Do you know what the oldest contractual relationship of mankind is? It's a "marriage relationship." Marriage is the most important and most dependent intimate relationship for human beings in addition to blood relations, and the reason why blood relations can continue is also based on marriage.
Although marriage belongs to a contractual relationship, it is not so strong, even if the ancients sang "may one heart, the white head is not separated", there are also times when "one is different and two wide, and each life is happy".
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The spirit of the modern marriage contract, in fact, is much worse than the ancients, coupled with the freedom of the husband and wife to dissolve the marriage relationship is more legal protection than in ancient times, so the phenomenon of divorce in modern society is very common, of course, this also causes the second marriage family is also very common, after all, after divorce, no one wants to live alone for a lifetime.
However, second-married families often face more and more complex practical problems, and there is a saying in the past that second-married couples are "old cows eat old onions, and eight years cannot be loosened." "Old cows eat tender grass" is very common, "old cattle eat old onions" statement, it is estimated that many people are hearing it for the first time, then guess what this sentence means?
"Old cows eat tender grass", as we all know, is about an elderly man marrying a wife younger than himself, and the common people use a joke to compare an elderly man to an old cow.
Similarly, "old cow eats old onion", is also used as a metaphor for the second marriage of men and women, everyone is not small, and then experienced a marriage twists and turns, thinking and personality will be more mature and old spicy, so the second marriage life, just like "old cow eats old onions", not only a little difficult to chew and spicy taste, figuratively reorganize the life after the family, it is inevitable to bump and bump, annoying things must be more than sweet and sweet.
Of course, even after the two people of the green plum bamboo horse are happily married, Qingqing and my fairy tale fantasies will also be replaced by the daily trivialities of tea, rice, oil and salt, but after the love returns to the truth, it is two people who constantly run into and tolerate, whether it is a new marriage or a second marriage, it is the same process, but the problems faced by the second marriage couple are more complicated, and the risk of the second marriage family breaking up again is very high.
Just like it is usually said that marriage has a "seven-year itch", "the old cow eats the old onion, and the eight years must not be loose", which means that the second-married man and woman want to maintain the contractual relationship of this marriage, at least within eight years after marriage, each other can not relax their efforts to maintain the marriage.
The characteristics of the second-marriage family are that both men and women have a marital past with each other, and the relationship between each and the ex-wife's ex-husband is difficult to say that it has nothing to do with each other, especially if it is the previous marriage that raised children, it is basically difficult to completely separate from the previous family.
For example, the second-married wife may always worry about the children of the ex-husband's family, and the husband of the second marriage may also break the connection with the ex-wife because of the children, so in this way, the second-married family will have a little more suspicion and suspicion in addition to the tea rice oil and salt in daily life, and it is difficult for the husband and wife to be completely frank and trusting.
Therefore, "the old cow eats the old onion, and the eight years must not be loose" is indeed the experience of the second marriage couple.
However, if the second-married couple gives some understanding and tolerance to each other, and neither of them relaxes their efforts to maintain the marriage, such a life will become very stable after eight years, which is the connotation of the second-married couple's sentence "the old cow eats the old onion for eight years and cannot be loosened".