Recently, Mr. Mao, a doctor in Nanjing, "Tiger Dad", was sued by his wife, Ms. Zheng, for his out-of-the-box education method.
Ms. Zheng said that Mr. Mao pursues seedling-boosting education, requiring his 7-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter to learn advanced mathematics and literature every day until late at night, and once the child shows a confused look of "not understanding", Mr. Mao will jump like a thunderbolt, insulting and beating the child.
Ms. Zheng's complaint requires two points:
It is forbidden for Mao to beat and scold Ms. Zheng and her children Xiaoming and Xiaojia;
It is forbidden for Mao to restrict the personal freedom of Ms. Zheng and her children Xiaoming and Xiaojia.
Many netizens watched the operation of this doctor tiger father and said that it was difficult to accept. Where is the "chicken baby", this is the doctoral father who is showing the superiority brought by his high education and looking for a sense of existence.
Yeah, who says a Ph.D.'s child must be a school bully? As a Kochi, this father does not understand education at all, he ignores that there is a process of brain development of children, receiving knowledge also needs a process, blindly using cramming education methods, it will only backfire, not only is not conducive to children learning knowledge, but also makes children resentful of "learning".
Yesterday, I saw such a sentence in the circle of friends, a mother said "found that the parents around them are eager to help their children enter a university to let their children go to school", I agree with this sentence, indeed, there are too many parents around us, always hovering over the child's head like a helicopter, eager to stare at him all the time to learn, I hope that the child can become a talent immediately. They all forget that under the supervision and encouragement of parents, children are always passive learning, and when they lose their initiative in learning, it is the real big problem.
In the movie "Changjin Lake", Wu Qianli, played by Wu Jing, said this to his younger brother Wu Wanli, played by Yi Qianxi: "An egg is knocked out from the outside and is destined to be eaten." If you can peck yourself out of it, you might be an eagle. ”
At that time, many parents watched this movie and were deeply touched by this line, yes, when our children are always in a state of "being knocked out from the outside" in the learning process, their attitude towards learning is perfunctory.
In the German acclaimed film "Heidi and Grandpa", which has a rating of 9.0, the orphan Heidi is sent by her aunt to the home of Clara, a well-off young lady in the city, as a companion. Heidi had not read or wanted to read, she had a hard time learning, the tutor taught her to recognize words, she was completely absent-minded, the teacher's first day of Protestant words, she "returned" to the teacher the next day.
It happened that Clara's grandmother was passing by to visit her granddaughter and learned that little Heidi was struggling to read. So, Grandma Clara came to Tell Heidi the story of the shepherd she was most interested in, and when she talked about the most ups and downs, Grandma suddenly stopped, and Heidi kept asking about the ending of the story.
Grandma said, "If you want to know, you can read it yourself." ”
Little Heidi said very honestly, "But I don't know words." ”
Grandma said, "If you know the words, you can know the end of the story." ”
Grandma then left the storybook to Heidi.
Since then, Heidi has begun to seriously learn to recognize words with the tutor, and soon there will be many new words, and finally she can read the story independently.
Parenting is a matter of great need for wisdom.
If the child is not stimulated and mobilized to be willing to learn, then it is useless for parents to be in a hurry. At this time, you may wish to calm down and carefully analyze where the child's real interest points are. Just like Clara's grandmother, let the children want to know the answer from the heart, want to learn, and with the internal drive, they can really be unstoppable.