advance and put it in the envelope, but in the end Wang Meng got an empty envelope containing several blank pieces of white paper. Not long after the wedding, Wang Meng also found that her mother-in-law was missing, and she was very anxious at first.
But after Li Qiang sighed, he asked Wang Meng not to worry, he said: "If I am not mistaken, my mother must have taken the gift money sent by relatives and friends to see her old friend." Sure enough, on the tenth day after the marriage, Wang Meng came home from work and found that his and Li Qiang's luggage had been left outside the door, and inside the house sat his mother-in-law and a shrewd old man.
The mother-in-law said she was going to remarry and the house was hers, so the son and daughter-in-law had to move out. Li Qiang didn't say anything, took the luggage that had been turned over by his mother, and took Wang Meng away. The two rented a house in the village and started a new life. Before long, Grandma fell ill and needed surgery.
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Since the uncles have all died, the aunt and the child, life is not easy, so I hope that The daughter of Wang Meng's mother-in-law can also bear a little cost, or come to take care of it, so that there is no need to ask for a nurse. But Wang Meng's mother-in-law refused, on the grounds that: "I have no money." ”
Li Qiang was angry, and he reasoned with his mother, accusing the other party of having money and preferring to spend it on someone else's son than for his own mother. What right do you have to accuse yourself of filial piety to your mother?
But Wang Meng's mother-in-law said: "My money, I am willing to spend it to whomever I want, you can't control it." "There was really no way, and later it was Wang Mengqing's mother's family who borrowed some money, which was a plug in the hole."
In the second year after marriage, Wang Meng became pregnant and gave birth, and her mother-in-law not only did not give a dime, but also did not come to see it. At this time, she was bringing grandchildren to the eldest son of "true love", and she couldn't care less about how difficult it was for her daughter-in-law.
In the fifth year after marriage, Li Qiang and Wang Meng were ready to build a house, the two saved a little money, and the mother's family also helped them, after all, they could not rent a house for a lifetime. When building a house, the mother-in-law was worried that her son and daughter-in-law would ask her for money, so she deliberately ran to her son and said: "You can do as many things as you want to build a house, don't count on me." ”
In the end, this house, which had no money or effort, was built by the mother-in-law and would bring her remarried husband to live in soon after it was built. He also chose the one with the best sunshine and the largest area, saying that the old house was uncomfortable to live in, and it was a matter of course to live in his son's house. Li Qiang was angry and had a big fight with his mother, and countless people watched.
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Ten years after marriage, the mother-in-law is old, too indulgent when she was young, and now she is sick. The so-called true love, taking the cash exchanged for the demolition of the old house, left her and left. The mother-in-law could not fight that person, or did not want to do it, she did not go to the trouble of finding that person, but moved into her son's house.
Even if Wang Meng and Li Qiang are angry again, they can't do it, after all, they are elders, their health is not good, they have nowhere to go, won't their son's family give her a place to live? It is reasonable to say that as long as Wang Meng's mother-in-law is a little more restrained and lives with peace of mind, Wang Meng and Li Qiang will still take care of her. But unfortunately, she still made a lot of noise.
In the end, Li Qiang ignored Wang Meng's objections and sent his mother, who was not very flexible, to a nursing home. In the local area, only the elderly without children will enter nursing homes. If you have children, even if the conditions are worse, they will not send their parents to a nursing home. Otherwise, not only will the elderly be looked down upon, but their children will also be said to be unfilial.
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But Li Qiang did not care, he said that the father was kind and filial, and his mother never gave him maternal love, then he could only fulfill his basic obligations. Li Qiang's approach, some people say that he is too calculated, after all, the times have changed, after all, it is his mother. But most people, they think he's not wrong, it's true that his mother is too outrageous. Do you say that an elder like Li Qiang's mother is worthy of filial piety to her children?
The ancients said: "Those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed to go are blessed." This means that when you treat others with love, others will return it with love; when you give the blessing to others, you will also receive blessings in the future. This is true between husband and wife, and it is also true between parents and children. Love or affection is mutual.
If parents do not know how to love their children, then the children will be affected, and they will not know how to filial piety to their parents in the future. Therefore, parents should lead by example and use their own love to subtly influence their children in order to pass on traditional virtues and good family style.
Born as a human being, at every stage of the life journey, we must try to play our role well, so as to harvest happiness.
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