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When I was in school, after learning the story of Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai, I especially envied the feelings of the two people, and felt that the feelings and marriage were like the two of them, then there would be no regrets in this life. If you can get a confidant and partner like they are to each other, it is really a great blessing in life, and it will not be changed.
However, after going through the world, I realized that the love and marriage between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai were too rare. Their marriage contained love, morality and fun, and they became each other's soul mates, experiencing the best aspects of love and marriage. Marriage in this world is easy to obtain, but soul mates are difficult to find, and ordinary people among all sentient beings are difficult to achieve such a realm as the two.
However, life is long for decades, and marriage choices are a very important step. Even if we can't do it, like Qian Zhongshu and Yang Chen's realm, we should still keep the most basic two bottom lines. There are two basic bottom lines in marriage, and most of the couples who can keep it can work together for a lifetime, and they can't keep it.
In a long marriage, it is not possible without moral restraint. Because human nature is a complex thing, and marriage is essentially against human nature. It binds two people tightly together with a contract, and this bundle may be a lifetime.
But in the course of several decades of life, there will always be some changes and temptations, and if there is no moral sense of constraint, one party can easily lose themselves in marriage. When a person in a marriage can't control their desires, plays with feelings, plays with marriage, when everything goes well, maybe everything is not a problem.
But when your career changes, when you are at the trough of life, the play with feelings and marriage will make you lose the backing of the family and the harbor where the soul lives, and finally have nothing, no love, no support. Such a person will most likely be miserable in his later years.
So, keep the moral bottom line in marriage, maintain a sense of responsibility to your partner, to your marriage. Even if there isn't much romance and fun in your marriage. But they can also work together to survive the bumps and bumps in marriage, and have comfort and support in their later years.
Although many people are now ridiculing that the current marriage is a partner to live a life, where is there any love? Love is too rare. Having said that, think about how you can survive those trivial and bland routines together if there is no love in decades of marriage, and how to resist the dark and boring things in life?
Maybe love does not have such a large proportion in marriage, but love is also indispensable in marriage. It is too difficult to meet someone who can still be in love, but marriage is dynamic, even if you enter marriage with love, you must know that love will disappear.
Therefore, it is also necessary to inject love into the marriage, there is love in the marriage, the two people will be full of passion and motivation for the marriage, and they will think of operating well. It is precisely because of their love for each other that the two can work together, resist the wind and rain all the way, fight monsters and upgrades, and think of protecting each other. And a marriage without feelings, like a scattered sand, a little bit of wind and grass, it is difficult to fly separately, such a marriage is doomed to be difficult to last from the beginning.
Husband and wife are harmonious and the family is happy, and the harmony of husband and wife requires emotional and moral maintenance.
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