There are regrets, which is called life.
Source | Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi)
When I had a small gathering with friends the other day, I inadvertently talked about her last relationship in college.
When it comes to the ex, the friend is not the least displeased, but full of gratitude.
Because of the ex, friends learned how to love properly.
I also slowly learned the power of tolerance and understanding.
Cai Kangyong said:
"The best souvenir of love, not those necklaces and rings, not sweet text messages and affectionate words.
It's the change that this person leaves behind you, like a river to a mountain. ”
To this day, friends are still grateful.
Because of him, friends grow into better selves.
During those days together, the boy was really nice to his friends.
It was cold and he would put his friend's hand in his coat pocket.
When crossing the street, he would pull his friend along and lovingly let her walk behind him.
Friends love desserts, and every time the boy goes on a date, he always buys a piece of cake for his friend.
Sometimes people become pampered and proud because they feel favored.
The friend relied on the boy's accommodation, and in just half a year, he divided and merged more than ten times.
She thought the boy loved her and would never leave.
But I forget that it is because of love that I will be hurt the most.
If a heart is hot and hot, and if it is fiercely pierced with several holes, it will also hurt and bleed.
The friend remembers the last quarrel between the two.
During this time, the boy also said a lot of coaxing her words, in exchange for those cold words.
So this time the boy left and never looked back.
After the breakup, friends learned to reflect on the past.
I have reacquainted myself and experienced herself to become what she is now.
She was getting better and better, and all that the boy had taught her.
I remember that there was a debate about the ex in the Strange Story.
When Fu Seoul recalled his predecessor, the first sentence was:
"My ex was excellent."
It was because of her ex's encouragement that she stuck to the habit of writing.
She used to love blogging, but now she has fulfilled her wish to write a book.
Even she herself couldn't help but sigh:
"I think it was this love that planted an Easter egg for me."
In my opinion, this is probably the most positive "predecessor effect".
Draw nourishment from your predecessor and turn all your influences into good things, so as to achieve a better and better self.
Once loved a shining person.
And now, I am also shining.
Not every story has a perfect ending, but I will always remember those days of love.
I will always be grateful to him who taught him to grow.
As Hu Xing'er said:
"My exes were all great people.
One taught me to be an elegant and intellectual woman, and the other taught me to be a mature and sensible adult. ”
It is precisely because of one after another that we are getting better and better.
In our lifetime, we will meet many people.
Everyone who appears and leaves has a meaning of his existence.
Perhaps to this day, most of the people who came before them are still unforgettable.
Get rid of the roads you've walked, the landscapes you've seen.
I think the most important thing is that the ex taught us to love and hate.
Rampage for too long, and finally learn to converge on the edge.
Having made too many unreasonable fusses, this time I finally learned to care for someone in the right way.
Accustomed to suspicion and hurt, I slowly learned to understand and communicate.
I like a line from "The Ex 3":
"After Zixia leaves the Supreme Treasure, the Supreme Treasure can truly grow into Sun Wukong."
But what I like better is its next sentence:
"After the Supreme Treasure left Zixia, Zixia finally became a Shangshang Immortal."
You see,
Both boys and girls get better after they are separated.
Then with everything he learned, he continued to embrace the unknown and beauty of the next paragraph.
May you and I do the same.
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