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Recently, a video of an executive abusing his wife caused an uproar on the Internet.
The husband in the video beat his wife inhumanely in front of the child, and even more heinously, the mother-in-law on the side was indifferent to this, and after only a few symbolic persuasions, she left the scene with the child in her arms.
We can't imagine how helpless the wife should be in this situation at this time, but even so, when her husband did something to her, the mother thought of the child at the first time.
While punching in the fist, she shouted to her child: Don't be afraid, go fast!
In the video, the child's cries are heart-wrenching, but this childish voice does not awaken the conscience of the father, his behavior makes the child afraid, and his every fist is deeply smashed into the child's heart.
Some people are curious, children's childhood memories will gradually fade with age, two or three years old children, when they grow up, can they remember their father's domestic violence against their mother?
Or can domestic violence have an impact on the child's young psychology?
From the perspective of children's physical development, children under the age of three are still in the stage of memory blur, which is what we often say about not remembering things.
However, due to differences in individual development, some children will have lasting memories of things that impressed themselves within the age of three, and such things are often things that bring more serious physical and mental trauma to themselves, the most typical of which is domestic violence.
After the age of three, the child's brain and mind will continue to develop, and their memory will become stronger at this time.
In the face of domestic violence, some children's psychology will experience changes from fear to avoidance to autism, which often leads to a series of personality obstacles in children in adulthood.
One netizen once recalled his childhood experience online.
Mom had no income full-time, Dad loved to drink and had a temper, and he spent almost every day in his parents' arguments since he can remember.
Every once in a while, the father who had drunk alcohol would move to his mother, and at that time he did not even dare to fight, but could only hide helplessly under the curtain.
Growing up, he began to resent his parents, his father for domestic violence, his mother for cowardice, and the parent-child relationship became like a stranger.
After graduating from college, he did not dare to fall in love, did not dare to marry, countless nights, the scene of his father's violence against his mother would come to mind, he began to lose sleep, and even had mild depression.
Finally, he wrote in the post: "My father's fist caused me to remember very early, and my life was finally ruined in this unbearable childhood."
How will witnessing a child whose father beats his mother grow up to have an impact on his life? The truth is poignant
1. Violent tendencies
The family environment and atmosphere are crucial for the growth of a child, the parents are loving, the family environment is harmonious, and when they grow up, they will be cheerful and sunny, and they will be full of happiness.
On the contrary, children who have lived in domestic violence since childhood, while they hate their father's violent behavior, they will also subconsciously form violent tendencies, which is the profound impact of parental behavior on children.
When children grow up, when they have a certain ability, in the process of getting along with people, this violent tendency will show.
2. Autistic personality
In addition to violence and hurting people, there are many children who grow up in a violent environment who will form autistic personality, they show that they are afraid of socialization, do not believe that friends do not like to be lively, never confide in people, and serious psychological disorders.
And all this is due to the shadow of childhood, these children set up a safety cover for themselves, thinking that as long as they hide in the safety cover, they will not be harmed.
Long-term personality autism will not only bring a child's life impact, but also a great barrier to future career and emotional development.
3. Resist marriage
Some people say that the best gift that parents can give to their children is conjugal love, because the way parents get along determines the child's view of future marriage to some extent.
It is true that if the father is considerate and thoughtful to the mother in life and takes good care of the mother in everything, then in the hearts of the boys, the status of women will also be very high, and the boys will take good care of their wives and children like their fathers in the future.
For girls, parental love is also a model of high-quality marriage, and they will come to find their other half in the future according to their parents' standards.
On the contrary, if there is only resentment and violence between husband and wife, then the children will also be disappointed in the unknown marriage, they are not willing to repeat the mistakes of their parents, so they become resistant to marriage, and even to the children.
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