Those things under the tip of the pen, a sincere writer, may I send you a lifetime of warmth with a sincerity.
Illustration: Stills from My Brother and My Sister-in-Law
Man has thoughts, and no matter how great your ability is, he cannot imprison the thoughts of others, because man himself is a free body, which is also the characteristic of each person.
But man is also selfish, and this freedom that he himself yearns for is reflected in others, but it can be clearly seen in his eyes that he is a little reluctant.
But from the side, people are also a contradiction, what they do not want or do not get, silently implying that others do not want to get; when others make mistakes, they will involuntarily rise to the highest point of morality, to make comments and accusations, completely disregarding what the parties think after seeing it, as for the death or death of others, it has little to do with themselves.
But the dramatic scene came, when these things happened to him, he was the first to close his mouth, and he was extremely disgusted with those who commented without knowing it.
The occurrence of such a situation is also a human nature, for some things, like to be lively, the heart is also more selfish.
It is precisely because of these characteristics that many people are deeply tortured in marriage, love each other deeply, inadvertently always hurt themselves, love each other shallowly, and will be jealous or even doubt this marriage, in short, let the word "irritability" become synonymous with marriage.
Li Jiao (pseudonym) was naturally suspicious, because the living environment created for her by her original family was like this, and at a very young age, her father abandoned their mother and son and eloped with another woman because she had an affair.
The mother was stimulated, and because love was transformed into hatred, in the process of growing up, the mother's education of her daughter was also grown up under the sentence "men in the world do not have a good thing".
But it was also very fortunate that Li Jiao met the man Who loved her as her life, Feng Hong (pseudonym), and the two of them were also lucky to get married, and their lives have been very happy since they got married.
But the habits that Li Jiao has developed since childhood, how can she say that she has changed them, everything is just that she has been hiding and forbearing.
With the passage of time, the feelings of the two people have also appeared strange and mutual suspicion because of the arrival of the child.
Like many families, in order to show his loyalty to this marriage, Feng Hong handed over everything in the family to his wife Li Jiao for safekeeping, including his own salary card.
Feng Hong's monthly expenses are also advanced from his wife.
And Feng Hong's approach also perfectly explains what a really good husband is, if the work has socializing, he will give his wife Li Jiao in advance and send a video of his own socializing.
And every time the size of the festival, other people's wives should be, Li Jiao is not bad. But Li Jiao did not think so, she thought, is a man, how can not be careful, not husband Feng Honghao, but the things he did, and some of his own careful thoughts have not been discovered, can only be said to be hidden deeper!
It also happened that the company's salary to Li Jiao was postponed this time, and seeing that the fifteenth day was over, the mobile phone did not move at all.
Li Jiao thought that her husband Feng Hong had advanced money to go out to support others, so she waited for her husband to come back and have a good theory.
At home, the more he thought about it, the more he was sure that there were people outside him, so driven by hatred, she also took out the marriage certificate, asked the reason and went to divorce him, anyway, no one should think about it on this day.
After the door opened, I saw that my wife had not yet slept, sitting directly on the bed, still holding the marriage certificate in her left hand, and crying with tears in her eyes.
Faced with such a situation, Feng Hong was also confused, so he asked what was going on? Who knew that Li Jiao smashed the documents in his hand at Feng Hong, and also scolded: "You are a negative man, how many women have you raised outside, and do you know how to come back so late?" Today you must explain this matter clearly, otherwise we will leave this marriage immediately. ”
Feng Hong was even more confused at this time, this was another trouble, he quickly explained: "Today's late return, I didn't tell you well, there is a social, but also to shoot a video for you, when did we still lie to you in this matter, there is no need!" ”
After Li Jiao heard it, he was even angrier and said: "You yourself know in your heart, you are still here to install for me, today is the day of salary, why has your card not moved so far, do you really let the company give you advances, you take it out to take care of The Third?" ”
Feng Hong frowned and returned, "I really served you, can you figure this out?" My people, and the bank card are in your hands, why are you still not trusting me? Am I the boss of the company? Say advances are upfront? One or two people are going to pay in advance as you think, so the company can't open?
Today's salary is not paid, because the salaries of the entire company's employees have not been paid, the financial department system is a little problematic, don't always be suspicious, I really don't know what to say about you. ”
After listening to her husband Feng Hong's statement, the doubts in her heart were eliminated, of course, the anger was also eliminated, but in order to give herself a step down, she asked: "Then your company did not say when this system will be good, when will the salary be paid?" ”
Feng Hong bent down and picked up the wrinkled marriage certificate on the ground, showed it with his hand, and replied: "Money and money, you know money, is there a husband like me in your eyes?!" ”
Then Li Jiao got up and hugged Feng Hong, and the two of them muttered quietly. The moon outside the window quietly climbed up the branches, and the warm moonlight sprinkled on the bedside, and also sprinkled on the peony flowers outside the courtyard wall, the flowers were crystal clear, and the pieces were full...
Or the sentence at the beginning of the article, people need to be free, even if they are married, they also need to have their own private space, they can't stare at each other too deadly, if you don't give each other a chance to breathe, then your marriage has no way to continue.
Did you let the other person sleep in your arms, and you really didn't allow him to have other thoughts? Is this something you and I can control? It is simply not possible, and most of the time we need to turn a blind eye. In marriage, be short-sighted, not a fire-eyed golden eye.
If you really can't tolerate sand in your eyes and stare too tightly, you can only cause harm to your marriage in the end.
You have to know that the other person is a person. How can everything be as you want? If you can get by, let him pass for a while, with the passage of time, we will eventually forget, and the person who can accompany you through this life is only him.
To understand that no one is perfect, the world should not be too clear, this marriage should not be grasped too tightly, it is like a handful of fine sand, the tighter you grasp, the faster it will pass, and in the end the sand not only did not catch but also gave itself a hand of mud. Isn't that a bit of a loss?
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