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Not long ago, my cousin called me, at the beginning it was crying and crying, I didn't understand that the husband that others were looking for saw that his wife was pregnant and was all kinds of delicious food, all kinds of coaxing, but he had to look at his husband's face when he was working hard to get pregnant, and even eat some fruit he wanted to eat: "Although it is a little expensive, when it is not unaffordable or eat every day, occasionally eat once to relieve hunger, this day really can't go on, spend money to see his face." ”
The words can hear the cousin's suffocating state of mind, and after asking, I found out that it was such a thing.
It turned out that yesterday my cousin and brother-in-law went to the supermarket, when passing the fruit stall, my cousin saw that there was a box of cherries and oranges, the price of cherries was 80 yuan a pound, oranges were 20 yuan a pound, and the cousin thought about it or took a box and put it into the shopping cart.
However, after the brother-in-law saw the two boxes of fruits and prices, he immediately put the two boxes of fruits back to the original position, and before his cousin could speak, he himself said first: "Buying such expensive fruits is wasteful, you don't know how much money there is at home." ”
Hearing this made my cousin feel very faceless, and continued to clamor to eat cherries and oranges, but the brother-in-law did not give in, and finally only took some apples home.
However, after returning home, my cousin became more and more angry about this matter, so she had a fight with her brother-in-law, most of which expressed that she was pregnant and hard, but she did not want to eat even the fruits she loved to eat. But the brother-in-law was not soft, which made my cousin aggrieved enough to call me to complain.
Speaking of cousins, she has chosen to leave her job to give birth at home since she became pregnant, and then her brother-in-law earns money to support her family alone, and the salary is about 7,000 yuan, which is not much in this small city of the fourth and fifth lines, but it is not less.
The two people now have car loans and mortgages, and then there are a lot of places to spend money on the child, which may really give the brother-in-law a lot of pressure, but then again, as the cousin said, she does not have to eat every day, even when she bought the cherry and oranges at that time, she also considered the price, just thinking of pregnancy before biting her teeth to buy it, not only for herself, but also for the child to supplement nutrition, it may be that it is also treated by the brother-in-law stingy, the cousin is aggrieved and crying.
Even my cousin said the word "divorce", but I felt that it was not, although it was really sad, but after all, I could not say that I was pregnant, but I did not dare to agree with my brother-in-law's approach, I always thought that money was earned, not saved from between my teeth, even if it was expensive, how much could it cost?
In this regard, many netizens also expressed their own ideas, and even one netizen said that her own experience, said that when she had a big belly, her husband was willing to buy anything, even if they did not work at that time, almost zero income, but her husband told her that even if she went home to eat the old, she could not treat her daughter-in-law badly. Although there is a slight ambiguity in this statement, the husband's love for his wife is still very clear.
Indeed, marriage is a matter of two people in the same boat, but also the most basic small family, everything in the future needs two people to face together, but just for some fruits less than a hundred yuan to make the pillow people chill, then it can only be said that this marriage is not a person.
Especially when a woman is still working hard to conceive for a man, and is treated so stingily, what is the point of giving birth to a child for him to go through the ghost door?
I have heard such a sentence, the wife is the person who decides whether to extubate you when you are sick in the future, which means that her thoughts can decide whether you can continue to live, and the most fundamental principle of human nature is "you respect me a foot, I am pregnant with you" The cousin is treated like this by the brother-in-law at this moment, then this breath may be hidden in the heart, but time will not let it fade color, it will only continue to be conceived, and it will erupt at some point in the future, so can it really be endured as a man?
In fact, in addition to the man's stinginess, the cousin also has a very important problem, then it is not necessary to resign for pregnancy.
As the old saying goes, "The economic base determines the superstructure." "The economic foundation is a person's confidence, but also a person's words and deeds, just like the reason why the brother-in-law can command so that the brother-in-law can not continue to speak, can only confide in me, the fundamental reason is that she has no confidence, in the final analysis or do not earn money, the whole family depends on the brother-in-law's income to support.
As a woman, as Yishu said: "Only when a woman is economically independent can she be qualified to talk about rights such as fairness, equality, and respect." In fact, this is used equally for women and men.
Feelings are ethereal, and money is really touchable, as long as the cousin also has a source of income, no matter how much will not be considered to be "supported by others", even if pregnant do not have to resign, although the basic salary is lower, but that is also money, there is those money cherries and oranges can only eat without looking at other people's faces.
In the final analysis, marriage selection is very important, but also to follow the principle of "opening your eyes before marriage, turning a blind eye after marriage", which is the criterion of happiness, but this is only one aspect, people are more important to rely on themselves, they are strong is really strong, is the root of forever invincible!