Author: One flower
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Mr. Qian Zhongshu once had an appropriate description of the love of middle-aged people in "Siege of the City", and the love of middle-aged people is like an old house on fire, which is out of control.
Many people think that young men and women are more likely to rub out the spark of love, and in the face of love, young them, often desperate, the admonition of the people around them are all left behind, for people of this age, love is above all else.
And when people reach middle age, love is not above everything, family affection occupies the first place, and love has become a dispensable thing. The recent hit "Xiao MinJia", starring Zhou Xun and Huang Lei, describes the reality of middle-aged people's love vividly.
For example, Liu Xiaomin, played by Zhou Xun, and Chen Zhuo, played by Huang Lei, two people met when they were young, and after 20 years of going around, the two people met again at the hometown meeting, both of them were divorced, and then they often chatted, and naturally developed into a couple relationship.
After more than a year of love, the two people have always been in a sneaky state, Xiaomin did not dare to let her family know about Chen Zhuo's existence, and Chen Zhuo did not intend to disclose this relationship in front of friends and family.
Later, Xiao Min's son and Chen Zhuo's daughter secretly talked about love, and Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo broke off contact, decisively broke up, and had no contact. Is there love between them? There are still, but they are ranked after the affection.
For example, Li Ping and Hong Wei are a half-way couple, in the eyes of outsiders, they are a match, working hard together to start a business, and their personalities are complementary, and Hong Wei has spoiled Li Ping to the sky, which can be seen from what he did to li Ping and the daughter born to her ex-husband.
However, such a good man has a 4-year-old illegitimate child abroad, no wonder when Li Ping miscarried before, he was not so sad, dare to feel that he already has a successor.
Li Ping asked Hong Wei's most heartfelt sentence: "Is it really that important to pass on the lineage?" "Of course, it is important that the love of a middle-aged man is so rational and realistic, he can love you very much, but there is a premise, once the two conflict, you will become an outcast."
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The love of middle-aged people is so rational that it makes people feel heartbroken.
Whether it is Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo, or Li Ping and Hong Wei, from the feelings between them, we can draw such a truth: the love of middle-aged people is full of reason and reality, and this reason and reality make people feel pierced!
Especially the kind of middle-aged people with children, it is not an easy task to combine and re-establish a family. Even if you successfully start a family, you will face various tests, and once a problem arises, the two sides will think differently, and the solutions will be hugely different.
I have a typical example around me, the second uncle and the second aunt are a halfway couple, the second uncle and the former aunt have a son, after the divorce, the son lives with the second uncle. When the son was 9 years old, the second uncle and the current second aunt were introduced together, and when the second aunt married, she brought a son.
A family of four, perhaps sweet, but more sour, because both children have already become conscious, and also know that the woman and man in front of them are not their own biological mothers and biological fathers, often throw tantrums, the two children also compete with each other, and the family is in a mess.
The most fatal thing is that although the second uncle and the second aunt share the same bed, but each other's hearts can never be close, the family's savings, the second uncle wants to leave it to his own son, and the second aunt also thinks of taking the financial power from the second uncle's hands all the time and leaving it to his own son.
For this reason, the two people did not quarrel less, and the life was very bad.
Middle-aged love, is so realistic, at this stage of their thinking is not how to love each other, for them, love is dispensable, the other party can also be dispensable, family and friends, always ranked in front of the lover, with physical and emotional needs will think of each other.
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