Seen on the Internet: A woman in Zhejiang brought a total of 23 relatives with her relatives, and the female relatives called it to help the woman test the man's bosom. When the man went to checkout, he saw that the bill was 19800 yuan and slipped away. Later, after consultation with the matchmaker, the man voluntarily paid 4398 yuan for two tables of rice in his room, and the rest did not matter. The woman complained in the family group and demanded that relatives share the rest of the cost equally.
In the words of netizens, none of the woman's relatives understand.
There are indeed some customs in some places in Zhejiang, that is, after the family affair is determined, the relatives and friends close to the woman's family will go to the man's home to "see" and "match the family", which means to check for the girls themselves, and other relatives also recognize the door, and then they will be in-laws.
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However, this is done after the man and the woman have determined that they will get married, and the number of people is not fixed. Some of them have their own parents, brothers and sisters, and some of the seven aunts and eight aunts will also go, and at most there are only a few tables. The man's family will prepare refreshments and meals, and the polite family will seal a red envelope or a gift for each person.
Knowing the only daughter of a family, "Xiang Family", there are twenty or thirty people, old and young. The man's family sealed the red envelope alone for a small ten thousand, and there are other expenses, which add up to an estimated twenty thousand. That was ten years ago, both sides were ordinary people's homes, although not many, but not many.
After getting married, the man complained to other relatives of the woman's family who did not go to the "xiang family" that there were too many people who went at that time. The woman's relatives are embarrassed, this kind of thing is not so exquisite, the family goes on the line, with a group of relatives inevitably give people the impression of taking advantage.
Blind dates occasionally have a group of people to meet, but it is rare to take a group of people to eat and drink for free, after all, it is difficult to say whether it will succeed, even if it is finally done, it cannot be done so ugly; in case it does not succeed, the reputation of the party that eats and drinks in white will be ugly, especially the parties, I am afraid that no one will say kiss in the future.
The first time you meet on a blind date, the custom is generally that the man checks out, regardless of the outcome. Some girls feel that it is not appropriate to take the initiative to check out or share the cost, which is not what girls show off, most of them are to avoid unnecessary trouble, there is really the kind of boys who have settled an account or met once, and they feel that girls have agreed to communicate; there is also fear that boys will go around arranging girls to eat white food.
The elders said that most of the objects they were dealing with at that time were for the purpose of marriage, that is, two people had a good feeling and could talk, and if there was no special reason, they would end up getting married. Before getting married, the New Year's Festival is also to give gifts to the future relatives, generally the man first gives the woman, the woman returns the gift, and there is no white to receive other people's things. If you are not ready to get married, then feel free to...
When going to school, boys chase girls to send gifts is the standard link, if girls accept gifts that is willing to mean, unwilling is generally not accepted, some girls are afraid of causing unnecessary misunderstandings, even if it is a bottle of water given by boys, they will also give money to boys. If the girl is not willing to accept the boy's gift, no matter how high the value of the gift, it is despised.
The girls who accept the ambiguous object and then do not respond positively seem to have taken advantage of it for a short time. After a long time, everyone can see that the cat is tired, no one is a fool, and they must not pay tribute to it when they have suffered losses, and they will spread it casually outside, is the girl's reputation still there? I'm afraid I'm going to live in a different place.
Looking at the post on the Internet, many girls complain that their in-laws interfere with the life of their small families, starting from buying a house, apartment type, decoration, furniture, housework after marriage, with children...
Other netizens asked: I am not happy that my in-laws interfere, why not say it directly, it is not convenient for me to say it, why not find a husband to say it? After asking the old man for half a day, I learned that the married woman had not paid a penny, including the cost of having children and raising children.
Spending in-laws' money, but also counting on people not to interfere, such in-laws have but not much, after all, most people agree with who spends money and who is responsible. Receiving things from the in-laws is basically tacitly accepting that the other party can interfere with their own small family. Don't want to be interfered with, the bone is a little harder, everything is out of their own mouths, even if there is no vision to see want to point fingers, don't you have enough to shake up?
In real life, eating people's mouths is soft and taking people's hands short, and collecting money from people to eliminate disasters for people. I have seen that the benefits of receiving people do not give things, and some even do not refund the benefit fees. If you encounter something afraid, you can count; when you encounter a head iron, the last fish will die and the net will break.
I don't understand why someone can take advantage of others in a straightforward way, and finally force a person around him who doesn't have a sincere treatment before he feels that he has a problem. Maybe as some netizens said, strange things are all in groups, and it must be all the way together. As for the true heart, there is also a small amount, and there is no need to force it.