Some time ago, the Ministry of Education issued a notice to deploy the "double reduction" work during the winter vacation, and the notice put forward the "three stricts": strictly prevent non-disciplinary training institutions from exceeding the scope of discipline training; severely punish illegal training behavior; and strictly control the total amount of written work during the winter vacation.
During the winter vacation, there is no make-up class, no homework, is it that the child can let go of himself? Parents just let it go?
Of course not!
You know, winter vacation is not only a "rest area", but also a "gas station".
Parents should not only let their children rest well and nourish their energy, but also fill their children with oil and let their children store up their energy, and the most critical thing is to do these three things: reading, companionship and habits!
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No reading family
There is no good education
There are always many parents who say that their education is not high and their culture is not enough, is it not a good education for their children?
Of course not, parents are not teachers, they must teach cultural knowledge to their children, and families are not schools and do not need to teach their children.
More functions and responsibilities of family education are not to let children take many points, but to shape children's personality, conduct, heart, quality...
Not every parent is an education expert, but every parent can cultivate their child's reading habits.
There is a saying that if education cannot be done, it will be handed over to reading.
Relationships, friendships, love, frustrations, egos and dreams, these textbooks may not be taught, and families rarely talk about them, and the answers can be found in reading.
No matter how much we emphasize the importance of reading, many parents still disagree with the "utilitarian" nature of reading.
Indeed, reading does seem to be "useless" compared to a large, fast-acting cram school.
Wen Rumin, chief editor of the unified language compilation textbook, said: The language college entrance examination is a selective examination, and at least 15% of the candidates will not be able to complete the examination paper in the future.
The biggest common denominator of these 15% of test takers may be that they do not read. The most obvious change in the language proposition of the college entrance examination is the amount of reading and reading speed, and reading too little and too slowly can not finish the paper.
All subjects are examined reading level, "the era of language is king" is no longer a slogan, do not read from an early age, the middle and high school entrance examination will be very bad.
There is reading, then there is learning, and then there will be grades.
If the child only studies textbooks and copes only with homework, then his understanding of the world is limited to every inch, and the knowledge he absorbs is limited to textbook knowledge.
Through massive reading, dabbling in encyclopedias, and reading books, children's wisdom can continue to grow and eventually become a strong self-development ability.
Children who love to read are usually influenced by their parents, and studies have shown that parents are the really important reading role models for children, and the improvement of children's reading attitude depends largely on their parents' reading attitudes.
To give children gold mountains and silver mountains, it is better to let children fall in love with reading, a child who loves to read, will not become bad.
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The company of parents is a necessity for children's growth
Li Meijin, a professor of psychology at the Chinese Min Public Security University, said: When children are young, they must bring their own.
Many people will ask: Every day they say to accompany their children, but if I don't earn money, what will I take to raise children?
Rather than companionship, some people feel that earning money is more important, because with money, they can give their children a better life and make up for the lack of education.
However, children's desire for parental education is incomparable to anyone else.
The good qualities of children are not learned from books, but from the words and deeds of their parents.
The child's behavior habits are not that the teacher will learn well, but are rooted in the imitation and learning of parents day after day.
Parents are the best teachers for children, and companionship is the best education for children.
Obama said, "I'm not going to be president for a lifetime, but I'm going to be a good father for a lifetime." One of the things he's most proud of is that he hasn't missed a single parent-teacher meeting for his daughter.
The growth of children is irreversible, and companionship is "limited supply"! How urgent it is to accompany a child during a parent's limited life!
In the blink of an eye, the child who cried and wanted to go to the playground was able to go to school independently, and by the time the parents finally finished their work and had time to spend with the child, the child himself had grown into an adult without time.
The importance of companionship is worth emphasizing a thousand times, some time ago the Education Bureau sent a letter to the parents of primary and secondary school students across the country, and also deliberately emphasized that parent-child companionship must be paid attention to during the holidays.
It is recommended that parents communicate with their children more, talk about life, talk about growth, talk about hobbies, truly understand their children's spiritual needs, and be their children's friends and role models.
Good education is inseparable from the company of parents, how much you accompany your children, how much you will reflect the results of your education in your children.
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Good habits are the cornerstone of success
As the saying goes, it takes a quarter of an hour for good to be good, and a year for good to change.
Whether it is an adult or a child, it is easy to learn bad and difficult to learn, and once people's bad habits are formed, it will be much more difficult to change.
Good habits are especially important for children, not only related to academic performance, but also affect future work and life.
Especially the winter vacation, it is a breeding ground for bad habits, sleeping lazily, not exercising, being lazy, indulging in electronic products, eating snacks, and having a bad temper under the doting of elders...
Once these bad habits are formed and want to be corrected after the school starts, parents need to spend more time and energy, and children need to be uncomfortable for a while to correct.
Therefore, for the problem of children's habits, parents must pay attention to it, and they cannot indulge their children during the holidays, and cultivate more good habits while maintaining good habits.
Psychological research has found that a good habit formation requires 21 consecutive days of continuous training, and a winter vacation time is enough for children to develop habits. Trying to cultivate these good habits in children is something that every parent should do well.
◎The habit of consciously learning
First make it clear, let the child know how to do it consciously, and what harm it will be if it is not done well.
Help your child make a plan so that your child can perform learning tasks according to the plan and learn more methodically.
◎The habit of cherishing time
The real gap between children is not in intelligence, not in the level of effort, but in time management.
Encourage children to be the master of time, usually can not drag and lazy, when learning to be highly concentrated, cherish the time to learn more knowledge.
◎The habit of self-care
Do your own thing, don't rely on your parents, don't rely on your teachers, even if you leave your parents, you can take care of your own life.
Independent children are more hands-on and adaptable, and can perform well wherever they go.
◎The habit of being conscientious and responsible
Do the right to praise, do the wrong to criticize, must let the child realize their responsibility, in order to learn to take responsibility.
Let go and let the child make decisions, improve the child's decision-making ability, and cultivate a sense of responsibility, so that the child can thrive.
Success comes from habits, and habits come from everyday life.
All achievements are made by doing small things overnight, and they are piled up by good habits.
What is an overnight fame, but it is all made of steel.
This winter vacation, turning over a few more pages of books every day, insisting on exercise, regular work and rest, and continuous learning, these tiny habits will take children to go farther.
May the child continue to enrich his body and soul in good habits.