People's comparison mentality is always there, and when they are young, their careers are better than who is how big an official is and who makes how much money they make. Life is also compared to who wears what brand of clothes, who uses what kind of cosmetics, whose children take the final exam and how many places they take. However, when we are old and become older, we understand that the biggest gap between people and people is actually children.
Two small hairs, one hit worker, one earns millions a year, and fate has taught them a lesson when they are old
Old Li and Old Dong are fellow villagers and small, but the fates of the two people are very different. When Old Li was young, he went out to do business, found the first pot of gold in his life, and then went home to open a factory. Old Dong went to work in his friend's factory. One is the boss, the other is a hit worker, one earns millions a year, a monthly salary of several thousand, and the gap between the lives and careers of two people is 108,000 miles.
Old Li and Old Dong both married their daughters-in-law and became a family, and the sons of the two families were about the same age. Old Li has money, sends his son to a private school in the city, has good educational resources, and his parents are also very worry-free. Old Dong's son went to a public school, and the tuition was cheap, but fortunately, the child worked very hard.
It is said that men become bad when they have money, I don't know what the reason is, after the old Li became rich, he and his daughter-in-law divorced at both ends for three days, and finally divorced, and the children also returned to their wives. Although the old Dong family worked hard, however
The couple has a good relationship, and the children are smart and hardworking
。
Time is like a white colt passing by, decades of time have passed in a flash, old Li and old Dong have become white-haired elderly people, and their sons have grown up. After The old Li divorced, it did not take long to divorce again, and his career plummeted. In his later years, he often wanted to contact his son, wanted to live with his son's family, and wanted to help with his grandchildren.
The son said: "If you are short of money, I will give you a little living expenses, it is impossible to come to me, my children do not need you to bring, I bring myself." When I was a child, I should have you take it, you don't care,
I want to have children at this time, but I don't need them anymore
。 ”
Old Dong's sons are also married and have children, and they sometimes go to the city to take their grandchildren, and their sons and daughters-in-law often bring their children back to visit them.
Children are filial piety, children and grandchildren are full of halls
，
Old Dong's later life is really happy
。 Whenever Old Li heard Old Dong mention his grandson, his heart was very uncomfortable.
When he was young, he was not good at running a family, and now he has ended up in this lonely and miserable life, which is really "self-inflicted". It's nothing to be tired when you're young, this person is old and suffers, that's the real guilt!
Raising children and preventing the elderly is no longer the only way for the elderly to survive, but children and family affection have always been the source of happiness in our hearts. If the children are on their knees, the family is sweet even if it is hard. If the child and the parents are rebellious and estranged, and there is no filial piety, how much money there is cannot resolve the pain in the heart.
The relationship between a child and his parents is not cultivated in a day, nor can he cultivate a filial piety child by talking about it. Parents want to live happily in their old age, or they should cultivate their children to become a filial piety from a young age.
First, the feelings between husband and wife are harmonious, creating a warm environment for children to grow up.
Parents often quarrel, and the harm to the child is fatal. Many children grow up and don't like to be with their parents very much, and can give you money, but don't come to me. Why is that?
Because
Children and parents are not emotionally dependent
The child's heart has left an indelible psychological shadow, wanting to escape from that home, wanting to stay away from the terrible parents, and there will be no sense of security around the parents.
When the child is young, we create a warm home for the child, let the child have a sense of security, and establish intimate feelings with the child, and the child will naturally be very filial to his parents when he is older.
You raised me to grow up, I grew old with you, companionship and love are the best ways to educate.
Second, parents lead by example and be a filial piety to their parents.
The so-called Lao Tzu heroes are good men, and children are always learning from their parents. When we are still children, whether we have a good honor for our parents, children are also learning.
Good family style will be passed down from generation to generation, we want children how to honor the elders, it is better to do it for them first. Under the positive guidance of your parents, you can harvest a filial piety and sensible child.
Third, parents cultivate children to know how to be grateful.
Parents love their children very much, but in the end they have cultivated a "white-eyed wolf", and there are many such examples around us. Parents raise children, doting on children is not enough, we must pay attention to cultivating children's independence, let them mature a little bit. Only when children realize that it is not easy for their parents to do things can they have the emotion of gratitude for their parents' nurturing grace. Respect for the elders, know how to be grateful and reciprocal, and the child's moral cultivation also needs to be precipitated a little bit.
Filial piety is the fine tradition of the Chinese nation, we must have a filial piety as children, and we must also be extra careful as parents!