What should I do if I have unspoken rules of interpersonal relationships, asking people to do things, and being rejected? In real life, no one has three heads and six arms, it is impossible for everything to be done, and there will inevitably be times when people are asked to do things

What should I do if I have unspoken rules of interpersonal relationships, asking people to do things, and being rejected?

In real life, no one has three heads and six arms, it is impossible for everything to be done, and there will inevitably be times to ask people to do things.

But many people should also experience that when we ask for help, we will always be rejected.

As the saying goes, there is no good for no reason, and there is no evil for no reason. There must be a reason why others reject us, and don't just complain that the other person is too bad.

What should I do if I am rejected?

1. Know how to retreat as a way forward

In fact, in everyone's heart, there is a good side, and they are willing to help others, but there is a premise, that is, this matter does not need to pay too much cost and price, just a show of hands, then the other party is naturally willing to help.

Everyone, when making any decision, will mentally weigh the gains and losses and pros and cons.

If you spend a lot of time, but there is no benefit to yourself, then the family will come to help you, either your friendship is very deep, you really can't get away with it, or the other party is a fool.

Therefore, if the relationship between each other is very general, after the other party rejects you, don't push step by step, and ask the other party to help you, it will definitely backfire.

Instead, it should be put aside first, not too hasty, how deep the friendship is, how big a deal to do.

2, the chips given are not enough

Li Zhou also knows that many people like to talk about feelings on their lips, but we must also understand that no matter how deep the feelings are, it is no problem to help a little, but if it is something that requires a lot of energy, or mobilizes a lot of resources, it is impossible to rely on feelings alone to do it, and we must give enough chips.

So, when we are rejected, we must think about whether our chips are not enough.

Objectively speaking, as long as you have enough chips, there is nothing in this world that cannot be fixed.

And many people have a kind of psychology, always thinking of people's free help, thinking of going to white prostitution, then this is completely treating the other party as a fool, people will naturally perfunctory you.

If this is the case and you are rejected, the subtext of the other party is that your request has exceeded the chips you have given.

To put it bluntly, it's not that things can't be done, but you have to add money.

3, fear of taking risks

Generally, people who have just graduated are very disgusted with people and think that to be a person is to be dignified, so they always pretend to be very tall.

But after a few years of social mixing, you will understand that human emotions are really everywhere.

People who understand the sophistication of human feelings and those who do not care at all will really have two diametrically opposed fates.

If you want to find someone else to do something, the risk is very large, when others reject you, then you must think about it, is your trust not enough?

In this case, don't think that the other party's refusal is that he can't help you, but he needs a reliable intermediary to help you match.

The reason is simple, he does not trust you enough, so who can guarantee that you really want to do things, or want to grasp his handle through this matter?

I believe that many people also have feelings, if there is no trust in each other, even if you want to give gifts to each other, people will not accept.

In fact, it's not that he doesn't want to take it, but he's afraid to take the risk.

As long as you can find a middleman to reassure him, then this matter will definitely come to fruition and be done properly.

Adults, many times do not directly say the true thoughts of the heart, we need to figure it out for ourselves.

If you keep your head in the head and don't think about the reasons behind it, you will definitely miss a lot of opportunities.

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In this world, there are actually two sets of operating rules.

Superficial rules, can only be said, can not be done. And the unspoken rules, can only be done, can not be said.

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