As a parent, in the process of educating children, I always hope that they will be sensible and obedient, less troublesome, and less troublesome. Every time they see a particularly sensible child, parents will be extremely envious and unconsciously compare themselves with their naughty children.
However, children who are too sensible in childhood are really not good. In principle, childhood is a carefree age, and children should follow their hearts and do whatever they like, even if it is trouble. However, the children show an incomparably sensible appearance, indicating that they are really unhappy.
Everything has a degree, blindly well-behaved and sensible, but it is worth parents to ponder. To put it simply, the child suppresses all his desires and thoughts in his heart and does not show a single point. Even in order to "please" parents and people around them, pretending that they are particularly sensible, they really respond to the phrase "sensible and painful".
Children who are too sensible are more likely to have psychological problems when they grow up, and they often have these problems
1. Over-flattery
I believe that parents have heard the term "flattering personality", and they know at a young age that they have wronged themselves and then pleasing others, which is not a high emotional intelligence. Perhaps from the very beginning, the education provided by parents, as well as the living environment, is problematic, so children will develop such a character.
From childhood, it is a thought that pleases others, and this kind of thinking is deeply rooted in the child's thoughts. When you grow up, the "pleasing psychology" will always accompany the child, and he will never dare to face up to his own ideas.
2, lack of happiness
Although "happiness" cannot be described in words, it can be easily judged by the child's personality and the performance of daily work and speech. Children who are surrounded by happiness always have a smile on their faces and always maintain a state of self-confidence.
Children are well aware that even if they occasionally fail and are frustrated, they will have their parents behind them to protect them. Happiness is the most solid backing for a child to grow up, pointing out the direction for his life.
3. Be satisfied with the status quo
Children who are too sensible will be content with the status quo in their bones, lack the ability to challenge themselves, and dare not take risks for anything. At the end of the day, it's because children are afraid of making mistakes and afraid of disappointing their parents. Simply refuse to take risks and prevent all mistakes from happening at the source.
In the future, children will guard their own acres and three points of land and live simply. Work and life can be particularly mediocre, with no big achievements.
Children's nature is lively and active, even if it is occasional trouble, it is normal, as long as they can keep the principles and bottom line. Those parents who always want their children to be well-behaved and sensible, I hope that you can all see the hurt behind them, and don't put heavy shackles on their children.