Lin Qingkun: Wu Min is still practicing slow motion, and I am leaving
Wu Min did not fail, she was just practicing how to fail? In fact, this sentence is not contradictory, perhaps you inexplicably ask in your heart: not the same failure, love is gone, marriage is gone.
Wrong, only when you learn to fail, can you experience what success looks like.
At this time, in Wu Min's inner world, he still thinks that he has a happy married life: changing a bouquet of flowers in the room every day, smiling his lover, whispering softly, meticulously satisfying his love imagination, and what's more, you don't do anything, I don't do anything, and slowly grow old together.
This is a fantasy marriage, not a real marriage, please do not enlarge the beauty, let alone block the helplessness.
Please don't raise the bar: Am I not worthy of this kind of married life that is both satisfying and romantic?
Sure you can have it, but why do you have it.
In your world, confidant, understanding, understanding, trust, concern, miss, care, companionship... Only these words can speak for marriage, and indifference, disregard, speechlessness, boredom, perfunctory, cheating... These words should be blocked out and not appear in married life.
When a person does not know his heart, he naturally shows a cold and indifferent expression.
1. Learn how to fail
When Wu Min learned a word: when did indifference begin and why did it happen, it was that I did not do well enough, round after round of self-examination, took a long time, and finally found that the problem was not in myself.
The man in front of him was his problem. This man has changed, and the woman is very angry in her heart, but the beautiful marriage imagination suppresses her, does not easily expose her dissatisfaction, and swallows anger with patience.
In this home, I haven't invited friends to come together for a long time. Today the man accidentally invited two friends to the door. Wu Min suddenly felt that her husband was ignoring his existence. I don't know when I started, I can't insert myself into a topic, you are talking and laughing together, and she is reflecting on her own encounters, through the comparison before and after, she understands that the usual polite words are actually unable to close people's souls.
Wu Min is using a slow-motion way to experience all of married life, in addition to the quiet years, it is still full of vicissitudes and torments.
Wu Min is spending one year, two years, ten years to figure out what marriage is, before seeing the essence of married life, in fact, she is spending tuition to learn, learning how to achieve a happy marriage, that is, learning how to face a failed marriage.
There is no loss, and where to get.
2, marriage is not the whole of life
Wu Min and Lin Qingkun are not a dan player.
Lin Qingkun understood early on that there was a cost to any choice. Where there is longing, there is cruelty.
But Wu Min did not understand, and only after he had personally experienced and torn himself all over his body did he realize that it was his ignorance.
Lin Qingkun asked Wu Min: What do you really want?
Wu Min couldn't say it, her slow motion had not yet been practiced to the point of home, or she knew one or the other.
When one day, Wu Min learned that marriage should be put in the right place, he could say that he had completed slow motion.
But Lin Qingkun had gone far.
When a person always asks others "why", it means that the person is still practicing slow motion.
A mature and insightful man rarely spits out the word "why" in his mouth, because he knows that he wants the means to solve the problem, not the "tutorial" that tells him how to do it.
Workplace whites like to ask questions from east to west, but veterans in the workplace like to do things silently.
Ready-made methods, perhaps not useless, but they don't want to lower their requirements for themselves.
Lin Qingkun understands very well that marriage is not the whole of his life. If Wu Min lacks understanding, she will endlessly interpret what she thinks is "the most important".
Since you can accept the good, but refuse to be mutilated; fantasize about perfection, but ignore the lowly.
Don't know what you want to do?
Author: Li Jinyi, Source: Ming Li Plus, ID: MingLiPlus