Many parents of bear children in elementary school have this ambivalent psychology:
Loose management, worried that the child's grades are "a thousand miles", and the personality is becoming more and more willful;
Too much demand, and afraid that the child's pressure is too great;
What do parents of primary school children need to pay attention to in the chicken baby process? Little E today shares with you a shanghai special principal Sun Naxin to parents advice, let's kang kang!
Primary school parents should remember six words
Every year at the first-year parent-teacher meeting, I always say six words. Do all six words, and you can be considered a competent mom and dad.
The six words are:
"Wait"
Parents should have patience to accompany their children to grow up slowly, and they must accept this reality: children cannot move fast at once, develop various good habits at once, and do everything well at once - otherwise this parent is too good.
"Ask"
When your child comes home from school, talk to your child, ask what is happening in school, and let your child feel the care of your parents. Asking is important. Some parents play with their mobile phones when they get home from work and never communicate with their children. If you are really busy at work, you should spend more time with your children on weekends.
Parents must grow up with their children and cannot be lazy.
"Encouragement"
We must encourage children more, and good children are exaggerated. Don't always compare your child to others, it will only hit your child.
These six words are easy to say, but it is really difficult to do well in the six years of elementary school.
Elementary school parents should do three things well
At the primary school level, parents should not pay too much attention to their children's academic performance. Relative to academic performance, there are three things that are much more important for parents at the primary level.
The first important thing: interest
Cultivating children's interest is very important, children are interested in learning to have stamina, and no interest in learning is finished.
This interest includes both learning interests and interests outside of learning.
When the child is young, parents can help the child develop one or two hobbies. It can be widely accessible at the beginning. It is the responsibility of parents to expose their children to different things, to expose the child to something that interests him, and then to encourage him to stick with it.
The second important thing: habits
One is the habit of rationally arranging time, the second is the habit of listening carefully to lectures in class, and the third is the habit of independent reading and thinking.
Since teaching for so many years, if there is one common characteristic of the excellent children I have come into contact with, it is that they like to read.
Reading can not only promote the learning of languages, but also promote the improvement of a child's overall quality and enhance his or her understanding of the world. Children's reading habits are cultivated by parents, and this habit is very beneficial to the growth of children after cultivation, and it will benefit them for life.
Parents should remember that when cultivating a new habit and new interest, parents have to sacrifice some of their own rest time and entertainment time. Parents must grow up with their children and cannot be lazy.
At the beginning of the learning career, it is necessary for parents to accompany their children to do homework, fast one month, slow two months, to help children cultivate their habits and then let go.
The third important thing: character
Over the years of education work, we have found a phenomenon that parents have a happy marriage and a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere, which is conducive to cultivating children's sunshine mentality.
Parents' feelings will affect the child's personality, so parents should strive to create a warm and happy family environment, which will be very helpful for the child's character development.
The second point in cultivating children's personality is that parents should be willing to invest time and energy in accompanying their children. The child's education should be the greatest responsibility of parents and mothers, and they must accompany their children to grow up together, so that they can experience the joy of being a parent.
The third point to cultivate a child's sunny personality is to open the child's eyes. Vision determines the realm, parents have the conditions, if they have time, they can take their children out to see more, and at the same time, when they are ready to travel or visit, they can let their children participate.
If parents do not distinguish between points and calculations in the primary school stage of their children, but cultivate their children to be psychologically sunny, cultivate some of their children's interests and hobbies, and are also very interested in learning, this is very good.
Three critical periods in elementary school
Generally speaking, elementary schools have three key periods.
The first is when I first entered elementary school, which is also the most important period.
At this time, parents need to do three things: cultivate their children's interests, learning habits and good character. I have already talked about this in detail before, and I will not expand on it.
The second is third grade, which is a turning point.
Usually students' grades are triaged at the beginning of the third grade. Children who have been leading in the first and second grades may not necessarily continue to lead in the third grade, but the top children in the third grade will generally still have excellent grades in the fourth and fifth grades.
This is mainly because some children with good grades in the first and second grades have learned some subject knowledge before entering the school because of "rushing", and they are not necessarily children with strong learning ability. For those children who do not study in advance, as long as the learning habits are good, the learning interest is high, and the learning ability is strong, they will slowly catch up with the third grade.
In addition, since the third grade, the difficulty of subject content has increased, and the requirements for learning ability have been stronger, so there will be an adjustment and diversion of the third grade grade.
For parents of the third grade, if the child encounters some difficulties at this stage, be sure to give the child encouragement, increase the child's confidence, and help the child through this stage.
The third critical period is as the sixth grade approaches graduation.
At this stage, the main problem of parents is anxiety, because in the face of further education, many parents have begun to choose a school.
My advice to parents at this stage is not to fill your child's time too full. If you feel that your child needs tutoring, you can make appropriate arrangements for your child's specific situation. And give children more free time to cultivate their ability to manage time.
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