I have seen such a question on Zhihu:
"What do you hate most about your boyfriend?"
Here's an answer that resonated with a lot of people:
"I hate my boyfriend the most as much as he treats me as well as he treats others."
I also agree with this view, as Zhang Ailing said:
"If what you give to others is the same as what you give to me, then I don't want it."
Love is intolerable in the eyes of girls, and if you love me, you must favor me.
In a relationship, it is actually very simple to distinguish whether a man really loves you or not.
Just see if he has taken the initiative to give you the following "preferences".
Enough security
Boys are actually very smart, as long as he loves you enough, he will remember all your preferences, will carefully protect your sensitivities, can understand every subtext you say, and will work hard to do everything you expect.
He knows that you are a very insecure person, so after he is with you, he will try to give you a sense of security.
Whether you're around him or not, he'll keep his distance from the opposite sex around him.
Even if the opposite sex takes the initiative to approach and take the initiative to show goodwill, he will also keep his inner loyalty to you.
He will not be embarrassed to refuse, but will resolutely and bluntly refuse.
He will maintain just the right sense of distance and proportion from other members of the opposite sex;
You're never going to be jealous of some insignificant bystander.
This self-consciousness of his feelings for you will make you feel extremely solid.
He has no secrets in front of you, and no matter what happens, you know he will always be there.
In a relationship, if a man, he can give you an unprecedented sense of solidity and security,
Then, he must have had a heart for you and moved his true feelings.
He will be very accommodating to you
I've seen a little story like this:
My 8-year-old nephew told me he had a crush on a girl.
I asked him, "Do you know what it is to like?" ”
He said: "I don't like fat people, but if she's fat, it's fine." ”
You see, even children know that liking is favoritism.
Indeed, when a person falls in love with you, he becomes very double-standard.
There are many things that people around you can't do, but you can do it.
He doesn't like snail powder, and he doesn't like people around him to eat this kind of thing, but you can eat it;
He doesn't like occasions that are too lively, but he knows you like it, so he will go with you;
He doesn't like opera, but you do, and he accompanies you when he's free.
Don't believe it, when a man falls in love with another person, it really feels like a changed person.
He will spoil you, accommodate you, and be willing to give you his own tolerance.
When you do something wrong, he will not be angry with you directly, but will comfort you at the first time.
Knowing that you must be uncomfortable in your heart, he will comfort you and enlighten you with pain.
Won't let you down with him
I've seen a lot of love, no infidelity between two people, not even a third party;
Cute and loving, or parted ways.
What exactly is it that defeats each other's feelings?
Yes, disappointment after disappointment.
Cai Kangyong once said something like this:
"Everyone has their own emotional account, every time they make each other happy, the deposit is a little more; every time they make the other person sad, the deposit is a little less,
You blindly take it from it, willfully feel that your money will never be squandered,
In fact, no, when the deposit becomes zero, it is when the other party leaves. ”
And deposits are often not spent suddenly.
It is because you consume too much, store too little, and last for a long time that you finally start to lose money.
Heart death is in an instant. But before he died, he had actually experienced a lot of torture.
And a person who truly loves you must understand this truth.
So, after being with you, he won't do anything that will disappoint you.
Will work hard to make money, do everything in their power to be nice to you, and spoil you into the envy of others.
In the process of heterosexual interaction, the man who will take the initiative to give you these "preferences" must really love you.
Love is something that cannot be sought, and if you are fortunate enough to meet it, don't let it down.
In this life, people say that the long is not long, and the short is not short; don't live up to the person who really loves you with his heart.