Wen \ Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
01. Import
In "The First Book to Understand the Relationship between Men and Women in Seconds", it is said:
"Love is not the whole of life, it is only thirty percent of life, and seventy percent you have to allocate to family, career, and interests."
Deeply believed, men and women should be like this, talk about a love, the three views of the synthesis of the combination of the three views, words do not speculate, do not achieve success, do not need to have too many questions, too many demands, once you ask more, ask more, let yourself fall into obsession, into passivity, and even into a disadvantage, then why is it bitter? Isn't it more profitable to spend all this energy on running a business, running yourself, and improving yourself while reaping a more worthy love?
Into the case.
02. Case (Authorized)
Hello Mei Niang! I have known her for almost a year, we are all divorced after coming together, I am a worker, there is a house, she is a clerk, there is a room, a little older than mine, and she herself also made a small shop, the efficiency is not bad, the overall income should be better than me.
At first, we had a good relationship, but then she always said that I was lazy, that I didn't understand her, that I wasn't the husband she wanted, and that she wanted to break up.
I really loved her, wanted to give her happiness and respected her choices, and agreed to break up the first time. But after a few days, I began to regret it, and I took the initiative to go to her, and she could accept me and did not avoid intimate relationships.
But then I found out that during the time she and I said break up, she was constantly looking for different men, although she didn't have a substantial relationship with them, but she was really looking for new targets, chat history I also read some, to be honest, for those men who have better conditions than me, she is quite good at making up for others, of course I am very angry, directly confronting her, she is also very honest, everything told me, so I was very broken, ignored her for a few days.
But after a while, I couldn't give up on her again, I just wanted to keep going to her, and finally she accepted me, anyway, she continued to associate with other men while accepting me. This went on for months, some time ago she told me to break up, said she found a new boyfriend, I disagreed, begged her, she is still willing to have an intimate relationship with me, and finally I asked her if she wanted to break up, her attitude was very determined, that is, to break up with me, and then began to ignore me, I also found that she may really find a better man to associate with.
Hey, Mei Niang, I am in pain now, I don't want to break up with her in my heart, I want to know, do we still have any hope? Can I still chase her back? And what exactly is such a woman after? Is she looking for true love, or is she looking for a rich master? Is this kind of person worth saving? I would like to hear your suggestions. Thank you!
03. Mei Niang said
Honey, hello, it is safe to say that you can chase her back, provided that she looks around, or finds that only you are the best for him, willing to marry her, and she really wants to find a home, then you two can succeed, but you must take a risk, that is, after she is good with you, she will still ride a donkey to find a horse, and will not be loyal to you.
If I'm not mistaken, this girlfriend of yours should be the kind of person who thinks very openly, thinking that she is married twice anyway, and she is not afraid of three marriages, so if you don't find a really suitable, really willing, then why remarry casually? The place where she wants to open up is also reflected in the fact that she should be completely free of herself after the divorce, and before she meets the really suitable person, she can't be wronged her body and mind, so she will always hang on to you, never really refuse, so that you will always have an opportunity to take advantage of her, so she gets satisfaction, and you get gains and losses.
Therefore, even after you get married, this betrayal when you are in love will repeat itself, because she treats you as a spare tire in her bones and has never seriously respected you, so once she has a good opportunity, she will betray you first.
What am I pursuing, you ask? You ask her, and she must tell you that she is pursuing true love! You ask again, so what do you think of me? She would say she was testing true love! Trying love! If she really was a material gold worshipper, would she admit it? Confessed and then fell on your lips? She won't be so stupid, but you'll also find that as long as you find a man with better material conditions, she will snub you immediately, does this still need her to say anything? Isn't it just a matter of looking at her actual actions?
In addition, you have to remember a truth: people who are better than you, look up to you, are willing to be with you, most of them are conditional, you may think that you are good enough for her, considerate, and obedient, but what she wants is that you want to tolerate her behavior that can break the bottom line at any time.
Under the interchange of roles in this truth, you may understand more deeply, just like some rich and powerful men, they earn more, they are the main economic pillar of the family, after the woman marries him, she only needs to teach her husband and son, outsiders will envy the hostess's years are quiet, but the price that the hostess has to pay is to allow men to engage in three or four. In our normal marriage, the bottom line of women and men is to be loyal to each other, but in such a marriage, it is a double standard, that is, my man can be like this, and you women must abide by women's morality. The mistress in such a marriage did get the years to be quiet, but she paid for the crushing and torture of the spirit.
The same is true of your case, and you have to understand that the person who betrayed you will still betray you, the person who loves you, will still love you, since she has a history of betrayal, then you have to save her, you must be prepared to continue to be betrayed, if you are not afraid of being mentally crushed and tortured, then you should pursue her well, after all, she wants to marry a condition that is better than you, and it is not easy, so you can always catch some of her empty window period, so that you have a place to play.
Is it necessary for a seven-foot man to do a small low in order to pursue a woman with three wrong views? Is the way you maintain a relationship is to teach yourself to back down and compromise? If so, then I really look down on you a little bit.
Finally, if you really want to save, a right way, is to let yourself really shine, to become a high-quality male in her eyes, your relationship will improve with your class, your cognition, your strength, and thus a qualitative change.
Maybe she'll come to her knees and lick you, and you, a successful man, really want to put on a green hat that much?
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