He was originally a high-achieving student at Peking University, so why did he drop out of school to become a monk?

When I called Fa Xiao a few days ago, she told me that her cousin dropped out of school and went to Wutai Mountain to become a monk.

01 Excellent little cousin

Little Cousin Fa is a person who has been extremely good in her mouth since she was a child.

The family conditions are superior, the people are down-to-earth and self-motivated, and the school results are always among the best.

His father was the director of the hospital in the local city, and his mother was the chief surgeon in the well-known department of the hospital, and his family was extremely well-off from an early age.

His mother disciplined him very strictly, and all the way he was raised according to the mold of other people's children.

From time to time, his father took him to the fields of his hometown to do farm work, so that he could experience the hardships of peasant life, lest he develop an arrogant nature.

Once my mother was at home and happened to meet.

I saw the father and son carrying a bucket and pouring manure on the vegetables in the vegetable field at home. It made her sigh.

She said that even if there are bitter children in the countryside, there are now a few who are willing to do these jobs. Looking at other people's homes, tomorrow life has been so good, still so down-to-earth, what reason do we have to be lazy and not work hard.

No one expected that last year, when he was about to take the college entrance examination, he suddenly left a letter to his family, claiming not to go to him and ran away from home.

While this incident surprised us, it was like tearing a hole in a splendid flower cluster. Let us realize that he is so outstanding and envied by everyone, and his life may not be as happy as we think.

02 Changed personality

His parents went crazy and went looking everywhere, and they also mobilized a bunch of relatives to look for it together. Because I didn't know where he was, there was no news for a long time, until he was probably in trouble, called him at home, and finally connected, and then found back.

After coming back, his personality changed greatly, he was gloomy and gloomy all day, he did not speak, he yelled and lost his temper at home when he did not agree, and his parents were like enemies.

The academic performance is as good as ever, and the college entrance examination has been tested in Peking University in one fell swoop.

When his father sent him to School in Beijing, I met them once and had a meal together.

Looking at a very shy child, he will not take the initiative to speak. Only when I deliberately find a topic to talk to him, I will respond to a sentence or two. The words are minimalist, and often after a sentence is finished, people do not know how to continue. Other than that, everything seems to be working fine.

During the school period, everyone was not around, and I didn't know what the situation was. But when I returned home from the summer vacation in the first half of the semester, my family found that the whole person's state was getting more and more wrong, and the spirit seemed to be wrong, often talking to himself, yelling at home when he didn't agree.

Shortly after the start of the second half of the semester, no one said a word, left the school on his own, and ran to Wutai Mountain to become a monk.

The teacher called home and the parents learned of the incident.

To this end, the whole family ran to Mount Wutai to persuade. He only said that life is meaningless, and he only wants to live a life in a peaceful environment. The parents were angry and angry, but they were completely helpless, and they had been deadlocked for a long time, without results. I could only go to school to withdraw from school, and I accepted it.

03 Harsh education is the original sin

Fa Xiao and this cousin are very close, so the two used to talk about some things in life.

Publishing novels, in hindsight, the main problem is still in family education.

His parents are strong people, and they have been very strict with him since childhood, and no matter what they do, they must compete for the upper hand.

Exams, not the first place, have to write a review;

Participate in the competition, do not win, will be criticized, too stupid, incompetent;

Even if you run a step in school, you must run the top few, otherwise it is a shame.

He grew up in such an educational concept that must be competed for the top, and once he could not do it, he was faced with the disappointed eyes and ugly words of his parents.

So, there was a lot of pressure.

He followed up with a novel: "No matter what I do, it seems that they (parents) will not be satisfied, such a day, like a tight curse, what is the meaning of living!" 」 ”

Fa Xiao comforted: "You are already very good, your parents just want you to be better, they must still be very proud of you." ”

But these words did not let him go until it broke out completely.

When parents want an excellent child, they are always harsh on their children, and the original intention is for their sake. If the child's psychological endurance is strong enough, he may try to become what the parent thinks. But most children can't stand such high-pressure education, and can only choose to escape or have a rebellious extreme mentality, self-abandonment. Hate learning, even hate parents and life.

Every parent should be vigilant about this, there is nothing wrong with high standards and strict requirements, but we must pay attention to grasping the scale, and we cannot completely let the children live in their own control. Expecting too much of your child can lead to excessive demands and neglect of their own growth patterns, which can backfire.