Author: Lemon [original content, welcome to personal collection forwarding]
Now more and more families have begun to have a second child, a third child, the family has more children, will definitely think of the housing problem, as long as the money in hand, the house is of course the bigger the better. However, there is a second-born pregnant mother next to me, but when buying a house, she can obviously afford to buy a three-room, and she has to buy a two-room.
Pingping is my college roommate, pregnant with her second child this year, and discussed buying a house with her husband some time ago. The two have been working hard for so many years and have been renting a house, just want to wait for the right time, save enough money, and buy a satisfactory house. However, Pingping insisted on only looking at two rooms and not buying three rooms, and her husband asked her incomprehensibly: "If you have money to buy three rooms, buy two rooms?" Pingping replied: "Of course, the area of the two rooms can be a little larger, and one room is installed as the kind of children's room that can protect the privacy of the two children, whether the second child is male or female, both children can live." The point is that there are fewer rooms, so we don't have to live with the elderly. If you want the elderly to help with the baby, you can buy another set or rent another set in the same community, so as to save friction together and not affect our education of children. ”
Listening to the true intentions of the second-born mother, her husband shouted: High. Because, he also didn't want to live with the old man, there were too many troubles.
The two generations have different lifestyles, and there are many contradictions in living together, which affects family harmony
Now many young people who live with the elderly will complain that the elderly are too frugal in life, always nagging young people and spending money to buy things. The old man gets up early and sleeps late, and the young man is used to staying up late to sleep, sleeping late in the morning, living together and dinging, always making a contradiction.
The elderly, in fact, are not accustomed to the living habits of young people, and they both dislike young people and worry about being disliked by young people. Moreover, the old people do not want to serve the young people's food and drink like old mothers every day, do housework and take the baby every day, they also want to go out and play around, dance square dance, and play chess.
The two generations have different parenting concepts, which can easily affect the growth and education of children
In addition, living with the elderly, young people will feel very inconvenient when educating their children. Many elderly people are easy to protect their children when they educate them, and as soon as their parents manage their children, they will come out to protect them, so that the children feel that they have a backer, and they do not take the words of their parents seriously. Moreover, some elderly people's parenting concepts are relatively old, and it is easy to deviate children. Therefore, living together often can easily affect the growth and education of children.
And if, as Pingping thought above, do not live together, but live closer, the two sides can take care of each other and help each other, but not to affect each other too deeply. For example, the elderly have time to help with children, pick up children to school, but in the education of children, tutoring homework and other issues, or the child's parents as the lead, to influence and discipline children.
Young people are more pursuing a free living space, and there are elderly people who are inconvenient
Moreover, from the real thoughts of some young people, it is true that most of them do not want to live with the elderly, which is too restrictive. For example, some mothers can wear tulle pajamas, wear miniskirts and other cool, casual clothes when the elderly are not there, and they can also hug and kiss with their husbands, but live with the elderly, wear clothes to pay attention to, and their husbands do not dare to have any too intimate performance.
Therefore, in terms of freedom of life, young people really do not want to live with the elderly. And the elderly, because of their conservative thinking, are actually not accustomed to the intimacy between young people, and living together will also feel awkward. Therefore, like Pingping, you can obviously buy a three-room house, but you can buy two rooms, which is indeed more clever. It has laid a good foundation for the harmonious coexistence of the family after the birth of the second child.
Today's topic: Netizens, do you think young people should live with the elderly?
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He has been engaged in children's book editing, children's famous book analysis, and has written interviews with entrepreneurs, pension directors, lawyers and other celebrities, and is now keen on parenting writing. Pay attention to [Lemon Fruit Parenting] Everyone learns together every day, makes progress together, warms each other, and shepherds babies on the clouds.
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