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The man's character will be exposed at this moment
Q: He was introduced by a friend in 1983, looked old, bought a house, opened a tourism company, and had been to many countries before, because there was no business because of the epidemic.
He also has a job as a regional general manager, often traveling to socialize, and the restaurant, liquor bureau, and KTV are the places he will go to.
Asked what he was doing on socializing with KTV, he said it was just drinking and shaking the dice.
I'm '89, a very ordinary guy in every way, who looks small.
After working for more than 10 years, there is no breakthrough in work for various reasons, and he is still a grassroots employee, and the company is not developing well at this stage.
It does make me anxious about my future, but I still have a little savings, not much, enough to live my own life.
Plus WeChat for more than twenty days, not much online chat, so far I have met twice.
When I had never met, he asked me if I accepted that he traveled a lot and socialized a lot, saying that he was a bottom line person.
At that time, I only chatted on WeChat for two days, and I directly said that I could not answer such a question at present.
One night, he called me while socializing and drinking, saying that because his company had just handed over the business of another province to him, he would travel more and socialize more in the future, and there was no time for love.
He hopes to confirm the relationship with me before the New Year, and then he will fight for his career and talk about getting married for two years.
He said he wanted a stable home, didn't need me to make much money, didn't need me to bring my kids, but had to have my own job.
It does sound tempting, and I feel ordinary, slightly better than him, but the material conditions are too far from him.
Asked what he liked about me, he said I was a nice girl with simple self-respect, and remembered that the introducer had mentioned that his ex-girlfriend was a person who often went to nightclubs and didn't stay home.
I am not exclusive to him, but I think I still can't see this person clearly, and I always feel that there are still shortcomings between the two of them, and it is difficult to decide to become boyfriend and girlfriend with him in a short period of time.
How do you know what you really want? In what state do you need to make the best decision? Hope to get some help in getting to know yourself.
Cold Love Reply:
The answer to this story is particularly obvious.
First, talk less about WeChat and meet more.
Now it is not a question of whether to see clearly, but how can people who have not yet seen it have feelings?
This feeling must be met before you can make a decision.
Two people just chatting like this on the Internet, it is impossible to produce any sparks.
Only when two people really enter into contact and have a conflict, can they see the character and the character they want in the conflict.
Second, potential concerns.
In the above question, there is a sentence:
"He said he wanted a stable home, didn't need me to make much money, didn't need me to take the kids, but had to have my own job. It does sound tempting, and I feel ordinary, slightly better than him, but the material conditions are too far from him. ”
I think this sentence is a bit problematic, because it shows that she is still in a "want to be comfortable" cognition.
Friends who have been reading my column for a long time should upgrade the perception that you may have to work very hard to look relaxed.
Remember not to have a mentality of wanting to get over it easier, or wanting to lie flat, because women should have their own confidence at all times.
Moreover, even now, when two people have not met, it is simply not feasible to rely on this "want" on each other's material.
So, what we see here is that this temptation actually reflects a certain desire in our hearts.
Third, the inner nature of the map.
If you feel that you are an ordinary grassroots employee, have nothing, and feel that the other party's social interaction is very complicated, this also reflects a kind of anxiety within yourself:
After worrying about being with such a person, can you adapt to such a life, or even endure a person's long absence?
So, it's time to ask yourself: Do you need someone who can accompany you every day, or someone who socializes every day?
This is something to think clearly before two people meet, and if you don't want such a person, there is no need to even meet.
