I found the secret of growth from rich girls, these 5 kinds of education, cultivate confident and brave girls
A good education will certainly not be superficial
Rather, it can guide the healthy growth of the child's spiritual core
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I don't know if you have ever seen the movie "Heidi and Grandpa"?
This movie has a Douban score of 9.2, which is a very classic growth education film
Every time I look at it, I get a different harvest:
When I was a child, I was deeply moved after watching it
When I was a new mother, I was inspired by what I saw
And when I look at it as a psychologist, I was really shocked
On the body of the protagonist Heidi
I also discovered a mystery of growing up
That is a girl, to become a confident and brave, sound personality "rich" girl, it is inseparable from these 5 acquisitions
01
Gain a sense of presence in life
At the beginning of the film, little Heidi is running on a vast field of freedom
Endless green mountains, goshawks hovering freely overhead
Everything around Heidi seems to be pouring out a beautiful word, that is, "freedom"
However, at this time, little Heidi was suffering from the hardships of life and was not free at all
Fate repeatedly abandoned her mercilessly, first her parents died, leaving her as an orphan
Heidi, who was then adopted by her aunt, had to face the fate of being abandoned for the second time because her aunt found a new job
And when the aunt took her to her grandfather's side, the cold and eccentric grandfather not only turned her away, but also told her to roll fast
After the aunt left Heidi to sneak away, the poor little girl could only sleep in the dirty sheepfold
Curiously, heidi did not become depressed here
On the contrary, I am always full of energy and always very happy
The vastness of the Alps, like a wordless mother, gave Heidi the strength to live with her beauty and vitality
Here, she is completely free and does not have to worry about being abandoned again
There is a theory in psychology that it is in nature
Children will be stronger, their mood will be happier, and their recognition of themselves will be more determined
When children are immersed in the inclusion and acceptance of nature
They will become more aware of their presence and thus resist external harm
When little Heidi, standing happily at the top of the hill, listened to the song of the birds in the four places, the clanging of the mountain stream
Her young heart was naturally soothed and redeemed, thus gaining inner strength
As parents, we must take our children into contact with nature, only in this way can our children's souls be rested and soothed
Only in this way will the child become healthy and happy, full of sunshine
02
Gain the strength to believe in yourself
Heidi's joy and strength finally touched the lonely grandfather
The old man let her live in his house, and one day Heidi met Pete the Shepherd
He quietly told Heidi that her grandfather had killed people before
Frightened, young Heidi hurried home, packed her bags, and prepared to move to the sheepfold
Unexpectedly, he was bumped by his grandfather, and the wise old man saw through Heidi's inner thoughts
He didn't yell angrily, nor did he deliberately explain anything to Heidi
Just said such a sentence faintly
"People love to talk about bad things, but you need to decide whether to believe your eyes and ears or believe what other people say."
Listening to Grandpa's words, Heidi put down her luggage again, and she told Grandpa that she chose to believe him and hugged the old man
The next day Grandpa made Heidi a new chair, and the two let go of their estrangement
There is a concept of "self-evident prophecy" in psychology, that is, the more you believe in something, the more you will get something
When Heidi chose to believe in her grandfather's kindness, she gained the old man's sincerity
Growing up, we inevitably heard such and such voices
Girls, in particular, often have people make all kinds of demands on you, thinking that you are not gentle enough, thinking that you are not beautiful enough
Under all kinds of voices, girls who have been loved and educated by their parents since childhood can often firmly believe in themselves
Thus you can get more happiness
If parents want to teach a happy girl, they must teach her the power of "believing"
03
Gain the strength to resist
Heidi and Grandpa's relationship is getting better and better
At this time, the cruel aunt appeared again
She tricked Heidi into the city and sold it to the family as a maid
So she had to serve Clara all day long, and at the same time, she had to be wary of the harsh and old-fashioned housekeeper who provoked her
Clara grew up well, but her father was away for many years and her mother died early
Lonely and poor Clara was sad, not only mentally depressed, but even her feet lost the ability to move
Heidi's arrival undoubtedly brought her a touch of green
The lively and cheerful Heidi, even as a maid, did not become depressed
On the contrary, she was always very happy, and she always unconsciously challenged the authority of female discipline
At the dinner table, she only cares about eating happily, and there is no table manners at all
Privately, she liked to mingle with other servants and never thought of herself as the personal companion of the big lady
She doesn't like to learn and always likes to be mischievous
Once, he also quietly took the frail Clara outside
All of this makes the dull and melancholy Clara extra happy
Why is Clara so happy?
There's a word in psychology called "breaking out of the no-go zone."
It means breaking the authority, stepping out of the box, and being brave to be yourself
Growing up, we all encounter such and such imprisonment, especially girls
There are always people telling you that this can't be done, that's not suitable
This kind of imprisonment often makes children lose their natural liveliness and happiness, and become a lifeless little old man
The reason why the rich Clara is unhappy is because she has too many inhibitions, and the housekeeper's bars are already depressing enough
She put another lock on her heart, and it was no wonder that she became depressed and dull
Heidi, on the other hand, was always used to breaking her authority and walking out of the box
She is full of the wildness of the self, nothing is impossible for her, everything is possible
As parents, we should not overly bind our children, but teach them how to resist
Especially in the face of authority, learn to keep questioning
04
Gain the power of curiosity
Heidi was able to break through the limits of authority and walk out of the box
Of course, it is a happy thing, but if a child only knows how to "fool around"
And if you are not guided, then all resistance loses its meaning
The real growth is to find your own world after stepping out of the forbidden area
Heidi was undoubtedly one of the lucky ones, as she met Clara's grandmother
It was this old man, while telling Heidi a story, who understood the real reason why Heidi did not read
When Heidi naively told her that everyone said that our Alpine children didn't need to read
The old man did not refute her, but told her a story of sheep herding, but this time the old man did not finish
Instead, stop at the best part of the story and tell Heidi
"If you're curious, you might as well go and read the book yourself"
In order to know the follow-up story, Heidi seriously learned to read and write, and she was smart and soon became addicted to learning
As a parent, you must learn to guide your child and awaken the power of curiosity in her heart
And encourage her to go to a wider world
05
Gain the power of "You Can Be Special"
Heidi suffers from sleepwalking because she misses her grandfather
In order to restore her health, Clara's father finally sent her back to her grandfather
Not long after returning to her grandfather's house, Heidi began to miss her partner Clara again
So she wrote a letter to Clara asking her to come to her home
When Clara's grandmother found out, she desperately took Clara to the mountain
Here, the two children slept together every day, and at dawn, Heidi took Clara out to herd sheep and catch butterflies in the mountains
Running around, finally one day, an excited Clara got up from her wheelchair
At this time, Heidi was also sent to school by her grandfather
Once, the teacher assigned homework for everyone to write about my ideals
As a result, the students either wanted to become blacksmiths or shepherd boys, because they were all children in the mountains
But Heidi said she was going to be a storyteller
As a result, Heidi's ideal was ridiculed by everyone, when she was sullen because of it
Grandpa told her: "Don't be sad, the reason why they laugh at you is because they have less knowledge, but you are different, you have to go out and do what you have to do, don't care what they say."
Clara's grandmother learned of this and gave her a pen and a notebook
She told Heidi, "Child, you have a pen and a notebook, and what you want to write on it is up to you to decide."
Everyone is special, and we don't have to give up our ideals in order to cater to others
Don't care about those different eyes, believe in yourself, you can be different
07
Whether it's the poor girl Heidi or the rich girl Clara
Only find yourself and recognize yourself
Have self-confidence, be able to get out of the forbidden zone, and use their curiosity to ignite enthusiasm for the world
Actively explore, find your own way, and then unswervingly go on
Only in this way can they become excellent selves
As parents, we must remember to teach girls these five powers
Remember, a good education is to support the growth of children's inner spiritual body.
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