Wang Sumin was divorced after suffering from domestic violence, but she single-handedly pulled her two daughters to grow up, cultivated them into talents, and made great contributions. Although Liu Xiaomin and Liu Xiaojie have both developed in Beijing and have repeatedly called her to come to Beijing for the elderly, she has never relaxed, saying that she is too small to dislike Xiaomin's 50-square-meter house, that she is not used to living in Beijing, that the price is too high, that there are no old friends around her, and so on.
In fact, she has been waiting and watching, waiting for the eldest daughter to get a doctor's qualification after several examinations, staying in Beijing as an acupuncture doctor, and then the deputy chief physician of the acupuncture department; waiting for the second daughter to move into the self-occupied commercial house of the government welfare lottery, have her own house, and divorce the mood is not good, she naturally came to Beijing.
For the big city, she also yearns, especially in Beijing, where both daughters are, but she has always been reluctant to appear in the form of burdens and burdens, especially not to let the other half of her daughters see, and she feels that her daughter will eventually remarry.
But for the second marriage, she has always believed that it is shrinking and depreciating. Xiao Min's marriage was her pride, and it was also the best choice she could make at that stage, but Xiao Min's ex-husband Jin Bo cheated on her female colleague, which was also something she could not tolerate, divorce was forced; as for Xiao Jie, she was quite critical, married to the local household registration of the mother treasure man, not to go forward to know the birth, flash marriage and bleached became a second marriage, although people and people are equal, but look at it, how can it be equal, or divided into three, six, nine and so on.
The two daughters who were originally proud were just like her, and now the family of three has become a divorced woman. This time in Beijing, her purpose is very clear, the daughter's remarriage issue must be on the line.
Weakness
For her two daughters, she has a very clear plan in her heart.
The eldest daughter, Xiao Min, has reached the age of not being confused, although she stayed in Beijing, she still has to continue to fight for her career, and her son Jin Jiajun is 18 years old, and there are not many places to spend when she becomes an adult. As long as Xiaomin finds a man of the same age, stable career, and no burden with children to spend the rest of his life with. Although the second daughter is highly educated, she will be 33 years old immediately, and she will have a bare pole, and it will be difficult to have children after the childbearing age, which is her most difficult.
But Xiao Min has been in Beijing for 12 years, although she has been running all over her career, she should have feelings, just hiding from her. Just when she was pulling Xiao Jie to make buns together, she suddenly said without warning, "Am I a failure to make buns?" The divorce of the mother, the divorce of the two daughters, did you all learn from me? How can the women of our family not live a peaceful and stable life of An antaitai?"
The original is the thick line of Xiao Jie, by her sentimentality all at once, said that Xiao Min has a companion, the man named Chen Zhuo has also divorced, five years older than Xiao Min, less than five in his early forties, and now an Internet company as a department director, has a daughter, the age is similar to Jia Jun, in high school.
Getting the information she wanted, she continued to steam buns, but her thoughts were turning rapidly, and she understood that the reason why the eldest daughter was hiding from herself was nothing more than this age, and she was fighting for a career, if she did not plan to have a substantive breakthrough, there was no need to say. But she did not intend to let go of Xiao Min, her eldest daughter looked at the cold face cold heart, but in fact, a hot intestine, looking at Wen Jing soft and weak, in fact, it was strong and tenacious. Maybe the last marriage was her eyes off, but this time she must make a good calculation, and being an evil person beforehand is always much more useful than being distressed afterwards.
It's just that for Xiao Min, she can't follow the trick of setting Xiao Jie's words, first use the strategy of adjusting the tiger away from the mountain to separate Xiao Jie, and then open the door with Xiao Min, and then get Xiao Min's positive answer, she will say in passing, "It is good not to get married, in your case, you should be cautious about remarrying." You think mom can't keep up with the times? In your case, you are all divorced, you all have children, your children are so old, you all have your own work, circles, families, and how to integrate? easy? I thought, you have to be able to have a companion, be able to communicate, and mentally solve the problem. Spell the fork, spell the fork. ”
Yes, she said very directly, on the word "spelling fork", she mentioned it in front of Xiao Min and Xiao Jie, but Xiao Jie did not understand the meaning, but Xiao Min understood. Spelling fork is the dialect of the old family, which means similar to: 姘頭. Not a legal couple, but like a husband and wife, it is about equal to a lover. A good family woman like her who has been able to sit upright all her life. Morally, it is not worth fighting for forks.
However, it is not as easy to talk about the matter of entering the city for the second time, it is not as good as now, standing on the edge of the siege, attacking and retreating. Therefore, for the eldest daughter who has always been calculating, she has pointed out. But still as a mother, he comforted, "You gave birth to a son, and there are a few men so generous that they will help you raise your son, and after that, the family is older and has your own blessings." "This sounds like telling a harem story, quite a taste of motherhood and child-worthiness."
As a mother, she is bent on hoping for her daughter's career to be smooth and her marriage happy, but if she can't do so, she is not discouraged. Just like when she was working in a textile factory and had a bad lumbar spine, she also gritted her teeth and insisted. Life is like this, if you don't advance, you will retreat, when your ex-husband is drunk and beats people, if you don't have a decisive divorce, you have the legend of this life, not to mention the daughters of the two who are flying yellow.
Two faces
For the eldest daughter's boyfriend Chen Zhuo, she has always maintained a curious but not blind attitude, because she knows that sooner or later this man will take the initiative to show up, if she still blindly hides under the premise that she knows, then there is nothing to continue. Besides, the eldest daughter's vision is still online, this point is with her, otherwise she would not have separated her name "Min" into a word, the purpose is to hope that the eldest daughter will be a woman with a heart.
Fortunately, Chen Zhuo is also an interesting person, after the next day he took the initiative to invite her family to dinner, although this meeting is basically equivalent to determining the relationship, but she still has to help her daughter support the field, long eyes, and she is an elder, and calm, even if she can't change anything, she must leave a weighty impression on Chen Zhuo, not to say that her old Liu family is no one.
Drawing on the opinions of her two daughters, she finally decided to give Chen Zhuo two greeting gifts, one was Xiao Jie's suggestion of iron walnuts, but she specifically explained that she had brought it from her hometown, and that she had nothing to do with the hand, which was good for the brain and good for the body; the other was a belt, a waist protector, a divine vitality belt, and good for the body. Both are health care products, and it is the care of her elders for the young people's bodies.
After receiving Chen Zhuo's return gift, she said directly, "In fact, I just heard about Xiao Min's situation, and I was against it. So mention slipping, women suffer losses, there is no guarantee, like doing temporary workers, in two years, men say that there is no way to change people. She knew that she was very embarrassed to say this, and it was the exact opposite of what she said to Xiao Min at home, but she had to say it.
Although Chen Zhuo responded that when the two individual sons and daughters were older and self-reliant, they would formally go through the formalities, but this kind of assurance was the same as not saying, and no one could say anything about it in a few years. So, she specifically mentioned two adult children, not only big ideas, but also in the rebellious period, more resistance to their things together.
In particular, the second daughter Xiao Jie also added a sentence: "Take it slowly, little by little, the moisturizer is silent, people are emotional animals, for a long time, I think it is deeper than the feelings of the marriage certificate." This made her even more upset, and she didn't want to criticize directly, "That's the old society, don't underestimate the role of fame, if the name is not right, it is not smooth." ”
In fact, she could not have expressed her attitude so directly, and she also supported the two to be boyfriend and girlfriend temporarily, not to mention that she did not have the conditions for marriage now. But she had to hang a knife over their heads, both of them were not confused about age, and they were both experienced, and many words were not directly broken, but the hairband had to be tightened.
Chen Zhuo, the boyfriend of the eldest daughter, on the whole, she is still satisfied, people are very shrewd, although not a rich and noble person, but there is still talent, in the future really together, will not eat her daughter, and the other party only has a daughter, compared to the son, the pressure is also a little smaller. Besides, the two have been together for 3 years, and the feelings must be there, otherwise they would have been separated a long time ago.
The reason why she has two faces before and after her daughter and the man is to let the young people understand that the relationship between the two is a small matter, but it rises to the level of parents, that is, the big thing of the two families. It is not so simple to break up, especially not like the second daughter, divorced is almost swept out by the husband's family, even the youth loss fee did not get a point, fell a second marriage head to bear the name of the profit.
But her thinking has long kept pace with the times, and the reputation of the second marriage invitation is not so good, but she cannot choose to settle for it, so she adjusts her current attitude to not refuse.
Especially at the door of the hotel that Chen Zhuo sent them out, the one who stared at the second daughter Xiao Jie in a stunned way, one meter and eight heads, Fang Zhengzheng had a face full of righteousness called Xu Zheng's young man appear, she could see at a glance that this man was interesting to Xiao Jie, and it was a handshake, and it was to be reunited.
In fact, she was also happy in her heart, thanks to the fact that the two daughters looked like themselves, or the second marriage she did not hold out hope as a mother, so she said to the second daughter seriously, "Don't be discouraged, there are still opportunities, but not much, come to seize." ”
Wang Sumin is the most realistic mother, and she also pays her heart and lungs for her daughter, but she also has her own principled side. For marriage, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, she maintains a positive and prepared attitude, and optimizes the existing conditions as much as possible. For her daughter, she can be gentle and comforting, or she can be serious and cold-faced; for the man, she is even more blunt, but she is also interesting and interesting, and strives to prevent anyone from getting off the stage.
Many times, as children, I always feel that my parents' thinking is too old-fashioned, and I don't know that my parents want to insist on only one thing: that is, the happiness of their children. I have heard a saying that the marriage that the parents do not agree with must not be married, and the marriage that the parents insist on does not necessarily have to be married. For parents, they are not more with the trend of the younger generation, nor can they change in time, but it cannot be denied that they look at people's old and fierce, singing red face is not their specialty, but for the sake of their children, red and white face is their loving heart.
I hope that young you can read the hearts of your parents and cherish the hearts of your parents.