What is a couple?
Some people say: It is two people who have been noisy all their lives and are not separated.
Some people also say: it is two people who have experienced love and interpreted family affection.
No matter what kind of statement, husband and wife, in fact, are two separate individuals, in the process of seeking common ground while reserving differences and integrating with each other, they become a community of destiny.
No matter how rich or poor, no matter whether they are healthy or sick, they all love, cherish and support each other.
From green silk to white head, from weak crown to ancient rarity, it has never been abandoned.
Some people once divided marriage into three stages, the first stage is the glue of marriage within seven or eight years.
With the residual warmth of love, with the vision of a better life in the future, like glue like paint, it is natural.
However, to do so is not an easy task.
After entering the marriage, all the things in the nature of the husband and wife will be exposed to each other at a glance, and everything that is tried to hide when in love will eventually be revealed in the marriage.
Because the other party is no longer the way they imagined, acceptance, tolerance, and understanding are crucial.
Friend Ye Ye and her husband Xiaomo have been married for 6 years, but they are still like when they are in love, and their feelings are particularly good.
Ye Ye has a bad temper and often loses temper with Xiao Mo for some trivial matters.
But every time Xiao Mo chose to be inclusive, no matter right or wrong, he always tried to coax Ye Ye to be happy.
Gradually, Ye Ye also put away his bad card qi.
Xiao Mo is usually busy at work, often because of overtime, many important days can not be taken care of with Ye Ye.
Although Ye Ye was a little lost, she rarely complained, and she knew that it was not easy for XiaoMo to earn money to support her family.
Therefore, no matter how late Xiaomo comes back from work, Ye Ye will turn on the lamp and wait for Xiaomo to return.
A bowl of fragrant soup noodles and a cup of steaming milk are her warmest care for Xiaomo.
The ancients said: A hundred years of cultivation can be crossed by the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can sleep together.
In the vast sea of people, it is not easy for two people to marry and become the closest and most important people in each other's lives.
No matter what, don't live like a seller and a buyer in an online store, scolding each other continuously, complaining continuously, and finally consuming feelings and consuming each other.
Marriage is the process of constantly accepting each other's shortcomings, no matter who it is, there are more or less shortcomings in the body.
As a partner, you must not only see each other's shining points, but also learn to accept and tolerate each other's shortcomings.
A happy marriage is the truest way to love each other.
Even if he is not what he imagined, but he fell in love, he had no regrets.
Once, I asked a friend: "Why are marriages for middle-aged couples mostly difficult?" ”
The friend said, "Poor couple Pepsi lament!" ”
If you think about it, there is some truth to it.
Middle-aged couples, old and young, busy work, not enough money, all kinds of expenses are like invisible mountains pressing on them.
Day after day of hard work has long squeezed out the feelings between each other, and marriage has become a make-up and a will.
In fact, a healthy husband and wife relationship is never a partner to live a life, but to support each other and work together.
At the end of each episode of the TV series "Thirty Only", there is a small Easter egg story about a family of three.
The wife is a small vendor who makes scallion oil cakes, the husband is a delivery man, and they have a cute and sensible son.
Although it was very hard, it was very happy.
In one episode, the husband who ran a day of takeaway, unable to take a break, naturally took over the work in his wife's hands and accompanied his wife to the stall.
The two of them talked and laughed, and in each other's look, there was not a trace of complaint, some were just love and hope.
They firmly believe that no matter how hard and tired they are, as long as the couple works together, all difficulties can be overcome.
Image source: TV series "Thirty Only"
At the end of the play, they opened a small shop of their own, and the second floor of the storefront is their new home.
They no longer had to live in that little rental house, and their lives were getting better.
Gorky once said: "Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together." ”
Running a home is not easy, husband and wife, who have unspeakable heartache and grievances, no one is more relaxed than anyone else.
Everyone is working hard for this home, complaining to each other, which will only make life more difficult.
As each other's partners, we must not only understand each other's difficulties, but also see each other's efforts.
Since we have come together, we will share weal and woe and create happiness together.
After all, only couples who have experienced the wind and rain together can truly stand the test.
As the saying goes: young couples come and go.
The only relationship in the world that has no blood relation, but transcends blood relations, is the relationship between husband and wife.
When you are young, you can be noisy or noisy, and when you are old, if your partner is still with you and does not abandon, it is the luckiest thing.
In an episode of "Readers", Teacher Qiao Hao once shared the story of himself and his wife Tang Guomei.
Since the age of forty-five, Teacher Qiao has been plagued by evil diseases, cancer alone has been four times, and he has walked from the ghost door again and again.
He said:
"What's holding me up?" In addition to faith, there is another person who does not abandon me, cares for me wholeheartedly, and takes good care of me. This person is my wife Tang Guomei. ”
In order to better take care of Teacher Qiao, Tang Guomei gave up her career and accompanied Teacher Qiao to fight against the disease.
Every time Teacher Qiao fell ill, Tang Guomei insisted on not having a nurse and taking care of everything by herself, including Teacher Qiao's eating and drinking.
The audience who liked Teacher Qiao was very grateful to her for taking such good care of Teacher Qiao.
But all this, Tang Guomei felt, this is her responsibility as a wife.
Someone said: "Between husband and wife, it is easy to call a wife, but it is difficult to call an old woman; it is easy to call a husband, but it takes a lifetime to call an old man." ”
In the era of hustle and bustle, the companionship that is inseparable is the most sincere love of both husband and wife.
No amount of romance can compare to consistent companionship.
I once saw a group of photos on the Internet, a begging grandfather, bought a cake and gave his wife a birthday.
The wife was very happy and carefully held the cake in her arms.
A sentence said by netizens is particularly moving:
As long as you are around, even if the fate is turbulent, it will never be abandoned.
Image source: Network
The little couple who love vigorously is sweet, but we are even more envious of the old couples who falter and support each other.
Because that is the real "hand of the son, and the old man with the son."
Being able to grow old slowly with your loved ones is a lifetime of romance, but also a lifelong agreement.
What does it mean for two people to become husband and wife?
In addition to being a legal marriage relationship, there is a layer of responsibility and obligation.
It is a promise to the person who loves, and it is also the best appearance of love in thousands of years.
Life is long, and being able to marry a loved one is a blessing cultivated in several lifetimes.
In this complicated human world, operate a love with pyrotechnics, from the initial you and me, to the last white head with old age.
I think that's the happiest thing in life.
Finally, hopefully each of us can find the best home.
I only wish, a lifetime and a couple, and snuggled up to each other for a lifetime!
The author | Bread, pen and ink paper, chai rice oil and salt, one hand of writing, the other hand of life.
The anchor | Zi Mo, WeChat public number: Zi Mo tells stories.
Pictures | Visual China, Network (if there is infringement, please contact to delete)