Many people say that IQ can not be high, but in this social life emotional intelligence must be high. Because we deal with people all the time in life, emotional intelligence when getting along with others is the top priority.
But our so-called emotional intelligence is not only how to get along with others, but also includes the person's emotional control ability, the ability to resist pressure and willpower in the face of setbacks, etc. Many parents also pay attention to the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence in family education.
However, the level of emotional intelligence is not only cultivated, but also includes innate genes, whether the child's emotional intelligence is high or not, parents observe the following 4 points of the child to know.
First, whether the child will shout in public
Public places are generally places where everyone feels quiet, but if in ordinary life, there are always one or two loud noises in public places, when we talk about the impact of this noise, we will feel impatient in our hearts.
Especially parents take their children out to buy things, if the child wants to buy the goods they want, but the parents are unwilling, many children will roll on the ground and make noise, knowing that the run-in will be until the parents agree.
In fact, this kind of child's rude and impolite behavior of threatening parents is one of the main manifestations of the child's low emotional intelligence. Because not only is his solution primitive and unreasonable, but in the eyes of outsiders, this kind of behavior is also very uncultured, and children who cannot control their emotions are not beneficial to future character shaping and thought shaping.
Second, poor interpersonal relationships, very poor social skills
In fact, those smart children, not only study well, but also have good interpersonal relationships in the class. Especially those who are very eye-catching in the class atmosphere, often such children will mix well in the society, not only eat open, but also get the help of nobles.
However, if the child cannot make good friends normally in the school environment from an early age, especially introverted, does not know how to communicate with others, and even more will be isolated by classmates, it means that the child's emotional intelligence is very poor. Parents should enlighten their children in a timely manner, take the initiative to let their children participate in various group activities, and cultivate their children's sense of collective honor and normal ability to interact with others.
Third, it is difficult for children to control their emotions when they encounter things
Everyone likes to associate with emotionally stable people, because those who casually vent their temper no matter what the occasion makes people feel that it is difficult to get along. In order to prevent children from growing into such a difficult to control emotions, parents should guide children how to vent their emotions in a timely manner during the critical period of children's 3 to 6 years old.
For example, when the child is sad, parents should tell the child not to be rude to others because they are sad, and pay more attention to whether the occasion of the environment at that time is suitable for them to do some out-of-line behavior. If the child's heart is depressed for a long time, he can vent his inner emotions through exercise and other means.
Fourth, do not know how to share with others
In fact, those who are selfish and selfish, who only care about their own interests and do not care about the feelings of others, are not real wisdom! What they gain may be material, but what they lose is the human heart, and only those who do not care about small sections and do not stick to what they have in front of them can really go further.
Therefore, when parents educate their children, they should not always be child-centered, so that children feel that they are the center of the whole world. It is necessary to properly cultivate the habit of taking care of others and understanding the feelings of others.
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