What is shared today is to remind parents that emotional education is very important, because children who lack emotions can have very serious problems. These problems are not handled well, and they are likely to plague them for a lifetime, because people's lives are spent in a variety of emotional experiences.
It is so important to teach children to love rightly and to be loved rightly.
Below I will tell you from this methodological point of view how to deal with these problems faced by children, if the lack of correct emotional education, children into puberty, more likely to appear in these aspects of the problem, many problems do not seem to be directly related to emotional experience, but in fact, emotional education it has many aspects, these problems are interplay.
First, children who lack emotional education will not know how to respect others, because an important part of emotional education is to learn how to respect others. We say that respecting others requires a keen sense of their will and emotions, the ability to empathize, and empathy.
If a person cannot have a correct understanding of his own will and emotions, it is difficult to respect others, because he does not know what respect is and why it is.
Second, children who lack emotional education are usually unaware of the occurrence of emotions, especially love, which should be a process, rather than simply having intimate relationships that are love. So relatively speaking, if parents lack emotional education for their children, the child will not know what love is, and perhaps he will accidentally have a relationship with others out of the impulse of adolescence. And as we said earlier, emotional education has many aspects, so the consequences of ignoring emotional education should also have a certain diffusion. Those who lack emotional education do not understand what love is, and may become more profitable, and even sometimes may unconsciously control each other.
Third, the child who lacks emotional education, because he does not know how to respect the concept of others, will become very self-centered, and he must be based on his own opinion in everything. If others don't respect his opinion, he may get angry.
As mentioned in the previous content, parents or grandfathers are too spoiled for their children, which is actually a negative case of not giving children the right emotional education. Children have not formed the correct habit of respecting others at home since childhood, but the elders are around themselves, then the child does not know what respect is, will only be self-centered, and even produce a lot of arbitrary and inappropriate words and deeds.
There are many children who behave inappropriately, and in fact their original family relationships are often not very good. It is repeatedly emphasized that parents need the concept of lifelong learning, because once you start to become a parent, you have to learn for life. Only such a good father and a good mother can create a good loving child, a family that will not be hurt, which is very important.
To some extent, children do not receive a good emotional education, the root cause is often that the parents themselves also lack emotional education, and can not give positive feedback on the emotional experience in life. You don't want your children to walk into love, into marriage, into their own families, with mutilated or even distorted views of sexual knowledge and feelings.
The three attributes of love mentioned in the previous part are The theories of Westerners. But about the love you like, there is also a very important aspect in the cognition of Chinese, that is, the sense of responsibility.
When we start to like a person, when we fall in love with someone, we want to take responsibility for him, including his happiness, and everything else, and then come exclusivity. We often say that there can only be two people in a relationship, and there should be no one else to cut or share.
The emotional education of adolescence will affect the child's life, and his cognition of love and understanding of responsibility are not only present when he interacts with others during adolescence. Later life and choices have something to do with it. So we say that emotional education is very, very important, because without him, it is possible that the child's life will be in trouble for the rest of the day.
The above is the lack of emotional education, the impact on the child's psychological cognition level, is a longer-term, more far-reaching impact.
The first part talked about the difference between liking and loving, and the three elements of liking are related to self-identity. And adolescent children begin to have a hazy liking for the opposite sex, and many times there is also a psychological component of seeking identity.
One is to identify with someone and like someone because the other person is actually the person you want to be. Like adolescents with good academic performance, talented people are usually the most popular because many people have such expectations of themselves. However, when this kind of like emotion encounters setbacks and unhappiness, adolescents during adolescence are very sensitive, and their self-identity is vulnerable to impact, resulting in various behavioral problems.
First, there will be some tired and autistic behavior. When there is a lack of emotional education, adolescents have no experience in the face of feelings, and it is difficult to have correct cognition and processing when they encounter problems.
Sometimes behavioral abnormalities occur. For example, he does not want to go to school, he hides in the house and does not go out, and then there will be some rejection behavior at home, often complaining to his parents about this side is uncomfortable, that side is uncomfortable, and nightmares are like this.
It can be said that there is a series of abnormal reactions from physiological to psychological to behavioral. Of course, the most unpleasant situation for parents is that there is an abortion due to an unintended pregnancy. Then the child will feel more and more that he is no longer a good person, self-abandonment or even running away from home. Therefore, from the child's personal daily life behavior, to the interaction between her classmates and whether she is willing to go to school, these regular things must be paid attention to by parents.
Second, there is a lack of empathy. The online world is terrible and terrible, because anonymous can not be responsible, we are in the era of rapid development of science and technology, technology will make people's lives go in a good direction, but also cause distortions in the world. This generation of children grew up with rapid technology, so facing the experience and dependence of the Internet on technology is deeper than any previous generation. This may make them happier, or it may be more unfortunate,
The parent-child relationship that extends to adolescence, the lack of emotional education. The performance in this regard may not be a problem of feelings, but a problem of life in all aspects. Frequently facing the Internet can make people relatively unsympathetic and irritable. Adolescent children who are overly dependent on the Internet are likely to have varying degrees of social impairment. Having fewer friends in school is easily ostracized, which may also become a social problem.
Third, behaviors that are prone to harm, including self-harm. Without proper emotional education, children will not know how to deal with their emotions. In places where parents can't see, there may be many traces of cutting with a blade on the child's body. So the lack of emotional education can have a serious impact on the psychological suggestive behavior of adolescents.
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