Chinese's attitude towards ''marriage'' has always been ''Ning Cha Ten Temples Do Not Destroy a Marriage'', and this attitude of persuasion and non-persuasion also shows that Chinese have an attitude of support for 'divorce'". But China's ancestors did not support divorce from the beginning, how did they change?
In the early days of Chinese society, the literature recorded the marriage relationship in Chinese and African mythology, starting from the pre-Qin,
In the Book of Rites: The way of a gentleman, created by husband and wife. Directly regard the relationship between husband and wife as the beginning of human morality. And for the divorce, it is also recorded in the Book of Rites: the way of husband and wife, there is a harmony, and the unrighteous goes. That is to say, the relationship between husband and wife, if the feelings are still there, everyone will live together, if the feelings collapse, then it is simply and neatly divorced, which shows that the people of the pre-Qin Dynasty are very casual about "divorce".
Later, there was the Western Zhou Dynasty, and the Duke of Zhou established a ceremonial system and used the patriarchal system to maintain social stability.
Once to achieve the consolidation of the social development of the whole country, and then for the first time to set a lot of conditions. The Book of The Great Dai Li has "Seven outs and three do not go": disobedience to parents, childlessness, adultery, jealousy, evil diseases, talking too much, stealing, nothing to take, and more than three years of mourning, before the poor and then rich. Such conditions must be met in order to be divorced, and if there are more special circumstances, divorce is still not possible.
But what if you really want to get a divorce? I had to use my "intellect" and the law to fight with wits. For example, Mencius, when he entered the room and saw his wife "sitting on a dustpan", was to open her legs like a dustpan when she was sitting. Mencius felt that her sitting posture was too indecent, and used this as a reason to file for divorce from his wife. For example, Confucius's apprentice Zengzi, the "Confucius Family Language" records that Zengzi was very angry because his wife did not steam the pear for his stepmother, so he divorced her, and said that it was because his wife failed to fulfill his filial piety to his stepmother, and he flaunted his wife's divorce as: filial piety.
One day, a military expert in the Warring States, Wu Qi, gave his wife a ribbon and said to his wife, Madam, can you weave me a similar one? As a result, his wife was skillful and knitted a better one for him. As a result, Wu qi was furious and filed for divorce from his wife. From the attitude of Mencius, Zengzi and Wu Qi towards divorce, we can see that they are making excuses for their repudiation behavior, but we can also see that they are not protecting women's marital status.
In the Tang Dynasty, the people's attitude towards divorce became more conservative
。 In addition to the mandatory requirements of "seven out of three not going", "righteousness", "separation", and "filing for divorce" are also included in the national law. It is further stipulated that if both spouses file for divorce, but after verification, it is found that both parties do not meet (or do not meet) the conditions for divorce, both husband and wife will be punished.
But in order to get a divorce, occasionally someone will take advantage of the loopholes in the law. For example, Mogao Grottoes once unearthed a "Letter of Letting Go of The Wife", which contains: May the wife and the wife and the departed, recomb the cicada sideburns, lightly sweep the eyebrows of the delicate posture, select the lord of the high-ranking official, make the shadow court, the beautiful effect of the piano and rhyme, the solution of grievances and knots, more hatred, one and two wide, each life is happy. The author wrote about divorce with great emotion, but it was only a routine for divorce at that time, just like today's marriage vows, divorce must also have a form. Husband and wife two people may have turned against each other, and they are not willing to look at each other, but in order to avoid the punishment of the law, they have to write such a thing, indicating that the husband and wife are good to get together and disperse!
In the Song Dynasty, the people's thinking was imprisoned by science, not only ashamed of the affairs of men and women, but also felt that divorce was a disgraceful thing.
In addition to the people's point of view, the marriage system of the Song Dynasty, about the "divorce"" continued the Tang Dynasty in law, but the implementation was more stringent, if the conditions for divorce were not met, it was sentenced to two years in prison. But there are still desperate to divorce, the famous female lyricist Li Qingzhao is such a tough person!
After Li Qingzhao's first husband, Zhao Mingcheng, died of illness, Li Qingzhao remarried to a man named Zhang Ruzhou. However, this Zhang Ruzhou's character is not good, the reason why he married Li Qingzhao is because he has a crush on the gold and stone cultural relics in Li Qingzhao's hands, which are worth a lot of money, but after marriage, he found that Li Qingzhao did not want to take the treasure as the joint property of the husband and wife. After the request failed, Zhang Ruzhou even moved against her.
Then Li Qingzhao couldn't stand such a person with inferior character as his husband, and directly sued Zhang Ruzhou in court to sue him for divorce. However, after checking that the two of them did not meet the conditions for divorce. Li Qingzhao also had a period of imprisonment for this behavior, and was imprisoned for nine days, if it were not for the rescue and her reputation, it is estimated that he would have been locked up for a longer time. But while praising her talent, later generations did not appreciate her divorce, or even satirize her. For example, Hu Zai's "Yu Yin Cong Words of The Dragon Creek" records that the evening scene of the mulberry elm is obscene, accompanied by the wood of the donkey. The preachers laughed. Wang Zhuo's "Biji Manzhi" records: After Zhao's death, he remarried to a certain clan, sued and left, and the late festival was wandering and returning, not the end of the late festival, and there was no inspection.
During the Ming and Qing dynasties, the social consciousness of the righteousness of husband and wife was further aggravated, and people did not dare to divorce easily.
Many literary works also reflect this, and the famous novel "The Legend of the Awakening Marriage" records a master who would rather die than write a wife repair document for his master. Moreover, during the Ming and Qing dynasties, the number of arches erected for women because of chastity was also as high as hundreds, not only did not support divorce, but even supported widowhood.
The attitude of Chinese society towards "divorce", since the establishment of the Western Zhou patriarchal system, for the sake of social stability, most of the dynasties have supported marriage! Because marriage is also related to the continuation of heirs, and people are the top priority of feudal society and even modern society, Mencius has a monarch's inquiry to Mencius on the "population problem": the people of neighboring countries are not less, and the people of the widows are not more, why not?
Because of the importance of population to a country, the feudal ruling class used laws, rituals, and even the religion of karma to influence people's thinking. Because of the call of the state, "persuasion and dissuasion" will become the absolute mainstream, and the ancient Chinese people will have the idea of "rather demolishing a temple than destroying a marriage", and will not support "divorce".
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