In 19 years, when I was not very poor, a cousin who was one month older than me encountered difficulties and borrowed me more than 10,000 yuan, and said that the turnover was not working well, and he could return it to me in 2 months, he was my mother's sister

In 19 years, when I was not very poor, a cousin who was one month older than me encountered difficulties and borrowed me more than 10,000 yuan, and said that the turnover was not working well, and he could be returned to me in 2 months, he was the son of my mother's sister.

Because he was working in my brother's company at the time, I asked my brother and my mother and said not to borrow it, saying that he still owed someone else money and did not pay it back, but I considered lending him money. I think so, relatives, and from childhood to adulthood, we both have a good relationship, everyone will encounter difficulties, the help will have to help, I did not consider that he will return to me, I even think that no matter how long he drags on to pay me back, I will not urge him, as long as he still recognizes that he owes me money.

After giving him money, I didn't do anything when nothing happened, and he didn't pay back, but what made me slightly unhappy was that he broke off contact with me after that, I didn't answer the phone, and I didn't reply to a blessing WeChat every New Year's Day, if I didn't know that he was still working in my brother's company, I didn't know if he was in trouble, but I understood him again: it was difficult to face me without money when I encountered difficulties, it was normal. I told him with a little ridicule on WeChat that with just a few dollars, I can understand that you have encountered difficulties, and I do not ask you to pay back, how come you have not been contacted. Yet he still wouldn't reply to me.

Since July 2020, because of the work problems caused by the environment and my father's sudden cardiovascular disease, my economic situation has taken a sharp turn for the worse, and I have a small amount of savings and a lot of foreign debt, but even so, I still did not ask him for debts.

In June 2021, on the one hand, I was under great financial pressure, on the other hand, I was suddenly angry that he owed money and broke off contact with me, took the initiative to ask him for money, he did not answer my phone, I directly found my aunt (his mother), and forced my aunt to pay me back. Afterwards, I felt that this matter was over, and I would not exclude and discriminate against my cousin because of this, and it was normal to encounter difficulties.

Just did not expect that on the day of the payment, his sister (who has not contacted my cousin in the past 10 years) called me, the first day because of work did not receive, the next morning came to the phone again, received, at the beginning is some booing cold and warm scenes, after two minutes suddenly yin and yang weird up, "You obviously have a high income, and you know, your brother sent him that little salary, our relatives, 10,000 yuan to get to this point", so, Yunyun ... I didn't argue with the quarrel or anything like that, I just said, "Sister, I don't think I need to talk to you like that," and then I hung up the phone.

Then, I wrote a long text, wrote clearly about the development of the whole thing, and sent it to all our relatives, specifically at my uncle, my aunt, my cousin, my cousin. As soon as it was sent out, my mother and my aunt called me to withdraw it, saying that my relatives were doing this kind of thing. I turned it down head-on. Especially my aunt, said that my cousin had a bad life, encountered difficulties, and now the money is also paid back, what are you still doing like this? Do you look down on them? I said, this is not a matter of owing money, he encountered difficulties and owed me money and did not reply to me to understand, now the money is repaid to my cousin is still yin and yang Weird what does it mean to say this paragraph? I blame my cousin instead of the cousin who owed me money. Anyway, if she still doesn't spare it, I'll block it.

A few days later, I found out that I had been kicked out by our group of relatives. Even now, my debts are fully overdue.

I think it's a matter of course to pay off debts. However, individuals will encounter difficulties, others are difficult to help others, you are difficult to have someone to help you. Grateful to people in debt for understanding more respect is more like sending charcoal in the snow, rather than chasing after the poor. But it doesn't mean, I understand that with respect for you, you can kick your nose in the face