After 3 consecutive days of live Q&A, perhaps because I did not chat with parents in this way for 2 months, I was in a very good state, parents and friends were also very kind, and the chat was also very relaxed and pleasant.
It has to be said that for an educator, it is a treat. Being able to use one's own experience and professionalism to help those in need is also a gift for oneself.
In the live broadcast room, you can choose your favorite way, you can just listen, you can ask questions and interact in the message area, or you can apply for a connection to answer questions directly.
In this process, it is very gratifying that more and more parents can realize that many of the problems in their children's growth are not simply children's problems.
Among them, I have also been actively guiding parents to realize that the problems that give them headaches and unsolvable problems are actually rooted in the quality of parent-child relationships.
Especially the problems of many post-school-age and adolescent children, the emergence of problems, is by no means the moment when parents find problems, but the accumulation of a long time, and among them, it will be the cause of a serious problem, which must be the quality of parent-child relationship.
The success of a society does not depend on the affairs of the state, but on the trivialities of the family.
--Barbara. Bush
A good family education environment and parent-child relationship are the premise and guarantee for the healthy growth of children's physical and mental health, and they spend more than 1/2 of the time in their families before children become adults.
Intimate relationships with children are the basis of all educational issues, parental behavior, the way they speak, and the interaction patterns with their children, which seem to be unimportant, will directly affect the parent-child relationship between parents and children.
Parents should be mindful to understand their children, their basic personalities, what they need, how they should respond to their needs, and how to better establish and maintain links with them.
Parents must be experts in their own children because there is no other candidate. Your child's doctors, teachers, and friends will change, and only you will always be your child's mother and father — there is no one in the world who knows your child better than you do.
Next, we will use some data to understand the relationship between parent-child relationship and school-age children's academic performance and behavior habits.
Data source: 410 students in the sixth grade of the DaliYanbu Center in Nanhai District, Foshan City, Guangdong Province, and their parents' evaluation results, mainly including students' academic development, students' physical and mental development, and school satisfaction.
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The influence of family atmosphere intimacy on grades and behavior habits
The data shows that the better the student's family atmosphere, the better the student's behavior habits are formed, and the higher the likelihood of achieving good academic performance.
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The relationship between family atmosphere intimacy and social anxiety and Internet addiction
The data shows that the lower the score of students' family atmosphere, the higher the score of students with social anxiety and Internet addiction, it can be seen that the better the student's family atmosphere, the less likely students are to produce social anxiety and Internet addiction.
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The relationship between family atmosphere and students' life satisfaction and endurance
The data shows that the score of family atmosphere intimacy is proportional to the score of student life satisfaction and endurance, that is, the higher the score of family atmosphere, the higher the student's life satisfaction and endurance.
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Statistics on the frequency of parent-child activities and math scores
If various parent-child activities are carried out almost every day or 1-2 times a week, the average mathematical academic level of children will be slightly higher, and the average score can reach 80.08.
And there are almost no or only 1-2 times a month to carry out the above types of parent-child activities, the average mathematical level of students is relatively low.
The higher the frequency of the same parent-child activity, the better the child's math score, such as: children who have parent-child activities almost every day have better math scores than children with almost no parent-child activities.
Another example is the parent-child activity of talking to children about reading-related content, the former's math average score is higher than the latter, and the average score difference is as high as 10.29.
Through the above data analysis, we understand that a good parent-child relationship is related to the development of children's learning ability, behavior habits and other abilities.
So what do they really need when it comes to establishing a parent-child relationship with their children? Also look at a set of data, data source: National Survey of the State of Family Education (2018)
Children believe that the most important thing in life is "having a warm home".
Fourth- and eighth-graders believe that the most important things in life are all "warm homes" (39.3%, 49.4%), and the proportion of people is much higher than that of "rich" (1.2%, 1.3%), "social status" (0.6%, 0.9%), and "power" (0.6%, 0.6%).
Compared to fourth grade, eighth graders value family more and are more aware of the importance of having a warm home.
A warm home represents a harmonious and intimate family relationship, adequate and powerful family support, a family atmosphere of acceptance and mutual trust, and it is an important part of happiness.
Studies have shown that parents' warm parenting style can reduce children's loneliness, anxiety and other negative emotions, and parents' warm emotions can promote the development of positive social qualities such as cooperation, gratitude and responsibility.
Through the above data surveys for children in the older age group, we can intuitively understand that parent-child relationship is the basis for children to develop all abilities and is the energy source for children's growth.
For parents between the ages of 0 and 6, they should start from the moment and adjust their communication style with their children.
Observe children more carefully, understand their needs, actively respond to their needs, establish a communication model, and become the norm of life. The parent-child relationship naturally obtains high-quality development nutrients and becomes the soil for children to develop all abilities.
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