Netizen: Tell me the story of my only daughter in Jiangsu and Zhejiang marrying a rural man, I think it is very good. -----------------------------I'm old

Netizen: Tell me the story of my only daughter in Jiangsu and Zhejiang marrying a rural man, I think it is very good.

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My husband is a rural person in a relatively poor province, 985 master's degree, doctor, 70, I am after 85. Has a younger brother. By the time I met him, he was 35 years old. I think a grown man can be his own master, and it doesn't matter if his parents don't participate in marriage, and then the bride price gives me 50,000, not given by my in-laws, given by my husband, which is equivalent to the left hand to the right hand. The money spent on the wedding banquet, the in-laws did not pay, and the share of the money was collected by themselves. Have a baby confinement center and spend your own money. Babysitter with kids + mother-in-law.

Married for 10 years, his parents were transparent. I don't care, there is no expectation and no requirement, my husband is willing to give the family as much as he wants, about 10,000 to 20,000 a year from the beginning of work. When I first worked and stayed in the dormitory, his father took a day and a night train to ask for money, and I expressed shock.

As an only child in cities around Jiangsu and Zhejiang, although the family is not very rich, her parents are retired from state-owned enterprises and have commercial houses, and there is no burden. Do a small business yourself, and your income is several times that of a doctor.

Such a combination is of course good for the in-laws, and the sons do not want them to spend money when they get married and have children, after all, the mother's family conditions are good. The two children born are also brought up by the mother's family, both follow the father's surname, and there is no requirement to follow the mother's surname. The in-laws are almost unburdened.

But the son of the in-laws is basically equal to a white child. Although I never said that I would not go back to my hometown with my husband, he seemed to take the initiative to cut off contact with my hometown. He had several uncles and aunts, but I didn't know or see them. What poor relatives came to us, non-existent, and my husband hardly contacted them. Asked if he wanted to go back to his hometown for the New Year, he said that there was not so much rest, and who would take care of the patients.

Of course, this is one of the reasons, but I think it is more that he himself is not willing to go back. After 10 years of marriage, I went back to my hometown three or four times, I didn't bring me or my children, and the time spent added up to a week, and his parents came to my house to stay, but he didn't want to go back.

According to my analysis, he should gradually adapt to urban life and no longer have been able to live in the countryside. He mentioned that staying in the countryside for a night was very painful and could not sleep. He felt that the life of having a wife and children, a car and a house here was very good, and people would try to avoid the unbearable past. It may also be that he went out to study from his teenage years, did not live with his parents for nearly 30 years, his feelings were very weak, it was okay to give money, and it was difficult to live together.

Therefore, now that his parents and his brother's family are close and have bought a house for his brother with all the money, they should be ready to find his brother for the elderly. This son should be raised in vain. For my children, there are only grandparents and no grandparents, although his family name is almost no longer related.

So it is normal for rural people to have the heart to eat the desperate family, we also let you eat, the child and your old family name, the parents-in-law's everything is your old family, but your old son also knows who is good to him and who is not so sincere with him, and also knows where the home is more like a home, where life is more like life, people go to the high place and the water flows to the low place, and the son of the old family who has changed his bloodline is still willing to serve the old man well, it is not easy to say. [/cp]